Look, here's the thing, what I'm trying to process is the validity of this "disenfranchised grief", i.e. griving something you expected to have but never had. In most cases it's just disappointment, your expectations were unrealistic or fictitious to begin with, such as supermodel girlfriend or millionaire boyfriend, there's a term for it called "Bovarism", named after Madame Bovary, an unhappy housewife who's daydreaming of romantic encounters all day as an escape from boring life; however, when it comes to what's considered a privation of "essential human experience", such as "touch starvation", infertility, loneliness, "nature deficit disorder" (lack of contact with plants, animals and other natural elements), fatherlessness, siblinglessness, singleness, then it is debatable on whether it's legitimate grief or just envy.