Your desperation is so strong she can't smell your cheap over applied cologne

[1still_waters]

Dear fellow men...

What's the best way to make a woman not smell the cheap cologne you literally baptize yourself in, so she can smell it from two counties away? Other than simply putting a few dabs on your neck, there is another way to stop her from smelling it.

Lather yourself in desperation. Rub it on thick, make sure it seeps in to every pore. Soak your clothes in it too. The sweet scent of desperation drowns out the oh so desirable scent of over applied cheap cologne.

Contrary to popular belief, women don't seem to be attracted to the scent of desperation, or the scent of over applied Dollar General cologne. Although if it's that Dollar Tree stuff, you may have a shot. There are a few women with the right sense of proper class.

 

[niceguyJ]

This thread title should win an award. Actually, I'd love to hear it spoken by someone with a really deep voice like the CC member "doggy". That would be amazing....or that guy who used to do all the movie trailers..Maybe he still does. I can't remember his name.

 

[Peter321]

This thread title should win an award. Actually, I'd love to hear it spoken by someone with a really deep voice like the CC member "doggy". That would be amazing....or that guy who used to do all the movie trailers..Maybe he still does. I can't remember his name.

He died a while ago unfortunately =/ http://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don_LaFontaine

 

[Peter321]

He died a while ago unfortunately =/ Don LaFontaine - Wikipedia

Oh, i take it most of you won't read Dutch :3 Don LaFontaine - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

[niceguyJ]

Thanks for the info. I had no idea. He was great at what he did!

 

[Oncefallen]

Dear fellow men...

What's the best way to make a woman not smell the cheap cologne you literally baptize yourself in, so she can smell it from two counties away? Other than simply putting a few dabs on your neck, there is another way to stop her from smelling it.

Lather yourself in desperation. Rub it on thick, make sure it seeps in to every pore. Soak your clothes in it too. The sweet scent of desperation drowns out the oh so desirable scent of over applied cheap cologne.

Contrary to popular belief, women don't seem to be attracted to the scent of desperation, or the scent of over applied Dollar General cologne. Although if it's that Dollar Tree stuff, you may have a shot. There are a few women with the right sense of proper class.

The sad thing is this isn't completely true. There are those women who love the smell of desperation because it means the guy will most likely spend his every waking moment and a huge chunk of his income trying to keep her around. Can we say co-dependent relationship?

 

[Liamson]

Personally, I don't see why I want to be in a relationship if I don't care deeply for my woman's needs or she's not passionate about what I want. We want close-knit relationships. We realise that if things do go wrong, it might hurt more but the rewards of an entwined, passionate, deeply intimate relationship are what we seek.

"Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and/or solve problems for someone else (or many others)."

I look at that definition and think of Mother Teresa, how co-dependent she must have been. I'm aware of the downside of trying to make people happy. If they turn all responsibility for their happiness over to us, we end up carrying a crushing load. But most people don't do that. It's only in unhealthy relationships that one person sucks the life out of the other. So really, unless one person in the relationship is an alcoholic or a drug addict or a pathological narcissist, having a man invest most of his attentions and efforts into winning a woman's heart is not a battle fought in vain.



The answer to co-dependency and overcoming the anxiety of getting too close is as simple as 10 easy steps.


1. not do what others's expect.
2. be as irritable and unpleasant as you wish.
3. make people angry with you.
4. don't try to make the people you love happy.
5. don't blame yourself when someone you care for is upset with you.
6. gain self-esteem from what you do for yourself, rather than what you do for others.
7. don't ever care about others so much that you overextend yourself.
8. maintain your values and needs even if it means ruining your marriage.
9. take from others whenever you can.
10. don't let someone else's anger deter you from your objectives.

I also think people who use these steps have the relationship that we are all looking for

 

[zeroturbulence]

I love smelling like desperation.

 

[Jullianna]

Personally, I don't see why I want to be in a relationship if I don't care deeply for my woman's needs or she's not passionate about what I want. We want close-knit relationships. We realise that if things do go wrong, it might hurt more but the rewards of an entwined, passionate, deeply intimate relationship are what we seek.

"Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and/or solve problems for someone else (or many others)."

I look at that definition and think of Mother Teresa, how co-dependent she must have been. I'm aware of the downside of trying to make people happy. If they turn all responsibility for their happiness over to us, we end up carrying a crushing load. But most people don't do that. It's only in unhealthy relationships that one person sucks the life out of the other. So really, unless one person in the relationship is an alcoholic or a drug addict or a pathological narcissist, having a man invest most of his attentions and efforts into winning a woman's heart is not a battle fought in vain.



The answer to co-dependency and overcoming the anxiety of getting too close is as simple as 10 easy steps.


1. not do what others's expect.
2. be as irritable and unpleasant as you wish.
3. make people angry with you.
4. don't try to make the people you love happy.
5. don't blame yourself when someone you care for is upset with you.
6. gain self-esteem from what you do for yourself, rather than what you do for others.
7. don't ever care about others so much that you overextend yourself.
8. maintain your values and needs even if it means ruining your marriage.
9. take from others whenever you can.
10. don't let someone else's anger deter you from your objectives.

I also think people who use these steps have the relationship that we are all looking for

This sounds lovely. Do you work for Hallmark?

 

[Oncefallen]

"Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and/or solve problems for someone else (or many others)."

