For Singles Looking to Get Married, How are You Preparing Yourselves?
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I was going to say that I don't have the money for a mail order bride but then I remembered the foreskin thread about how David wanted to marry Samuel's daughter and he demanded foreskins for her instead of a dowry. I thought people would remember the thread, but they didn't and now I look like some creepy perverted weirdo. And I want an Asian wife because I'm Asian.
I don't think most of us are offended. I thought it was obvious you were referencing that other thread, but I guess for newcomers and those who don't log in as often it could be confusing
yes, stare right into her eyes! no, not as intimidation to argue, its because the more you stare someone right in the eyes when conversing, the more the both of you pay attention. it a proven fact.To me that is an act of intimidation. I would run to the nearest pizza place too!
Asians don't do staring, its rude.To me that is an act of intimidation. I would run to the nearest pizza place too!
Parents just yell and scream at us and the neighbours can hear.
I've had people stare me in the eyes and to me they are trying to intimidate me. I always back up when they do that because it makes the space between us seem to shrink and entrap me.
It works with your wife but not universally.
My father used to hit us with the belt because that was common in the Philippines but we moved to the US when I was five. He stopped hitting us after a while because of cultural immersion.
But yeah, Asians don't stare when arguing. They'll stare at you if they think you're stupid or being stupid, lol!
i certainly understand a woman feeling that she needs to protect herself. but a parent hitting a little girl! i know all to well about getting beat when i was kid. that's awful & harsh! i know for a fact that if i had kids, i would never have hit them. when i taste a few girls who had little kids, i would hold their hand while correcting them. sorry to hear about that. don't think girls that its a scare tactic, no, not at all. its psychological. when you do that with a smile & peacefully, it works.I've had people stare me in the eyes and to me they are trying to intimidate me. I always back up when they do that because it makes the space between us seem to shrink and entrap me.
It works with your wife but not universally.
My father used to hit us with the belt because that was common in the Philippines but we moved to the US when I was five. He stopped hitting us after a while because of cultural immersion.
But yeah, Asians don't stare when arguing. They'll stare at you if they think you're stupid or being stupid, lol!
1) Some of the responses to this were even funnier than your post that they were responding to! Lol.
(Sorry it was at your expense! 
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2) You need to factor in about 3000 years of inflation if you intend to use that tactic for Asian maidens. Those ladies know their finances!
wot..'when I taste a few girls who had little kids'
taste a few girls??? Girls don't have little kids! They are too young to have them.
1) Some of the responses to this were even funnier than your post that they were responding to! Lol.
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2) You need to factor in about 3000 years of inflation if you intend to use that tactic for Asian maidens. Those ladies know their finances!
I never saw the thread everyone was talking about or don't remember it and I did get creeped out by what was said.
I don't feel ashamed for reacting the way I did since he just started talking about excised tissue out of seemingly nowhere.
Please link the thread you're referencing, next time.
It was circumcision which God prescribed for His chosen males in His covenant. But the Hebrews thought they could circumcise the Philistines as well as they were trying to invade their country.I never saw the thread everyone was talking about or don't remember it and I did get creeped out by what was said.
I don't feel ashamed for reacting the way I did since he just started talking about excised tissue out of seemingly nowhere.
Please link the thread you're referencing, next time.
Somehow the extra skins was payment or dowry David was willing to make for Michal (King Saul's daughter) hand in marriage. Also it was DOUBLE what was originally asked.
Michal probably didn't really want to marry David as when she saw him dancing in the street attracting all the ladies, she didn't approve and thus was childless as she didn't want to sleep with him anymore. Or something like that.
David got lonely and started spying on Bathsheba in the bathtub. One thing led to another so David tried to kill Bathsheba's husband when she got pregnant. He hired a hit man. After Uriah died, seemingly in battle, he married her but their son died before he could get circumcised.
I don't think David had to pay for Bathsheba to marry her, but at any rate it was a high price David paid to have her.
So let's not look at other cultures then. What does God expect of us as people who want to married? I don't really want to get married in the US. I'm pretty happy being single. I don't think Christian men or women in the US take God seriously on wanting them to work out their marriages to last. That's why the divorce rate among Christians is so high.
So lets talk about the topic of commitment. If you want to get married, do you take commitment seriously? Not just you @seoulsearch , I'm asking every single Christian. And I'm sure you do @seoulsearch.
I wish people with successful marriages (first spouses to each other for their lifetime so far) would chime in. I think it would be helpful if they give us tips and examples of commitment to each other.
I would like to hear from the long term successful married folks as well but want to chime in as someone who was divorced very young:
Divorces for anything other than adultery are considered very gravely by the Lord and He's clear that unless it is under that ONE circumstance than the divorced parties are committing adultery with everyone else afterwards.
That's a very heavy and valid reason to contemplate these things very deeply. I would say I *wish* that my first marriage just took more commitment, communication or sacrifice but sometimes none of those things matter and the hurt is too deep and interwoven into the marriage. Mind you this was also not a Christian marriage and before I was a Christian but I still would have forgiven her anything but that one thing.
So I would suggest we be gentle with the higher divorce rates as a large portion of those divorces (Christian or not) are the result of adultery in a highly sexualized culture and THAT is the root problem more than anything.
When you say that "it works", what do you mean by that? Like, what is the intended result of staring down your wife during a disagreement?
so sorry, "DATED" i don;'t know how that happens, auto correct maybe my apologies.
i mean we nearly never raise our voices. we discuss things. she always loses because she throws in tangents that are of the mark while i stay dead on topic. remember, i'm very strict & simple to the point. keep talk direct, say the lest amount of words & you will win or nearly always win a discussion. it's the extra useless words that get people in trouble. i already explain the intention above.When you say that "it works", what do you mean by that? Like, what is the intended result of staring down your wife during a disagreement?
sorry, i should say women. yes, i guess girls is the name for young females while woman is for older mature females.
So you are saying that when yall disagree, Thea is NEVER right? Like, not even a little bit?
It's not healthy for one person to *ALWAYS* win, because nobody is *ALWAYS* right.