If You Had An Arranged Marriage, Do You Think Your Parents Would Be/ Would Have Been Able to Make the Best Choice for You?

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Let's Talk About Arranged Marriages.

  • I WOULD be open to an arranged marriage. (Why?)

    Votes: 1 14.3%
  • I WOULD NOT be open to an arranged marriage. (Why not?)

    Votes: 3 42.9%
  • My parents would make/have made a GREAT choice for my spouse. (Why?)

    Votes: 1 14.3%
  • My parents would make/have made a TERRIBLE choice for my spouse. (Why?)

    Votes: 4 57.1%
  • My friends would make/have made a GREAT choice for my spouse. (Why?)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • My friends would make/have made a TERRIBLE choice for my spouse. (Why?)

    Votes: 4 57.1%
  • I could choose a GREAT spouse for my child, relative, friend, etc. (Why?)

    Votes: 1 14.3%
  • I would wind up making a TERRIBLE spouse for my child, relative, friend, etc. (Why?)

    Votes: 1 14.3%
  • I think arranged marriages work out better than free choice marriages. (Why?)

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I think free choice marriages work out better than arranged marriages. (Why?)

    Votes: 3 42.9%

  • Total voters
    7
Next thread idea:"How Many Foreskins Are YOU Worth -- And Whose Would They Be?!" 🤣🤣🤣
Somehow, I'm thinking that one would get approved. 😆

OOPS, meant to say, I DON'T think this thread would be approved...

Can't imagine why!!! :cool: :cool: :cool:

(I'm guessing we'd have a lot of people interested in the topic, though!)
 
:D Don't you think terrorising some of the inferior suitors would help keep your levels to a more manageable throughput? And who's to say it needs to be the suitors making offers for you? With the kind of equity you've got, you could probably bank it for a year, and purchase a groom solely on what you collect in interest. Then of course, you could start making the book sales "Sharp investment advice with Seoulsearch", "Unexpected financial tips" or "Budget cuts - the ugly truth about investing".

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LOL!!!! 🤣🤣🤣

While I GREATLY APPRECIATE all your MOST GENEROUS compliments, Sir Charles, I'm trying to imagine putting a disclaimer on my (imaginary) dating profile saying:

"In order to try to make the VAST AMOUNT OF SUITORS I get MORE MANAGEABLE, I regret to inform my ADORING public that I shall now require MULTIPLE foreskins as a dowry. I know it will do little to cut down the MASSIVE interest, but I HAD to do SOMETHING!!" 😂😂😂


P.S. Fortunately, I learned a long time ago to never take a sip of coffee before reading your posts -- it's just going to wind up being spat out all over my laptop screen!! 🤣
 
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I don't know of any arranged marriages in my family, not as far back as I've been able to research.
Anyway, do I think my family and/or friends would pick the right spouse for me? Absolutely not.

I'm not here to say what's best from one culture or the next concerning arranged marriages, but I do not believe anyone could choose the right person for me.

My parents weren't partial to me getting married, especially my father. My grandparents weren't partial to me getting married either. My parents didn't want grandkids (which was a relief to me). I'm not saying they prevented or forbid me from marriage/having children! I mean that they advised me to be wise about this decision. From a young age my father drilled into my head, "Girl, think for yourself!" Perhaps my independent brain (thanks dad! lol) has kept me from marriage thus far.
As a young girl, I didn't enjoying shows where the princess married the prince. I preferred watching Captain Kirk, or Dirty Harry taking down bad guys with my dad 🔫

An arranged marriage would not be/have been for me.
The Lord knows who can handle the Chieftess. The figurative arrow He will direct (or has directed) appropriately <----<< 🪶
 
I don't know of any arranged marriages in my family, not as far back as I've been able to research.
Anyway, do I think my family and/or friends would pick the right spouse for me? Absolutely not.

I'm not here to say what's best from one culture or the next concerning arranged marriages, but I do not believe anyone could choose the right person for me.

