I can honestly say this about this topic.
There has only been one woman in my entire life (I am 37 now) that I have been "IN LOVE WITH".
There are days (many of them lately) where I wished to the GOD of GLORY that I had never even meet this woman.
Being obsessed with someone is "not being in love . LUST is not "being in love". for me and my experience.
It's like this, sadder still to watch it die than never to have know it.
I sometimes wish that GOD had not made us and given us the ability to BE IN LOVE with someone who is not in LOVE with us back.
That to me, is the WORST feeling in the whole world......
Do yourself a favor, guard your heart, there are people out there that will RIP it out and EAT it in front of you......and then MOCK your pain....right in your FACE.