Today, there are 156 million adults in America who are identified “Un-churched”; they do not attend regularly. In truth, 77% of these people are not “Un-churched,” they are “De-churched”. At one time they did attend regularly.
More than half of these people report actively seeking something better spiritually than they experienced in church.
The reasons given for rejecting the church are:
1.Loss of belief / doubts about doctrine
2.Hypocrisy / moral failures by church leaders
3.Church is irrelevant / doesn't meet spiritual needs
4.Negative personal experiences
De-churched people report being often judged harshly by those in roles of spiritual authority. At the same time the de-churched hold a more favorable opinion of church than regular attenders. While 40% of churchgoers said the church is largely irrelevant, only 27% of the de-churched felt the same. This presents a striking alternative view:
In the non-church world, almost every successful organization goes through a routine process of assessing its strengths while clarifying its weaknesses. In business, this is essential for survival. Almost universally, the church refuses to embrace this process yet preach this same action to their flock. Aren’t acknowledgement, repentance and atonement the model for forgiveness and redemption? That’s the same model business uses, identify weaknesses, develop a plan to correct past errors and monitor that plan to successful completion. The church refuses.
When this process is suggested to church authorities, judgment, hypocrisy, and inflexibility becomes apparent. Challenging church authority is viewed as a challenge to the very foundation of Christian belief itself. The church blames a corrupt society for its woes, and blissfully continues whistling down the same path.
More than half of these people report actively seeking something better spiritually than they experienced in church.
The reasons given for rejecting the church are:
1.Loss of belief / doubts about doctrine
2.Hypocrisy / moral failures by church leaders
3.Church is irrelevant / doesn't meet spiritual needs
4.Negative personal experiences
De-churched people report being often judged harshly by those in roles of spiritual authority. At the same time the de-churched hold a more favorable opinion of church than regular attenders. While 40% of churchgoers said the church is largely irrelevant, only 27% of the de-churched felt the same. This presents a striking alternative view:
- Churched people: “I trust the church, but believe it’s irrelevant today.”
- De-churched people: “The church is still relevant, but not trustworthy.”
In the non-church world, almost every successful organization goes through a routine process of assessing its strengths while clarifying its weaknesses. In business, this is essential for survival. Almost universally, the church refuses to embrace this process yet preach this same action to their flock. Aren’t acknowledgement, repentance and atonement the model for forgiveness and redemption? That’s the same model business uses, identify weaknesses, develop a plan to correct past errors and monitor that plan to successful completion. The church refuses.
When this process is suggested to church authorities, judgment, hypocrisy, and inflexibility becomes apparent. Challenging church authority is viewed as a challenge to the very foundation of Christian belief itself. The church blames a corrupt society for its woes, and blissfully continues whistling down the same path.
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I had to leave my congregation because I married someone who is not of my denomination . 
. It wasn't a nice experience for me , I've totally forgiven them all but , I'm not sure I would want to go back . They decided they didn't like me without getting to know me first . That seems a bit rough to me . I don't mind if u get to know me then decide u don't like me 
