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For me, it would depend of what the origin of his money is and in his plans of use of that money.

A man of God earn in a healthy way his money and that would mean that he likes to work and know how to administrate his finances so his life may be in order and that would be nice.

And a real man of God would expend money in others and not in himself.
 
Money doesn't make a person. So I don't care either way. I think I'd be more cautious with someone who was a millionaire though, as they'd be more likely to be materialistic, spoiled, etc. Also, maybe they were dirt poor but then wealthy. Maybe they were born into a wealthy family. I think that would play a big role in how the person was.
The way I see it, finding someone who truly loves me would make me a lot richer man than anyone living in a mansion, driving fancy cars, etc. etc.
Even if I was filthy rich I think I'd be practical.
 
I'm learning that the more we have, the more time we spend taking care of it, you know? I've been downsizing for the past couple of years. Most of us probably have way more STUFF than we need.
 
My personal opinion is that it isn't necessarily the amount of money that's involved, but rather the character and experience of the one who has it on loan from God.

My parents teach the Dave Ramsey financial courses at several churches and over the years, have found that someone who makes $25,000 a year and knows how to manage it well is a lot more effective than someone who makes $400,000 a year and doesn't know how to manage it at all. (True story--one couple they worked with made $400,000+ a year but were in way over their heads, owning several houses, cars, etc., that they couldn't pay for. While my dad was trying to help them develop a budget plan, each person insisted on something like $500 a week as personal money... They rejected everything that was suggested to them... Rather than start to take personal responsibility, the husband wanted to hire my dad to take care of all his financial affairs. My dad wasn't interested--he's retired and he and my mom love doing their ministry for free. Later on down the road, this couple wound up divorcing.)

Unfortunately, every guy I ever thought I loved either couldn't/wouldn't hold a job or was a spender... My dream guy would be someone who has similar philosophies as my own family regarding how to manage God's gifts.

A million dollars... that's great. But my big question would be, how was it obtained, and what does the person do with it?

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There is a great bible verse for this statement, but my green brains are sorely failing me at the moment :D
 
Your post reminds me of one of the scriptures I have dedicated to memory, Deuteronomy 8:18:

"But thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth, that he may establish his covenant which he sware unto thy fathers, as it is this day."

That's a great verse. :)
 
I'm learning that the more we have, the more time we spend taking care of it, you know? I've been downsizing for the past couple of years. Most of us probably have way more STUFF than we need.



I've come to this conclusion myself over the last year as I made plans to move out of state. As I was packing my stuff in preparation to move, there were times I had to ask myself; 'Do you own this stuff or does this stuff own you?' Needless to say I have parted ways with a lot of possessions that I wouldn't have a year or two ago and I feel good about it. Once I get settled in I'm planning to sell more stuff. :)

As God's ambassadors we need to be prepared to go wherever & whenever it is that God calls us. The less you have, the more prepared you are! ;)
 
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Exactly. And He didn't bless us to be hoarders. :) If we aren't using stuff, we should pass it on to someone who can.
 
My personal opinion is that it isn't necessarily the amount of money that's involved, but rather the character and experience of the one who has it on loan from God.

My parents teach the Dave Ramsey financial courses at several churches and over the years, have found that someone who makes $25,000 a year and knows how to manage it well is a lot more effective than someone who makes $400,000 a year and doesn't know how to manage it at all. (True story--one couple they worked with made $400,000+ a year but were in way over their heads, owning several houses, cars, etc., that they couldn't pay for. While my dad was trying to help them develop a budget plan, each person insisted on something like $500 a week as personal money... They rejected everything that was suggested to them... Rather than start to take personal responsibility, the husband wanted to hire my dad to take care of all his financial affairs. My dad wasn't interested--he's retired and he and my mom love doing their ministry for free. Later on down the road, this couple wound up divorcing.)

Unfortunately, every guy I ever thought I loved either couldn't/wouldn't hold a job or was a spender... My dream guy would be someone who has similar philosophies as my own family regarding how to manage God's gifts.

A million dollars... that's great. But my big question would be, how was it obtained, and what does the person do with it?

I didnt have time to read all posts before, but its a very nice story and i agree with you Seoul :)
 
i believe money shouldnt be an issue when it comes to finding someone and its pretty low of people to only say they want someone whos got lots of money especially then when they say their vow "for richer or poorer" lol
but i doubt people would walk away if someone was wealthy..

now if people are dumb with their money as seoulsearch told of a couple like that, then that could be a problem as God in the bible tells us that we should be wise stewards of our money.

but i still think money shouldnt be an issue when finding someone especially in the economic times we live in right now where its not a matter of IF the world economy collapses its a matter of WHEN.

we should be focusing on more the connection with one another / personalities etc and most importantly the love and passion for God both parties share
 
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There is a great bible verse for this statement, but my green brains are sorely failing me at the moment :D

Yes Ed, I think I know which verse you are thinking of.

