Easy & Quick to dislike someone?

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Karlon

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By course, all Christians will act immediately on severe misbehavior by someone when a person is a drunk, addict, known criminal, troublemaker, gossiper, etc. But do you dislike someone easy & quick for lesser reasons? Like someone who interrupts constantly while you are speaking, someone dominating a conversation, someone who is very defensive or gets offended easily, a person who is always late for appointments, a lazy person, an "above" normal selfish person, someone never saying "thank you"? And any human characteristic you can think of. I certainly dislike anyone easily & quickly with such characteristics & will not be their friend. Yes, I'm more of an old timer with very strict rules, being prompt, responsible, accountable, reliable, and I am known around here to be an extreme person, meaning there's no "in-betweens" with me, something is either this or that. for example, i'm not the guy who says, "well, he kind-a was trying" or "hey, she's a good girl, so what she has been arrested 5 times & drinks a lot". Thank you for all of your input on this.
 
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To your list I would add holier than thou types, and those that let you know that they are better than you and smarter than you. Don't really care for condescending types either. Or those that delight in the pain others as they believe that makes them appear well in the eyes to those that don't know better.
 
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tourist said:
To your list I would add holier than thou types, and those that let you know that they are better than you and smarter than you. Don't really care for condescending types either. Or those that delight in the pain others as they believe that makes them appear well in the eyes to those that don't know better.
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well & appropriately mentioned. 1st Samuel 16:7!
 
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Karlon said:
By course, all Christians will act immediately on severe misbehavior by someone when a person is a drunk, addict, known criminal, troublemaker, gossiper, etc. But do you dislike someone easy & quick for lesser reasons? Like someone who interrupts constantly while you are speaking, someone dominating a conversation, someone who is very defensive or gets offended easily, a person who is always late for appointments, a lazy person, an "above" normal selfish person, someone never saying "thank you"? And any human characteristic you can think of. I certainly dislike anyone easily & quickly with such characteristics & will not be their friend. Yes, I'm more of an old timer with very strict rules, being prompt, responsible, accountable, reliable, and I am known around here to be an extreme person, meaning there's no "in-betweens" with me, something is either this or that. for example, i'm not the guy who says, "well, he kind-a was trying" or "hey, she's a good girl, so what she has been arrested 5 times & drinks a lot". Thank you for all of your input on this.
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Yes there are many things I find annoying. Sometimes there are things I do myself, but I find annoying when other people do them.

You either learn to live with being annoyed with people, or you start correcting everybody around you and quickly annoy everyone else.
 
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Yes there are many things I find annoying. Sometimes there are things I do myself, but I find annoying when other people do them.

You either learn to live with being annoyed with people, or you start correcting everybody around you and quickly annoy everyone else.
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i allow only a short time to be annoyed by people. 2, 3, or maybe 4 times & then i'm gone. jokingly, i correct my wife because she doesn't explain things well as if you have to be a mind reader & she greatly dislikes that. she says i have trouble discerning what people say. well, as someone once said of me here on CC, i do explain in detail.
 
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Karlon said:
i allow only a short time to be annoyed by people. 2, 3, or maybe 4 times & then i'm gone. jokingly, i correct my wife because she doesn't explain things well as if you have to be a mind reader & she greatly dislikes that. she says i have trouble discerning what people say. well, as someone once said of me here on CC, i do explain in detail.
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I suppose you could do that.

OR...

You could turn it into an opportunity for marvelous entertainment. Sometimes people's annoying traits can be leveraged for amusement.
 
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I suppose you could do that.

OR...

You could turn it into an opportunity for marvelous entertainment. Sometimes people's annoying traits can be leveraged for amusement.
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datzphunnneee! hear from u later Lynx, gone for the day to the Adirondacks for antique hunting!
 
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I’ll be honest I really hate crime… so when a person or group commits crime that etc. it really bothers me… and it’s hard for me not to generalize which I know is not right. So Lord, forgive me help me love the people, but not the sin.


Amen
 
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Karlon said:
By course, all Christians will act immediately on severe misbehavior by someone when a person is a drunk, addict, known criminal, troublemaker, gossiper, etc. But do you dislike someone easy & quick for lesser reasons? Like someone who interrupts constantly while you are speaking, someone dominating a conversation, someone who is very defensive or gets offended easily, a person who is always late for appointments, a lazy person, an "above" normal selfish person, someone never saying "thank you"? And any human characteristic you can think of. I certainly dislike anyone easily & quickly with such characteristics & will not be their friend. Yes, I'm more of an old timer with very strict rules, being prompt, responsible, accountable, reliable, and I am known around here to be an extreme person, meaning there's no "in-betweens" with me, something is either this or that. for example, i'm not the guy who says, "well, he kind-a was trying" or "hey, she's a good girl, so what she has been arrested 5 times & drinks a lot". Thank you for all of your input on this.
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After reading this, it seems I'm an old timer too :unsure:
 
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Lynx said:
I suppose you could do that.

OR...

