Let's Have a Very Controversial Conversation About: Haircuts! Do You Want Your Barber/Hairdresser to Talk to You the Whole Time?

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God seems to like white hair according to the Bible thats a crown of glory.

Ok better shut up now. When I post on CC I just get random thoughts that don't make sense...
 
Mullets..

No..Ok I have another story. I admired this other girls hair, it was black and straight and glossy so I asked her what her secret was. She said her boyfriend/partner cut it and she used this hair mask, and also a hair straightener. I already had lots of products so I didn't need to buy another hair mask. But I didn't have a hair straightener. So we went shopping for a hair straightener and we found a cheap one at Kmart.
I was excited to use this hair straightener and liked how it made my hair look glossier and not frizzy.

Well the second time I used it, it would not heat up and it just stayed cold. I had to take it back to Kmart and get a refund. So my hair is back to frizz.

arrgh.
 
When i was a child I had an uncle who had a barbershop....
But it also was surrounded and filled with empty glass jars.....

Oh it had a great chair in it and a thingy with all the combs in blue liquid.....and scissors.

Lots of People came by and a haircut took less than 5 minutes. And sometimes the place had a funny smell. (Moonshine)
It was in a dry county in the middle of nowhere in the country.

However....I don't want a guy cutting my hair. Too many homosexuals in the industry. I'm not overly fond of a woman rubbing on me while cutting either.
 
When i was a child I had an uncle who had a barbershop....
But it also was surrounded and filled with empty glass jars.....

Oh it had a great chair in it and a thingy with all the combs in blue liquid.....and scissors.

Lots of People came by and a haircut took less than 5 minutes. And sometimes the place had a funny smell. (Moonshine)
It was in a dry county in the middle of nowhere in the country.

However....I don't want a guy cutting my hair. Too many homosexuals in the industry. I'm not overly fond of a woman rubbing on me while cutting either.
I'm pretty sure the guy that dyed and cut my hair was gay/homosexual. He did want me to open up and spill the beans of my personal life to him but I just didn't feel like talking about my life to a complete stranger that day.

I do think some women feel safer with a gay man cutting their hair tho because he won't hit on them, and they usually flatter women (to get business) I suppose.
But for men of course that is dangerous territory. However I don't know if there are many female barbers? If there are, would they be lesbians? Would a straight man feel safer with a lesbian cutting their hair? Or is it just when you are in the barber chair, you just wouldn't hit on a woman, after all they have the scissors. They could cut other parts off not just your hair.
 
I'm pretty sure the guy that dyed and cut my hair was gay/homosexual. He did want me to open up and spill the beans of my personal life to him but I just didn't feel like talking about my life to a complete stranger that day.

I do think some women feel safer with a gay man cutting their hair tho because he won't hit on them, and they usually flatter women (to get business) I suppose.
But for men of course that is dangerous territory. However I don't know if there are many female barbers? If there are, would they be lesbians? Would a straight man feel safer with a lesbian cutting their hair? Or is it just when you are in the barber chair, you just wouldn't hit on a woman, after all they have the scissors. They could cut other parts off not just your hair.

No....here in the US most barbers are women anymore. They aren't homosexual or bisexual. (That I know of)
However....I just don't like their chests shoved into my face or shoulders or them straddling my knees. I only enjoy letting my wife get so close to me physically. Anyone else is just extremely uncomfortable. I don't know them or like them in that way.

I never was one for playing Twister either.
 
It's hard to find a good barber. The one I go to now is female. I prefer female, but that's probably because my mom was a beautician and always cut my hair until I joined the army.
I have to make an appointment. No big deal.
I talk too much, so it doesn't matter much if she does it not.
 
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I asked another friend where she got her hair done and she said her son's girlfriend's mum now does it.
But she was wearing a pink wig the other night, bought from Temu, so, sometimes she does it herself.

I forgot to get her dresser's business card tho. I am hopeless at dyeing my hair, it's ok at the front but have no idea what a disaster it may look at the back. I used red henna, and now it's turned copper orangey.
 
