mind boggling...

  • Thread starter Thread starter Jullianna
  • Start date Start date
  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
J

Jullianna

Guest
What would you do if much younger guys were attracted to you and asked you out often, but you saw problems with this and you were attracted to older guys….BUT, you see the older guys you are attracted to flirting with MUCH younger ladies and a red light goes off in your head?
 
Jullianna said:
What would you do if much younger guys were attracted to you and asked you out often, but you saw problems with this and you were attracted to older guys….BUT, you see the older guys you are attracted to flirting with MUCH younger ladies and a red light goes off in your head?
Click to expand...

IF it were me, I'd probably sink into a downward spiral of ice cream and depression.
 
Haha! Some help you are :D Fortunately, I'm not an ice cream fan. Will gummybears do? :)
 
I see a bright side to this. Be thankful that you have the vision to see those red lights, and another way to avoid the wrong kind of guys. It's just another thing that will aid in making the right kind of guy more recognizable and weed out the ones with no potential.
There is the exception, then there is the typical. Maybe just simply look at it as another way to narrow things down. :)
 
I try to accept what God gives me and when i am in an specific situation i try to find out what God wants that i learn and what God wants that i give or help others.
So, if guys of certanly age start searching my company very often i would try to see what i can learn from them and in which way i can help them, maybe God wants that i help the sister or mother or another person in the family of that guy.

And i dont say that i have done this all the time, but since few time ago i m feeling that God put some ppl in our way and many times is not the person that we dreamed about or maybe that person is not what we wish for our future, but God is very wise and that person in front of us may be a blessing in our life, i dont say that that blessing is to marry that person, but im giving myself the opportunity to wait and see what God wants.

And I see too all the time that in our society is very often to see older guys with young girls but that doesnt mean that there wont be a husband for me. I think that God is perfect and that He knows perfectly our personality, that He knows exactly the age that we have and im completely sure that He has something for us according our age and according to our habilities.

And besides that, i would buy some icecream too just in case ....... :D (im joking)
 
Jullianna said:
What would you do if much younger guys were attracted to you and asked you out often, but you saw problems with this and you were attracted to older guys….BUT, you see the older guys you are attracted to flirting with MUCH younger ladies and a red light goes off in your head?
Click to expand...

In some ways I can sympathize because, while living in North Carolina, I found myself on the opposite end of a similar situation. There it was very difficult to find a lady close to my age because there were far more single men in that area than single women so single women could date men much younger than themselves and often did. I often found myself flirting with younger ladies in response to their flirts with me because ladies around my own age were too preoccupied with chasing much younger men.

It's kinda' strange to hear a different perspective on a similar situation... *lol*
 
niceguyJ said:
I see a bright side to this. Be thankful that you have the vision to see those red lights, and another way to avoid the wrong kind of guys. It's just another thing that will aid in making the right kind of guy more recognizable and weed out the ones with no potential.
There is the exception, then there is the typical. Maybe just simply look at it as another way to narrow things down. :)
Click to expand...


Indeed :) When I see that my RUT ROH light hits tilt :)
 
Liz: I'm usually polite and befriend them, but that's often taken the wrong way, resulting in awkwardness, so I've become a bit leery of that. :(

Gabe: I consider guys my own age to be in the "older guys" box :)

Crossfire: Frustrating, huh? Maybe this is why the women you know are dating younger guys. Maybe they are experiencing the same thing and finally gave in to it. :)

I think part of it may be that I look younger than I am. Maybe I need to carry a sign or tattoo the year of my birth in a conspicuous place. haha :)
 
What would I do? If he is much younger than me that would mean he would be around 14 ....and I definitely see a problem with that haha .
Being serious now, I don't know why older guys tend to look for much younger ladies, but I have noticed that this is very common. Call me intolerant but I think it's a little creepy if a 30 something man is flirting with me since I barely reached the age of majority. I'm not saying that this is the case everywhere, but if you look to what happens outside in the world, not among christians, you notice that old guys get with young girls my age and it is usually because of lust .... just look at Hugh Hefner.

Is it possible that christians do the same for the same reason? I think you need to consider certain circumstances before judging, but I think it is very possible. Maybe the reason why younger guys are attracted to you is the same, I've heard that some men think it's sexy to date someone older than them (hey they said it! not me :D) and not to mention that you do look younger, at least in the few pictures you have shared here .

I think the only thing you can do is being sure of their intentions, and wait...and pray, and wait, and pray again :). Obvious suggestion, but I really don't know what else you could do, maybe throw a party for 39 and older people only haha, but then you wouldn't know who is creepy and who is not....so yeah don't do that.
 
Ummm...but then the creepy ones would know where I live :) It is what it is. For now, I love my gummybears :D
 
Jullianna said:
What would you do if much younger guys were attracted to you and asked you out often, but you saw problems with this and you were attracted to older guys….BUT, you see the older guys you are attracted to flirting with MUCH younger ladies and a red light goes off in your head?
Click to expand...
_____
God rules your life, julieannie, He convicts us too. Everyone's relationship with God is personal but if you are feeling uncomfortable going out with younger guys then that is God talking to you. Whether it is a girl or anything in my life, I step out on faith and hope and pray I am doing the right thing and then the worry is all gone as I know God will direct my path :)
Actually, I guess, hmm, yeah, I guess cuz bored a bit tonight, not really , I am well, looking at Pid Witkinstein sleeping and it will only be a matter of time before she does her 'woof' dreams so cutely, but, I would change the word 'convict' to 'show,' . God shows us through experiences what He has planned for us. I have gone out with girls before and just KNOWN that I was different than then in some way. Out of all my dating,and, other experiences , God always teaches me a lesson of some sort about myself :)
 
Jullianna said:
Ummm...but then the creepy ones would know where I live :) It is what it is. For now, I love my gummybears :D
Click to expand...

If invited, I wouldn't stalk you Julianna... although I might be inclined to send flowers and gummy bears every once in awhile, that is if I knew they would be well recieved. *lol* :D
 
Last edited:
Jullianna said:
What would you do if much younger guys were attracted to you and asked you out often, but you saw problems with this and you were attracted to older guys….BUT, you see the older guys you are attracted to flirting with MUCH younger ladies and a red light goes off in your head?
Click to expand...

I hate to say it, but if I found that any guys were attracted to me I would be concerned. :p
Unfortunately we live in a society that seems to find growing older to be a curse so older men run off chasing younger women trying to regain their youth. Although I tend to be attracted to women a few years younger than myself, the whole idea of being involved with someone dramatically younger than myself is just a little weird.
 
I just stick to what I'm attracted to and ignore the rest. I don't like younger guys, or most guys around my age for that matter. I like the older men because they're just at the maturity level I'm attracted to, and from there I only look into the ones with the qualities I would want in a significant other.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top Bottom
Back