struggling with singleness

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MsMediator

MsMediator

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Westward said:
Too much suffering in this world I wouldn't want to bring innocent souls into this without their permission. Just my personal view on it
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I have thought like this sometimes, as there is a lot of sin and suffering in this world. For the childless person, this view can sometimes provide relief as we are not introducing someone into this world. However, now I generally believe that one should follow what naturally happens. If a couple falls in love, they should get married, and if they have kids, so be it. All this within reason, as long as the couple is financially able. I don't think a couple should intentionally have kids and have others/taxpayers help pay for the increasing number of children. Is this view in line with Christianity? Certain scenarios are more understandable, such as with the single mom who was unexpectedly divorced or spoused passed away, etc. (widows, orphans, etc.).
 
shittim

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"falling in love", may be a decision based on emotion, not reason. We are to take all things to Him for His guidance, He always has the best plan, too many rely on emotion, feelings change, finding His plan for our lives and walking it out doesn't. Could this be why the divorce rate is so high in the
U.S.?
 
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Knew of a lady from India, 5th generation Christian family, her parents selected her husband when she was a child, she said "you grow in love, not fall in love".
 
MsMediator

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shittim said:
Knew of a lady from India, 5th generation Christian family, her parents selected her husband when she was a child, she said "you grow in love, not fall in love".
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Same with western marriages, I think there are both loving and loveless arranged marriages. It is really dependent on how the husband is in the arranged marriages (is he abusive, is he nice, etc.), the wives are more or less the same being submissive.
 
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Had mine, that season of life is over, grand babies are growing and grown (2) and are a joy here and will be in eternity.
Any want a person has to nurture provide love can be expressed 24/7/365 in a multitude of areas as He gives direction.The world is full of opportunities to share the love of our Lord and Savior.
blessings
 
Magenta

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Wait4me said:
I don't have the desire to want kids.
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Bringing up children is one of the biggest of all responsibilities a person can take on, and if it is not for you? Kudos to you for admitting it. Many grow up just assuming it is what they want, but the reality of raising kids and having a family of your own can be vastly different from the fantasy... also, your name reminds me of when I was a kid... I come from a family of eleven children, and so as we grew up we moved through different bedrooms in our family home. For instance, when I was very small but out of a crib, as younger sisters came along, three of us slept in the same bed. Then as I got a little older, I moved into a bedroom where I slept with my next oldest sister. That room had a window that faced looking out onto the sidewalk angling away, and sometimes when I saw someone walking up the street, I would call out from the window, "Hey, wait for me!" I always got a kick out of when the person stopped and looked around for the person wanting them to wait. Sometimes they would wait a few seconds, and then carry on. LOL. Thanks for reminding me! I still laugh about it...
 
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Wait4me said:
I've been single for over a year and I sometimes need to be reminded that I'm not alone.
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Hi
I'm Mark new on here, yes you're right, you're not alone as long you have christ in your life.. and know that He do care for you no matter the situation and struggle.. have a blessed weekend
 
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