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Actually, I'm glad I didn't get married and be stuck as a stay-at-home wife with a husband away at work and be bored and have nothing to do, no children or anything. I don't think that kind of life would have been much fun after the novelty of it wore off.

There's heaps of things that you can do, and nobody said you have to work all the time even with a job, you can have hobbies and things. With your own money, not an allowance like some kind of not-grown woman dependent on husband hand-outs.

You know that 'reality' show I think its called something like Housewives of Beverly Hills or something like that. I'm just like..NO. How much plastic surgery does one woman need to feel fulfilled? lol
 
Sorry if it feels like I am being inconsistient. I am figuring out more about how I truly feel as the hours and days go by and replying with however I feel in the moment
 
Oh its the whole Job thing!!

Well, Job was already rich but Satan took away everything he had, just to test him. God allowed it because God said he was a righteous man and he was going to prove Satan wrong. Job got so angry at God for not talking to him and he was really questioning his whole existence and was just about to kill himself until he had a revelation.

Have you read the book of Job? Well even if you haven't its a good story.
 
If no sugary snacks I would go make some popcorn and put on a good movie like...IDK

The Sound of Music.
 
Lanolin said:
Actually, I'm glad I didn't get married and be stuck as a stay-at-home wife with a husband away at work and be bored and have nothing to do, no children or anything. I don't think that kind of life would have been much fun after the novelty of it wore off.

There's heaps of things that you can do, and nobody said you have to work all the time even with a job, you can have hobbies and things. With your own money, not an allowance like some kind of not-grown woman dependent on husband hand-outs.

You know that 'reality' show I think its called something like Housewives of Beverly Hills or something like that. I'm just like..NO. How much plastic surgery does one woman need to feel fulfilled? lol
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You may be happy you didn't do that, but it was my dream. I had an agenda and everything by the week for my future. I was going to garden, work on my passion projects, and have time to spend with my loved ones.

I see what it is like to work 8 hours 5 days a week. You wake up, go to a job you are nuteral about or don't like, just to come home and be too tired to do anything other than watch T.V. and eat. Saturdays you need to clean or meal prep. Sunday you go to church (or at least I should). What kind of life is that? I would be very happy with a "hand-out" in exchange for my domestic work, so 40 hours a week I do housework, exercise, read my Bible, so my husband comes home and is free from having to split chores with me and he and I can spend another 40 hours a week together or with our friends or on our hobbies.
 
My go to is Gone with the Wind though and not to spoil it for you....

But the main character gets dumped. Twice!
 
SadGotDumped said:
but WHY does there have to be "something big". WHY there is no reason for God to act like my Aunt Anne and only call when someone is dying. He is supposed to be a friend!!! Why does him talking to me have to come will all these rules. He has all the time in the world. Why can't he say Hi?!? I feel like no one can answer that, and thank everyone for your attempts but I feel like everyone is skirting around the main issue. Why can't he talk to people who want hear from him normally? Why does it have to be through all this mist. It makes me feel like it is all fake.
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What, you want God to personally show up so you can demand an explantion from him?

You can try it if you want, but it didn't seem to work out so well for Job...
 
Lanolin said:
Oh its the whole Job thing!!

Well, Job was already rich but Satan took away everything he had, just to test him. God allowed it because God said he was a righteous man and he was going to prove Satan wrong. Job got so angry at God for not talking to him and he was really questioning his whole existence and was just about to kill himself until he had a revelation.

Have you read the book of Job? Well even if you haven't its a good story.
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The book of Job has always been one of my favorites because I always thought I was miserable, and if I was, maybe it was for a reason. But honestly as I grew, I was like, why did God feel the need to tourture his child to prove something to Satan? But if you would like, please remind me of said revalation
 
Well, dreams are free.

Living is expensive. I wouldn't place such a burden on my husband if I had one. It just sounds stupid (to me) to expect that kind of thing.

I already do housework and it doesn't take 40 hours. I takes me about 4 hours tops. I also do most of the cooking.
 