My parents weren't partial to me getting married, especially my father. My grandparents weren't partial to me getting married either. My parents didn't want grandkids (which was a relief to me). I'm not saying they prevented or forbid me from marriage/having children! I mean that they advised me to be wise about this decision. From a young age my father drilled into my head, "Girl, think for yourself!" Perhaps my independent brain (thanks dad! lol) has kept me from marriage thus far.
As a young girl, I didn't enjoying shows where the princess married the prince. I preferred watching Captain Kirk, or Dirty Harry taking down bad guys with my dad 🔫

An arranged marriage would not be/have been for me.
The Lord knows who can handle the Chieftess. The figurative arrow He will direct (or has directed) appropriately <----<< 🪶

I absolutely love your post!

Thank you so much for taking the time to share!

I have a good friend who, although she has what would be called a "happy Christian marriage," told me, "We got married because that's the only choice (in Lutheran school) we were ever given." She told me that if I'm ok being single, she would not recommend getting married.

And she's been married for decades, so it's not like she's a newbie.

I love that your family realized, and taught you, that marriage, while wonderful and indeed a gift from God, isn't necessarily the only or right path for everyone.

I truly wish there was more recognition of that in the church -- I think it would save people a lot of heartache.

In my early years on CC, I was around a lot of singles who, trying to put it politely, were desperate to get married, because society and the church had made it into the end all, be all -- and tried to say that one's life was worthless or inferior if they never got married. There is little to no recognition that a single life can also be just as God-pleasing, and even fulfilling -- for some. Not all, but some.

I don't think the church as a whole realizes how much the push for marriage above all else amplifies feelings of depression and feelings "I have to get married at any cost" -- and many of us singles have seen/lived through the disastrous results.

Many kudos to your family for preventing you from falling into this pitfall! 💖
 
OOPS, meant to say, I DON'T think this thread would be approved...

Can't imagine why!!! :cool: :cool: :cool:

(I'm guessing we'd have a lot of people interested in the topic, though!)
Oops. I did try with your suggested title and a reference to the bible passage. But I think you might be right above (not below). The proposed wasn't as literary genius as your threads usually are, though, anyway. :p

Next thread idea:

"How Many Foreskins Are YOU Worth -- And Whose Would They Be?!" 🤣🤣🤣

Somehow, I'm thinking that one would get approved. 😆
 
Oops. I did try with your suggested title and a reference to the bible passage. But I think you might be right above (not below). The proposed wasn't as literary genius as your threads usually are, though, anyway. :p

We appreciate you taking one for the team, @Charlesiii!!!

And good job with including the Bible passage -- I MUST write myself a reminder of this ingenious strategy!!

*Note to Self: Include Bible passage -- preferably a large wall of them -- to slip past any censorship.*

BRILLIANT!!! 💡

(Thank you again for the kind words!) 💖
 
I wasn't sure if it was you or you copy-pasta your OP for charlesiii to post and let him take the flak for it, in the event of a bannage.
 
I wasn't sure if it was you or you copy-pasta your OP for charlesiii to post and let him take the flak for it, in the event of a bannage.

I will always take the flak for whatever my own actions are, thanks.

@Charlesiii made an absolutely brilliant thread, far better than any I've ever done!!! 🤩
 
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I am now deeply regretting that I ever mentioned the David/Michal courtship episode in this thread.
 
Whatever he is offering, he needs to double the price or she may give him a discount. If he has a gold card, he could maybe get 15% off.
 
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We appreciate you taking one for the team, @Charlesiii!!!

And good job with including the Bible passage -- I MUST write myself a reminder of this ingenious strategy!!

*Note to Self: Include Bible passage -- preferably a large wall of them -- to slip past any censorship.*

BRILLIANT!!! 💡

(Thank you again for the kind words!) 💖
Lol. I actually thought it hadn't been posted (it was showing crossed after I sent for review), but did want to let people know if I wasn't able to explain later.

