Well....I wonder how many gals are going to fit your idea of not being 'low hanging fruit'? Sounds like this idea could vastly limit your prospects . How beautiful are you contemplating? It also may sound to some a burden of needing to get along with a family you don't as much. I applaud you putting your preferences out there, and I hope there's gals that feel they could manage and/or qualify re your list.
I would like to think simple Christian chemistry with another person at some function would suffice as starters. Maybe adjust the list and be open to the Holy Spirit guiding you. I personally think true Christian people are beautiful bc it comes from the heart, the love of Christ in them. Also, what your Pastor said had to be a joke, there are many many fine girls desiring a family, just scroll the previous pages here and see. God bless you with the perfect gal for you, IJNA🙏✝