Hey Everyone,

I enjoy listening to a few social commentary channels on YouTube, and one of the latest topics has been about barber shops. The first wave of commentary was about how some barbers are charging $100 a cut because they say their skills are worth it, with owners saying they were providing a first-rate, luxury experience at their shops.

Then came the inevitable fallout, with footage of now-empty shops. Former customers said there was no way they were paying that kind of money for a cut, and many men stated several reasons things they didn't like about "modern" barber shops.

Two things that stood out to me was when they said they didn't like having to make appointments (I guess traditional barber shops were mostly walk-in's?) As a woman, I've almost always made appointments for haircuts, unless I just stopped into a place like Supercuts on a whim. And the second thing was that some of the younger men said they didn't like barbers who talked during the entire cut. One young man said he had to listen to people yap all day, so he just wanted a barber to stay silent and cut his hair, plain and simple.

However, as the video host (a wise, middle-aged black man) pointed out, the chatter and camaraderie found at many traditional barber shops was an integral part of the whole social and cultural experience. It made sad to see this brand of community dying out.

And it also got me wondering what other people are doing about getting their hair cut.

I normally post "Let's Have a Controversial Conversation" threads in the Family Forum, and while everyone is welcome to answer this thread, I'm especially interested in what singles think about getting their hair cut.

For many of us singles, this is the only times another human being has physical contact with us. And no, I'm certainly not trying to make this into something weird or perverse, but I know for me, it can feel very strange to have someone get close enough to touch my hair -- which is why I prefer to keep going back to a hairdresser I'm comfortable with.

I always choose to go to a female hairdresser. I did go to a Supercuts-type place and was given a male hairdresser years ago, and it felt strange. Not because I somehow don't trust men and definitely not because I don't like men (some of my best friends are men!), but touching my hair feels very personal, and so I have a "regular" gal that I go to. Because I've gotten to know and trust her, I now find getting my hair washed and cut to be very relaxing.

Does anyone else feel the same way? Maybe it's just me. But does anyone else find getting their hair done a little a little bit uncomfortable, because it's close contact you're not used to?

And since haircuts have become outrageously expensive, I'm really interested in hearing what other people are doing to find an affordable hair salon winter garden.

* How much do you generally pay for a haircut/color/style, and how often? Do you do your hair yourself, or do you have someone else do it for free? Do you have any recommendations for bargains on haircuts? (I've always heard beauty colleges are cheap because students need someone to practice one, but have never lived near one to check it out.)

* Do you prefer to go to a male or female stylist? Any particular reason?

* Do you have to make an appointment, or do you find appointments to be a hassle?

* Do you feel uncomfortable at all with someone, especially a stranger, touching your hair?

* Do you prefer a chatty stylist, or one who won't say a word?

Getting our hair done can seem like a rather mundane part of life -- but I'm very interested in the different experiences, costs, and opinions people have about how it should go. 💈💇🏼‍♂️🪮
I agree that a lot of it comes down to comfort and familiarity. I prefer having a regular stylist because once you know the person, the whole experience feels much more relaxed. I don't mind some conversation either, but I wouldn't want someone talking nonstop throughout the entire haircut. I actually prefer appointments because I don't like sitting around waiting, although I understand why people miss the old walk-in barber shop experience. There's definitely something special about the social atmosphere those places used to have. As for price, I think $100 for a basic haircut is excessive. I'm happy to pay for quality work, but there has to be a reasonable balance between good service and an inflated "luxury" experience.
 
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If I were a guy and went to the barbers, I'd demand everyone sing in their barbershop quartet to me while I'm getting a number 2.
 
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No....here in the US most barbers are women anymore. They aren't homosexual or bisexual. (That I know of)
However....I just don't like their chests shoved into my face or shoulders or them straddling my knees. I only enjoy letting my wife get so close to me physically. Anyone else is just extremely uncomfortable. I don't know them or like them in that way.