You could turn it into an opportunity for marvelous entertainment. Sometimes people's annoying traits can be leveraged for amusement.
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Let's roll with that happy thought. :p
 
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Karlon said:
By course, all Christians will act immediately on severe misbehavior by someone when a person is a drunk, addict, known criminal, troublemaker, gossiper, etc. But do you dislike someone easy & quick for lesser reasons? Like someone who interrupts constantly while you are speaking, someone dominating a conversation, someone who is very defensive or gets offended easily, a person who is always late for appointments, a lazy person, an "above" normal selfish person, someone never saying "thank you"? And any human characteristic you can think of. I certainly dislike anyone easily & quickly with such characteristics & will not be their friend. Yes, I'm more of an old timer with very strict rules, being prompt, responsible, accountable, reliable, and I am known around here to be an extreme person, meaning there's no "in-betweens" with me, something is either this or that. for example, i'm not the guy who says, "well, he kind-a was trying" or "hey, she's a good girl, so what she has been arrested 5 times & drinks a lot". Thank you for all of your input on this.
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I just avoid troublesome people. But I suppose not everyone has the option.
If they can't be decent I don't want them around.
 
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Karlon said:
By course, all Christians will act immediately on severe misbehavior by someone when a person is a drunk, addict, known criminal, troublemaker, gossiper, etc. But do you dislike someone easy & quick for lesser reasons? Like someone who interrupts constantly while you are speaking, someone dominating a conversation, someone who is very defensive or gets offended easily, a person who is always late for appointments, a lazy person, an "above" normal selfish person, someone never saying "thank you"? And any human characteristic you can think of. I certainly dislike anyone easily & quickly with such characteristics & will not be their friend. Yes, I'm more of an old timer with very strict rules, being prompt, responsible, accountable, reliable, and I am known around here to be an extreme person, meaning there's no "in-betweens" with me, something is either this or that. for example, i'm not the guy who says, "well, he kind-a was trying" or "hey, she's a good girl, so what she has been arrested 5 times & drinks a lot". Thank you for all of your input on this.
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I make assumptions about people instantly, but I'm still nice to the person. However may stay away from them depending.

For example people who were arrested, on drugs, dui's, etc I recognize easily and they're not my people bc essentially they're very selfish. Dui means you openly put other people's lives in danger for your own selfish reason or addiction. Drug addict means I can't trust you not to steal from me.

I'm very good at reading people. I instantly just know how they are, but with a quick conversation can tell just about everything about them. I can feel their energy. I'm not tricked easily..... what I notice is that when people have hurt me it's typically bc I ignored my initial gut feeling. And people bounce back and forth. I give people chances if they apologize, etc. But still have boundaries. I can often tell when people are lying to me. And if it happens more than once in a conversation or if I think they have ill intentions about it (bc people lie to be liked too) I will let it go to an extent. Otherwise I try to stay away from liars as typically you're going to see psychopathic behaviors if it's constant.

I've always been good at reading people, even as a child and it has saved my life. I think it's important to teach strange behavior to kids, but otherwise I just feel their energy. I use to get stress hives around someone who was later arrested for child m. Luckily my mom always listened to me, but nothing happened to me.

You feel energy too that's why in a dream you run from someone and you don't know who. It's their energy you're running from. But in real life people carry energy too. As an adult I pay close attention to their words as well. Strange language is a sign of deception. And common sense helps.

From a Christian perspective I think it's important to reach out to everyone, but from a boundaries perspective you don't have to be friends with them. What happens is you become an enabler, which is not helpful for either person. They will feed off your kind energy or worse manipulate and abuse you.

I don't care about little things, being late, interrupting, lazy, even being a little more selfish. Those are all things that can explained (busy season, adhd, being young,etc). I give people a chance and I'll accept them as we all have our flaws.
 
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I make assumptions about people instantly, but I'm still nice to the person. However may stay away from them depending.

For example people who were arrested, on drugs, dui's, etc I recognize easily and they're not my people bc essentially they're very selfish. Dui means you openly put other people's lives in danger for your own selfish reason or addiction. Drug addict means I can't trust you not to steal from me.

I'm very good at reading people. I instantly just know how they are, but with a quick conversation can tell just about everything about them. I can feel their energy. I'm not tricked easily..... what I notice is that when people have hurt me it's typically bc I ignored my initial gut feeling. And people bounce back and forth. I give people chances if they apologize, etc. But still have boundaries. I can often tell when people are lying to me. And if it happens more than once in a conversation or if I think they have ill intentions about it (bc people lie to be liked too) I will let it go to an extent. Otherwise I try to stay away from liars as typically you're going to see psychopathic behaviors if it's constant.

I've always been good at reading people, even as a child and it has saved my life. I think it's important to teach strange behavior to kids, but otherwise I just feel their energy. I use to get stress hives around someone who was later arrested for child m. Luckily my mom always listened to me, but nothing happened to me.

You feel energy too that's why in a dream you run from someone and you don't know who. It's their energy you're running from. But in real life people carry energy too. As an adult I pay close attention to their words as well. Strange language is a sign of deception. And common sense helps.

From a Christian perspective I think it's important to reach out to everyone, but from a boundaries perspective you don't have to be friends with them. What happens is you become an enabler, which is not helpful for either person. They will feed off your kind energy or worse manipulate and abuse you.

I don't care about little things, being late, interrupting, lazy, even being a little more selfish. Those are all things that can explained (busy season, adhd, being young,etc). I give people a chance and I'll accept them as we all have our flaws.
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that's an eye opener! we share the same talent for reading people. my mind races about characteristics of people i meet. neat how within 3 seconds of meeting someone, you know whether you are going to like him or her. &, 90% of the time, your 1st instincts on someone is correct. common clues easily noted are self gratification, affective disorder & compensation defense mechanism. it is so interesting to read people, just fascinating. oh yes, try to reach out & witness, need. i definitely act on the smaller issue more than the average person. yes, that's me, an old timer, tough minded strict guy. but i am greatly disciplined by it, i get things done now, never later. that's a behooving posting, blueluna5!
 
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