But I think our Western society can be a little bit too "thin-skinned" when it comes to certain things. Topic is a little bit gross especially given the circumstances of collection, but in reality, not so different from toe nails, belly buttons, scalps etc. If God sees fit to include a historical account in the bible, it would be a shame for Christians to be too Puritanical discuss it. And sometimes, humour can introduce lessons or create memories we wouldn't otherwise have. (My view, anyway).
 
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I thought it was to do with circumcision anyway.
Did the Philistines convert? Maybe it was just to symbolise them making the covenant IDK

I mean didn't God tell Moses wife demand that her son be circumcised, so she did it on the spot? Apparently Moses forgot. He was meant to do it on the 8th day from his sons birth. Am not sure how old Moses son was at the time though.

Anybody got the intel from the OT and hand?
 
Jewish people call it a bris and call a mohel to perform the rite.

A mohel is like a Jewish urologist.
 
Sorry TMI

I'm sure Christians need not know useless facts like that. Stupid librarian!!
 
Lol. Judging solely by the content you post, I think it's safe to say you're worth more than your weight in foreskins, Seoulsearch. :p Not sure on how to collect, though. Would you consider substituting for Whangdoodle-skins instead?
You would have to substitute the skins. She doesn't have 200 enemies you can kill to get the foreskins. I don't think she has 20 enemies. She might have 2. Somewhere.
 
I thought it was to do with circumcision anyway.
Did the Philistines convert? Maybe it was just to symbolise them making the covenant IDK

I mean didn't God tell Moses wife demand that her son be circumcised, so she did it on the spot? Apparently Moses forgot. He was meant to do it on the 8th day from his sons birth. Am not sure how old Moses son was at the time though.

Anybody got the intel from the OT and hand?
Speaking seriously, I think the bride price for Michal being foreskins was cause most of the other nations were circumcised - the Philistines were infamous for being uncircumcised. So a foreskin was some kind of proof of killing a Philistine male (unless raiding a birthing hospital / circumcision clinic was a consideration). Also probably more convenient to carry than a head of a scalp, but I'm not sure the convenience would have outweighed the other negatives.

The reasoning for the Moses' wife/son thing is subjective other than what scripture states, so probably worth its own thread.

Jewish people call it a bris and call a mohel to perform the rite.

A mohel is like a Jewish urologist.
Or obstetrician. So is that where Brisbane in Australia got it's name from? Or that's to do with something else?

Sorry TMI

I'm sure Christians need not know useless facts like that. Stupid librarian!!
Lol. I often read some of your informative facts, Lanolin. Not always aligned with the conversation, but informative nonetheless. Librarians are not stupid. :-)
 
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Speaking seriously, I think the bride price for Michal being foreskins was cause most of the other nations were circumcised - the Philistines were infamous for being uncircumcised. So a foreskin was some kind of proof of killing a Philistine male (unless raiding a birthing hospital / circumcision clinic was a consideration). Also probably more convenient to carry than a head of a scalp, but I'm not sure the convenience would have outweighed the other negatives.

The reasoning for the Moses' wife/son thing is subjective other than what scripture states, so probably worth its own thread.


Or obstetrician. So is that where Brisbane in Australia got it's name from? Or that's to do with something else?


Lol. I often read some of your informative facts, Lanolin. Not always aligned with the conversation, but informative nonetheless. Librarians are not stupid. :-)
Circumcision was commanded to Israel (actually Abraham) as the mark of God's covenant with them, most of the other nations probably considered it rather barbaric to do that to their baby boys and weren't circumcised. But I have to admit it's not a question I generally ask people so I'm just assuming.
 
As long as it isn't female circumcision, which sadly is a thing in Africa, called FGM. Women don't actually need this, but many men do circumcise for hygiene reasons. Its best done when you are a baby though as can imagine it would be painful done when fully grown!

FGM (female genital mutilation) and practises like foot binding in 'China were designed to keep women submissive.
If you want a pound of flesh there can be other things you could sacrifice like..IDK, chickens?
 
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