I never was one for playing Twister either.
we have an establishment around here in which all women work as beauticians. i get my hair done there cuz they do the best job. i know what you mean. they have to get close & their tops are touching you. some try to be more touchy, it seems, or it's just them trying to do their best job. i ignore them well as a Christian should. but we men certainly notice it.
 
I cut my own hair.

When I use to go to Hair Cuttery and the lime, I'd let the stylist set the stage. If they liked to talk I'd talk with them. If they preferred quiet,so did I.
 
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Growing up in the country, most of us did everything ourselves or for each other. My family was a sink or swim family lol. When I was about 13, my grandmother sit down and handed me a pair of hair cutting scissors.
Gram: "Cut my hair."
Me: "Uh, I don't know how to cut hair."
Gram: "It's not hard. Now, just do it."
Me: "What if I mess your hair up?!"
She impatiently and sternly told me to cut her hair. So, I did. I guess I successfully pulled it off, because after that, three other people in the family started having me cut their hair and one had me cut their dog's hair. After I left the country and moved into town to the edge of the country, my mother still would come over and have me cut her hair until she passed away. She'd call me up like she was making a hair appointment. She'd sit under the shade tree while I cut her hair and we'd have bubbly conversation about what had been going on in the country lately.

Anyway, I used to go to a gentleman at a salon to get a shampoo and cut. He was highly recommended by my 2 closest friends at the time. I was enjoying having a hair stylist. I had short hair back then. Unfortunately, I think his wife drove him to drink and he eventually quit this occupation. We were all bummed. I tried a few stylists after this and ran into a lady that I really liked. She was leaving that salon to start her own business and I wasn't able to find her number.
Not long after this, I decided to grow my hair out and now my hair has gotten quite long. I cut my dead ends and that's about the extent of my current hair cutting process.

When I have gone to a salon, I do like conversation while the person is cutting my hair. The two stylists that I mentioned above both were chatty. I would have felt kinda odd if they didn't converse with me. I'm not against those that don't, I'd just prefer conversation.
 
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Hey Everyone,

I enjoy listening to a few social commentary channels on YouTube, and one of the latest topics has been about barber shops. The first wave of commentary was about how some barbers are charging $100 a cut because they say their skills are worth it, with owners saying they were providing a first-rate, luxury experience at their shops.

Then came the inevitable fallout, with footage of now-empty shops. Former customers said there was no way they were paying that kind of money for a cut, and many men stated several reasons things they didn't like about "modern" barber shops.

Two things that stood out to me was when they said they didn't like having to make appointments (I guess traditional barber shops were mostly walk-in's?) As a woman, I've almost always made appointments for haircuts, unless I just stopped into a place like Supercuts on a whim. And the second thing was that some of the younger men said they didn't like barbers who talked during the entire cut. One young man said he had to listen to people yap all day, so he just wanted a barber to stay silent and cut his hair, plain and simple.

However, as the video host (a wise, middle-aged black man) pointed out, the chatter and camaraderie found at many traditional barber shops was an integral part of the whole social and cultural experience. It made sad to see this brand of community dying out.

And it also got me wondering what other people are doing about getting their hair cut.

I normally post "Let's Have a Controversial Conversation" threads in the Family Forum, and while everyone is welcome to answer this thread, I'm especially interested in what singles think about getting their hair cut.

For many of us singles, this is the only times another human being has physical contact with us. And no, I'm certainly not trying to make this into something weird or perverse, but I know for me, it can feel very strange to have someone get close enough to touch my hair -- which is why I prefer to keep going back to a hairdresser I'm comfortable with.

I always choose to go to a female hairdresser. I did go to a Supercuts-type place and was given a male hairdresser years ago, and it felt strange. Not because I somehow don't trust men and definitely not because I don't like men (some of my best friends are men!), but touching my hair feels very personal, and so I have a "regular" gal that I go to. Because I've gotten to know and trust her, I now find getting my hair washed and cut to be very relaxing.