Lanolin said:
If no sugary snacks I would go make some popcorn and put on a good movie like...IDK

The Sound of Music.
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girl popcorn has carbs
Lynx said:
What, you want God to personally show up so you can demand an explantion from him?

You can try it if you want, but it didn't seem to work out so well for Job...
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No I don't want an expanation even. I just want to know that whatever is happening it's happening for the good of his kingdom, that my suffering is not futile. I don't need to be important or happy, I just want to be more than nothing to God.
 
SadGotDumped said:
The book of Job has always been one of my favorites because I always thought I was miserable, and if I was, maybe it was for a reason. But honestly as I grew, I was like, why did God feel the need to tourture his child to prove something to Satan? But if you would like, please remind me of said revalation
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He didn't torture Job

Satan did. But God said he wasn't allowed to kill Job. Anyway he got through in the end and God gave him back more than he had in the beginning so that was a happy ending.

Satan was trying to bet/wager that Job only liked God for the money/rich lifestyle/blessings He could give him. Instead of for Himself. I mean Satan really thought Job was like a lech who only cared about money and was only pretending to be righteous.
 
SadGotDumped said:
How can I obey with no instructions?

I don't have family I enjoy being around. but I am glad you do
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1st little instruction, if you already have a good church, continue go there and fellowship.

2nd little instruction, don't put anyone above God. That means boyfriend not so important.
 
Lanolin said:
Well, dreams are free.

Living is expensive. I wouldn't place such a burden on my husband if I had one. It just sounds stupid (to me) to expect that kind of thing.

I already do housework and it doesn't take 40 hours. I takes me about 4 hours tops. I also do most of the cooking.
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I do not care about burdening my husband if he agrees. Yes, you can do housework fast, or you could do more. I planned to garden, exercise, go on walks, and just do everything I could to make my husbands life better, plan dates. stay in touch with friends.
 
Ha just drink water then.

Girl you gonna waste away to nothin. Who wants a skeleton for a wife?
 
Don't you already garden? Start learnin 'girl cos you can do those things already without a husband. You got two legs, go for a walk!

Who knows who you might meet on your walk.
 
Also, who wants a misery guts for a wife who pouts when she don't get what she wants?
 
SadGotDumped said:
girl popcorn has carbs

No I don't want an expanation even. I just want to know that whatever is happening it's happening for the good of his kingdom, that my suffering is not futile. I don't need to be important or happy, I just want to be more than nothing to God.
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What if he said you don't?

I mean... It's not going to happen, but what if it did?

Atheists live their whole lives believing that our existence is a big genetic experiment conducted by random chance, shaped by survival. And they live a long time, and most make it through life without melting down.

My point is, if God showed up personally and said "you matter" do you really think it would make any difference? You'd still have to deal with life, just like the atheists who believe God doesn't even exist have to deal with life.
 
Lanolin said:
He didn't torture Job

Satan did. But God said he wasn't allowed to kill Job. Anyway he got through in the end and God gave him back more than he had in the beginning so that was a happy ending.

Satan was trying to bet/wager that Job only liked God for the money/rich lifestyle/blessings He could give him. Instead of for Himself. I mean Satan really thought Job was like a lech who only cared about money and was only pretending to be righteous.
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Fine, "allow Job to be tortured"

I know in the end God gave him something better, but that isn't always the case. Nor is it what I really care about honestly. If I have to suffer for my life but know that idk, be getting to a car crash and suffering brain damage helped someone else value their lives and that someone else did something for someone else and there was a net positive impact on the kingdom because I existed, that would be good enough for me. But if it would be the same and someone else would just take my role, why do all this living?
 
God sees it all, ain't nothing gets past Him.

We are not nothing to Him, even if our lives don't seem significant or high class or anything like that.
 
Lanolin said:
Also, who wants a misery guts for a wife who pouts when she don't get what she wants?
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Oh... sorry? Not what I planned to be... If I was a stay at home wife that would be all my life.

I don't want to be miserable either, I don't want to burden my loved ones with these feelings. I don't think I pout when I don't get what I want... but yeah. I know my ex was my only chance at that life. The only guy who could ever want me. So yeah
 
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