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I've read that some people don't want to marry someone who comes from a lower income level.

Here's my question:
If you met and fell in love with someone and later discovered that he/she was a millionaire, would you walk away from them?
 
Jullianna said:
I've read that some people don't want to marry someone who comes from a lower income level.

Here's my question:
If you met and fell in love with someone and later discovered that he/she was a millionaire, would you walk away from them?
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If I really cared for that person and felt that God's blessing was on the relationship, I wouldn't walk away from either the rich or the poor girl. However, knowing how much money can spoil and / or corrupt someone, I must admit that I'd be a little concerned if she had a lot of money. I guess it would depend on how well she stewards her money. I would hope that she's a regular tither and is willing support worthy ministries and / or causes.

Don't get me wrong, I totally understand the importance of saving money. However, Jesus teaches us to seek what is best for His kingdom and all of our needs will be met. The way see it, in God's economy, the more you give (responsibly) the more you will receive.

Of course, a relationship with someone who has never had money before presents it's set own set of challenges as well.
 
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If I really cared for that person and felt that God's blessing was on the relationship, I wouldn't walk away from either the rich or the poor girl. However, knowing how much money can spoil and / or corrupt someone, I must admit that I'd be a little concerned if she had a lot of money. I guess it would depend on how well she stewards her money. I would hope that she's a regular tither and is willing support worthy ministries and / or causes.

Don't get me wrong, I totally understand the importance of saving money. However, Jesus teaches us to seek what is best for His kingdom and all of our needs will be met. The way see it, in God's economy, the more you give (responsibly) the more you will receive.

Of course, a relationship with someone who has never had money before presents it's set own set of challenges as well.
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Just a quick note to add to my original reply. This might sound crazy to some but I wouldn't ask her for a single dime. I would continue to work in some capacity even if we decided to get married. Possibly invest in some sort of business that would generate enough revenue to cover our expenses if we decided to travel, evangelize, do missionary work, etc.

I'm not a gold digger although it would be nice not to have to worry about money while doing the Lord's work or to be able to take a much needed vacation or to visit family for an extended amount of time.
 
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Sure these are tough days we all are facing concerning the economy. And many people have lost their faith in love. But walking away from the person God has for you just because they don't meet your economy level will make you miserable and poor for the rest of your life. You can lose all that money in a blink! Or if you are smart and talented and gifted you can earn a lot of money in the future. AND let us not forget that the Lord ALWAYS provides for those who trust, follow and rely on Him. And whatever He starts doing for/with you and in your life, He will finish it. AND He makes all things work together for your VERY BEST! Money is never the sign that God has this or that person planned for you.
 
My personal opinion is that it isn't necessarily the amount of money that's involved, but rather the character and experience of the one who has it on loan from God.

My parents teach the Dave Ramsey financial courses at several churches and over the years, have found that someone who makes $25,000 a year and knows how to manage it well is a lot more effective than someone who makes $400,000 a year and doesn't know how to manage it at all. (True story--one couple they worked with made $400,000+ a year but were in way over their heads, owning several houses, cars, etc., that they couldn't pay for. While my dad was trying to help them develop a budget plan, each person insisted on something like $500 a week as personal money... They rejected everything that was suggested to them... Rather than start to take personal responsibility, the husband wanted to hire my dad to take care of all his financial affairs. My dad wasn't interested--he's retired and he and my mom love doing their ministry for free. Later on down the road, this couple wound up divorcing.)

Unfortunately, every guy I ever thought I loved either couldn't/wouldn't hold a job or was a spender... My dream guy would be someone who has similar philosophies as my own family regarding how to manage God's gifts.

A million dollars... that's great. But my big question would be, how was it obtained, and what does the person do with it?
 
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My personal opinion is that it isn't necessarily the amount of money that's involved, but rather the character and experience of the one who has it on loan from God.


A million dollars... that's great. But my big question would be, how was it obtained, and what does the person do with it?
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Yes, i totally agree with this. Great post kim.
 
Jullianna said:
I've read that some people don't want to marry someone who comes from a lower income level.

Here's my question:
If you met and fell in love with someone and later discovered that he/she was a millionaire, would you walk away from them?
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I would make it clear that I am not going to let their financial security stagnate my personal drive/ambition. Color me a workaholic.
 
I love the way you folks think. Kim, LOVED your post. :)

I was just wondering because I thought…hmm…some people don’t want to become involved with someone poorer than themselves, and it made me wonder if that door swung both ways. They don’t want to marry someone POORER, but would they marry someone WEALTHIER? In other words, would they think themselves unworthy of someone wealthier than themselves if they see someone poorer as being unworthy of THEM? Forgive me if that’s not clear. My sweet tea isn’t kicking this morning for some reason…zzzzzzz :)

I totally agree with those of you who say that it’s the PERSON that matters, especially their faith and ethics. I’ve known some guys with financial issues that were no fault of their own/some that were, who were awesome and some who were jerks. And I’ve known some VERY wealthy guys who were very loving, humble, FAITHFUL and you would never have known they had a penny…and some who were jerks.

