RELENA: I understand where you are coming from and can see both sides of the issue. For women who have been around men who do not take women seriously and/or women who have been treated disrespectfully, this would most definitely push their buttons and reinforce their mistrust of men in general. However, like Viola, I know that these particular guys really ARE kidding and treat women with extreme respect.
Maybe guys really don’t understand how some of the “guys will be guys” things like remarks/whistles/touching of women really embarrass modest christian ladies and the temptations it can lead them to. A lot of guys actually convince themselves that they are flattering women by doing these things…
And I did find myself wondering how it would be taken if women were to post similarly in response to the many porn addiction threads. Maybe guys don’t understand the depths that sexual addiction can drag a woman to. The difference is actually HUGE… Guys who are addicted to porn aren’t actually have relationships with those women for the most part. Women who struggle with sexual addiction most certainly do. Maybe guys see her as just another party girl having a good time being passed from guy to guy to guy…
EVERYONE ELSE:
There was something I noticed in djness’ post that has been swimming around in my brain…the “how to please your man” thing. Why do we never see “how to please your woman” articles? Is that unimportant? Or do guys think the stuff they watch in porn will actually accomplish that? Or do they just not care about it?
This is not the most comfortable thread and/or post I’ve ever typed in this forum…but..we’re all adults here and, hopefully, we can keep the conversation open and respectful. And if any information presented here protects one young lady or one young man, or impacts a young marriage in a positive manner, then it will have been worth a few minutes of uneasiness.