""His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!'" - Matthew 25:21

""Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much." - Luke 16:10
 
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I once was in a relationship with a girl I thought I would marry. I was under the impression she was close to God and strong in her faith. She left me stating that I didn't have any financial priorities or some such thing. I look back now and realise I saw more good in her than she had. And that she was very materialistic. But I've since grown in my faith and in human maturity and understanding. God has also given me several investment properties and a nice car and all that stuff. Which is nice. It really helps as I continue to seek first His Kingdom and righteousness to not have to worry about finances. And on an ironic note, she is in debt up to her eyeballs. Funny how God works things out huh.
 
Materialism and the pursuit of instant gratification rarely ends well.
 
I once was in a relationship with a girl I thought I would marry. I was under the impression she was close to God and strong in her faith. She left me stating that I didn't have any financial priorities or some such thing. I look back now and realise I saw more good in her than she had. And that she was very materialistic. But I've since grown in my faith and in human maturity and understanding. God has also given me several investment properties and a nice car and all that stuff. Which is nice. It really helps as I continue to seek first His Kingdom and righteousness to not have to worry about finances. And on an ironic note, she is in debt up to her eyeballs. Funny how God works things out huh.



I know the feeling. A little over a decade ago I was dating a girl who I loved dearly and was seriously thinking of proposing to her in due time. She and I would went to church with her parents, would have long talks about life and what we expected out of it. We appeared to really enjoy one another's company. The list goes one.

I thought that she and I were really on the same page. Then one day my health started to slip with a medical issue that would later require surgery (a couple years later long after we had broken up). She freaked out when she learned the seriousness of the issue and the possibility that I could wrestle with it later on in life. We broke up a week or two later.

Both her father and her grandfather worked for General Motors and she was used to living a very comfortable lifestyle. I guess she saw my potential illness as a threat to maintaining the lifestyle that she was used to. The funny thing is that she began working at a bank around the same time the relationship ended so my friends would tease me that I should have never dated a girl who could easily have access to my credit score. *lol*
 


I know the feeling. A little over a decade ago I was dating a girl who I loved dearly and was seriously thinking of proposing to her in due time. She and I would went to church with her parents, would have long talks about life and what we expected out of it. We appeared to really enjoy one another's company. The list goes one.

I thought that she and I were really on the same page. Then one day my health started to slip with a medical issue that would later require surgery (a couple years later long after we had broken up). She freaked out when she learned the seriousness of the issue and the possibility that I could wrestle with it later on in life. We broke up a week or two later.

Both her father and her grandfather worked for General Motors and she was used to living a very comfortable lifestyle. I guess she saw my potential illness as a threat to maintaining the lifestyle that she was used to. The funny thing is that she began working at a bank around the same time the relationship ended so my friends would tease me that I should have never dated a girl who could easily have access to my credit score. *lol*



By the way, here it is 15 or so years later and my health has held up awesomely. I'm now in the best shape of my life. However, several months back I ran across a somewhat recent picture of her online. Time hasn't been so kind... *lol*

Looking back I can see why things didn't work out given the calling that the Lord has placed on my life. If I had married her I would be working 2 jobs and seriously in debt trying to maintain the lifestyle that she was used to. I doubt either of us would've been happy. :)
 
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It would be more of a question to myself. What exactly does she see in me? :p
 
I went on a date with someone a little while back who wanted to be a millionaire some day. He was getting his masters in business something or other and wanted all kinds of stuff.
Now, I understand that there are many wealthy people who are out furthering His kingdom and using their money for ministry, however, I feel that most people who obtain wealth tend to try taking control of their own lives and finances in order to keep it all. Whether God gave it to them in the first place or not, they don't want to let it go or let God decide what they do with it. That's the problem that I would have. Any time anything takes ahold of your life and becomes more important than what GOD wants it's a bad thing. :/ I'd rather marry someone with no job who's willing to sell all he has and go teach the gospel and live among the poor than someone who goes to church every Sunday, has a nice house and car, but is spiritually dead because of his love for money.

Edit: that being said, I knew a very wealthy man in Hawaii who DID sell all he had and went to live with the homeless in order to build relationships and his own understanding. He won many many souls for Christ. :D
 
I forgot to finish my point about the date. Haha I realized that the ambition he had to be a millionaire was not only in line with my own ambitions, it was quite off-putting. My problem is not with success but with the heart behind it.
 
The only time I ever found the raw acquisition of wealth truly admirable was in the character Dmitri Aleksandrovich Sologdin in Aleksander Solzhenitsyn's In the First Circle. His goal was to make millions as a way of proving he is better than the Communists. I got a kick out of him.
 
Couldn't agree more, Catlynn. When you date a guy and all he talks about is climbing the ladder (and stomping on people along the way) and his material wealth, completely void of depth...it's like zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Men of the world think women are for sale I guess. Then again, some women of the world ARE, aren't they? Some guys are too though...Tragic....