Ritter, as a fellow workaholic, I completely understand. No matter who I marry, IF I marry, I LOVE what I do and I can’t imagine life without such challenges.

I work with/for extremely wealthy people everyday, all day long. Money does NOT always have a positive effect on people. It destroys a LOT of relationships and families. Breaks my heart sometimes.
 
Jullianna said:
I love the way you folks think. Kim, LOVED your post. :)

I was just wondering because I thought…hmm…some people don’t want to become involved with someone poorer than themselves, and it made me wonder if that door swung both ways. They don’t want to marry someone POORER, but would they marry someone WEALTHIER? In other words, would they think themselves unworthy of someone wealthier than themselves if they see someone poorer as being unworthy of THEM? Forgive me if that’s not clear. My sweet tea isn’t kicking this morning for some reason…zzzzzzz :)

I totally agree with those of you who say that it’s the PERSON that matters, especially their faith and ethics. I’ve known some guys with financial issues that were no fault of their own/some that were, who were awesome and some who were jerks. And I’ve known some VERY wealthy guys who were very loving, humble, FAITHFUL and you would never have known they had a penny…and some who were jerks.

Ritter, as a fellow workaholic, I completely understand. No matter who I marry, IF I marry, I LOVE what I do and I can’t imagine life without such challenges.

I work with/for extremely wealthy people everyday, all day long. Money does NOT always have a positive effect on people. It destroys a LOT of relationships and families. Breaks my heart sometimes.
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Haha, yeah. I could always identify with this particular scene of There Will Be Blood up until the end of course.

There Will Be Blood - Cut Your Throat - YouTube
 
el said:
Sure these are tough days we all are facing concerning the economy. And many people have lost their faith in love. But walking away from the person God has for you just because they don't meet your economy level will make you miserable and poor for the rest of your life. You can lose all that money in a blink! Or if you are smart and talented and gifted you can earn a lot of money in the future. AND let us not forget that the Lord ALWAYS provides for those who trust, follow and rely on Him. And whatever He starts doing for/with you and in your life, He will finish it. AND He makes all things work together for your VERY BEST! Money is never the sign that God has this or that person planned for you.
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Your post reminds me of one of the scriptures I have dedicated to memory, Deuteronomy 8:18:

"But thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth, that he may establish his covenant which he sware unto thy fathers, as it is this day."
 
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Jullianna said:
I've read that some people don't want to marry someone who comes from a lower income level.

Here's my question:
If you met and fell in love with someone and later discovered that he/she was a millionaire, would you walk away from them?
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Hi Jullianna :) If that person who happens to be a millionaire has shown that they have a heart for God, and if you find that you love them and they love you, I would definitely not walk away just on account of their wealth. This should work the other way also... If that person is not wealthy, & let us say that their job was picking up trash or something equally looked down on in society, I would say don't let that stop you either. Remember the book of Hosea, and how it points to us.Jesus gave His life for us, and speaking for myself, I really didn't have anything to offer Him :)
 
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HEY Joe!!! Good to cya in here (even if you are a newlywed haha)! :) Since you're still speaking to me, I'm assuming you haven't seen my dinosaur post about you on FB recently. haha! ;)

You are all so right. It ALL belongs to God anyway. Whatever we have, we should use it for His glory.

We've probably all known times of plenty and want, and probably will know them again. Either way, HE is our provider.


I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread. ~ Psalm 37:25

Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." ~ Hebrews 13:5

The LORD does not let the righteous go hungry but he thwarts the craving of the wicked. ~ Proverbs 10:3

A good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children, but a sinner's wealth is stored up for the righteous. ~ Proverbs 13:22
 
Jullianna said:
I've read that some people don't want to marry someone who comes from a lower income level.

Here's my question:
If you met and fell in love with someone and later discovered that he/she was a millionaire, would you walk away from them?
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It would be a bit intimidating knowing he was a millionare, i'll give you that much, but to walk away from them... naaaaah

Especially not when we could live in one of these!
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And i could be driving one of theeeese

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and wearing one of THESE!

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The castle is cool! There is one along the Interstate in Kentucky that someone imported piece by piece! :) I tried to google a photo of it, but I'm hungry and impatient. :)
 
I couldn't imagine walking away from them. I mean if I fell in love with them it was obviously for some reason other then money, which means other then being able to afford nice things in life, he doesn't let his money dictate how he acts. Its not something he brings up, and he doesn't try to buy affection with gifts, therefore he is awesome independent of the moola.

And if he chooses to shower me with gifts after the fact, well thats just dandy too! :D
 
Jullianna said:
Here's my question:
If you met and fell in love with someone and later discovered that he/she was a millionaire, would you walk away from them?
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I wouldn't ever walk away from someone based on their economic status/earning power/net worth etc...

If I fell in love with a millionaire and she fell in love with me too then I'd appreciate the benefits of her wealth, as she would if it were reversed, that said I believe our good deeds should be relative to what we have to give simply because it's the sensible way to be, for me anyway.

Therefore if she gave $20 a month to World Vision and that was the extent of her good deeds, then I'd think twice about her character.
 
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