Does anyone else feel the same way? Maybe it's just me. But does anyone else find getting their hair done a little a little bit uncomfortable, because it's close contact you're not used to?

And since haircuts have become outrageously expensive, I'm really interested in hearing what other people are doing.

* How much do you generally pay for a haircut/color/style, and how often? Do you do your hair yourself, or do you have someone else do it for free? Do you have any recommendations for bargains on haircuts? (I've always heard beauty colleges are cheap because students need someone to practice one, but have never lived near one to check it out.)

* Do you prefer to go to a male or female stylist? Any particular reason?

* Do you have to make an appointment, or do you find appointments to be a hassle?

* Do you feel uncomfortable at all with someone, especially a stranger, touching your hair?

* Do you prefer a chatty stylist, or one who won't say a word?

Getting our hair done can seem like a rather mundane part of life -- but I'm very interested in the different experiences, costs, and opinions people have about how it should go. 💈💇🏼‍♂️🪮
I don't worry much about the individual cutting my hair. I do detest the hairstyle that afflicts modern man. Who decided that every man needed to look like a marine? Who looked in a mirror and decided that it looked good? IS there a woman on the planet who looks at a man hairless on the side with a few stalks sticking up at the top?

I may be biased. My dad had exactly that kind of look all his life. We did not get on, especially when I was younger. Unconscious bias?
 
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I don't understand crew cuts.

Yea everyone looks like they are a sailor for the Navy, but I think its so they can fit their head under those sailor caps.

Why can't everyone have hair like Johnny Depp did in Pirates of the Carribbean?
 
I don't understand crew cuts.

Yea everyone looks like they are a sailor for the Navy, but I think its so they can fit their head under those sailor caps.

Why can't everyone have hair like Johnny Depp did in Pirates of the Carribbean?
that was a wig, i believe
 
I don't understand crew cuts.

Yea everyone looks like they are a sailor for the Navy, but I think its so they can fit their head under those sailor caps.

Why can't everyone have hair like Johnny Depp did in Pirates of the Carribbean?
Dolf Lungren looked great in his.

And construction workers get them regularly due to those oversized hard hats...(the inside support harness pulls the hair)
Which is also why some soldiers do the same. (It's also quicker to deal with) Those hard hats have support systems to absorb strikes/hits.
 
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I don't understand crew cuts.

Yea everyone looks like they are a sailor for the Navy, but I think its so they can fit their head under those sailor caps.

Why can't everyone have hair like Johnny Depp did in Pirates of the Carribbean?
Cos it would look ridiculous. Some men can get away with long hair. Can you imagine James Bond with a mullet?
 
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I usually go to an eco-friendly hair salon because I’m pretty “green" and I prefer using natural products whenever I can. The problem is that, in our small town, getting an appointment there can be quite a challenge. They don’t work weekends and usually only work part-time during the daytime, so when you have a regular job, finding a time that actually works can feel like a small miracle.

That’s why I eventually taught myself to dye my hair with henna. It’s a rather messy business and my bathroom has definitely seen better days because of it! But after doing it for years, I’ve become surprisingly good at it. And the best part? I save about €100 every single time I do it myself, so I’ve learned to accept the mess as part of the deal.

These days, though, I’ve stopped coloring my hair altogether and decided to let my natural color come back. And you know what? I actually really like it! It’s quite beautiful in its own way. I’ve also started growing my hair long, which I’ve wanted to do for a long time. So now I’m saving money simply by leaving my hair alone. That might be the cheapest haircare routine of all!

And when it comes to cutting hair, I’ve been doing that myself for quite a while, too. Twenty-six years ago, I taught myself how to cut men’s hair and I’ve been cutting all my sons’ hair ever since, as well as their dad’s. He never wanted to go to a barber anyway, so he was perfectly happy to let me practice on him.

So I suppose I’ve spent quite a few years finding creative ways to avoid expensive trips to the hairdresser. And honestly, I don’t mind at all. There’s something rather satisfying about being able to do these things yourself.
 
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