I look at that definition and think of Mother Teresa, how co-dependent she must have been. I'm aware of the downside of trying to make people happy. If they turn all responsibility for their happiness over to us, we end up carrying a crushing load. But most people don't do that. It's only in unhealthy relationships that one person sucks the life out of the other. So really, unless one person in the relationship is an alcoholic or a drug addict or a pathological narcissist, having a man invest most of his attentions and efforts into winning a woman's heart is not a battle fought in vain.

Co-dependency can look like a healthy relationship for a lot of people looking in from the outside, but you hit the nail on the head with the statement about one person sucking the life out of the other. That is co-dependency. Co-dependent people even early in a relationship will give and give even though there is absolutely no reciprocation whatsoever. Their entire world revolves around that one person to the point that they ignore or push away all other friends and even family.

 

[Jullianna]

I understand that once you are in a relationship with someone, it's all or nothing. At least for me. But what I don't get is why there can't be some sort of middle ground when you are getting to know someone. I don't want to be smothered in desperation, but I don't want to be made to feel as if I need to chase after someone either. That won't happen. Balance seems far healthier to me.

What ever happened to getting to know someone? Why does it have to be all or nothing up front? I don't get it...

 

[Oncefallen]

Like I had posted in another thread, of course the guy has the benefit of knowing what he wants before proceeding and this can leave a lady a bit behind on the relationship curve for a bit. I do think there needs to be a balance, and a true gentleman won't push for more involvement than a lady is ready for. We're all different though and sometimes a little communication goes a long way in developing that balance.

Just for an example, in two different relationships I've been accused by one woman of smothering her, and being too distant by another yet I engaged with both of them at the same level of attention. The difference wasn't in me, but what their mental picture of "normal" was.

 

[Liamson]

The problem I'm seeing especially in the beginnings of getting to know someone is that EVERYONE plays it cool, meaning no one is being honest. Its as if the "whatever happens, happens" crowd are running the asylum.


Guy B: "So do you like Beth. You hang out with her all the time?"

Guy A "Whats it to ya anyways. Maybe I do, maybe I don't, I don't know. She's cool. We're just kinda doing our own thing and stuff, you know what I mean?"


Like a guy will ask a girl out and say, "You can say yes or no but, it don't really matter. I was just wantin to know in case maybe you eh, thought about it or somethin."

Girl will be like: "Well I suppose we could go out or something, if its not too big of a deal. I don't really want to make a scene or start any rumors, if you know what I'm sayin."

 

[PopClick]

The problem I'm seeing especially in the beginnings of getting to know someone is that EVERYONE plays it cool, meaning no one is being honest. Its as if the "whatever happens, happens" crowd are running the asylum.

Well, maybe some of us truly don't care if we "have" someone or not. Apathy does not = dishonesty. If I say I don't care, I mean it, and I'm being totally honest.

 

[1still_waters]

The problem I'm seeing especially in the beginnings of getting to know someone is that EVERYONE plays it cool, meaning no one is being honest. Its as if the "whatever happens, happens" crowd are running the asylum.


Guy B: "So do you like Beth. You hang out with her all the time?"

Guy A "Whats it to ya anyways. Maybe I do, maybe I don't, I don't know. She's cool. We're just kinda doing our own thing and stuff, you know what I mean?"


Like a guy will ask a girl out and say, "You can say yes or no but, it don't really matter. I was just wantin to know in case maybe you eh, thought about it or somethin."

Girl will be like: "Well I suppose we could go out or something, if its not too big of a deal. I don't really want to make a scene or start any rumors, if you know what I'm sayin."

I only have two levels.

1. Apathy
2. Camping outside her house in the bushes with surveillance equipment and night vision goggles.


Apathy is the safest for me

 

[Liamson]

Well, maybe some of us truly don't care if we "have" someone or not. Apathy does not = dishonesty. If I say I don't care, I mean it, and I'm being totally honest.

Its not "someone" as if you are filling a position and interviewing applicants. I don't care if you don't care about the position. I don't care about the position, the status or the title that goes with it.

However if there is SOMEONE you care about, but you are pretending that you don't or pretending that relationships are like fishing, whatever bites is whats on the line. If it gets away, God will replace it with something better. This is just simply not true.

Because God does not owe us anything. God is not going to "replace" the one that got away. God is not going to do the work for us. He gives us the freedom and the opportunity to go after the people we want to be with.

 

[PopClick]

Its not "someone" as if you are filling a position and interviewing applicants. I don't care if you don't care about the position. I don't care about the position, the status or the title that goes with it.

However if there is SOMEONE you care about, but you are pretending that you don't or pretending that relationships are like fishing, whatever bites is whats on the line. If it gets away, God will replace it with something better. This is just simply not true.

Because God does not owe us anything. God is not going to "replace" the one that got away. God is not going to do the work for us. He gives us the freedom and the opportunity to go after the people we want to be with.

Well, I don't care that you don't care that I don't care.

My issue with your statement is that you're assuming that "Guy A" cares about Beth, but is pretending that he doesn't. How do you know that he's being dishonest? What if he's truly apathetic?

 

[Liamson]

Well, I don't care that you don't care that I don't care.

My issue with your statement is that you're assuming that "Guy A" cares about Beth, but is pretending that he doesn't. How do you know that he's being dishonest? What if he's truly apathetic?

Well then he probably shouldn't be asking her out. I'm pretty sure no one ever said, "The best relationships are built on the mutual feeling of apathy for one another."

 

[Jullianna]

As unclingy as I am, I have to say that I'm not a fan of apathy either. You are either interested in someone or you aren't. If you aren't, then you should leave them alone, because that's how people are needlessly hurt. Seems a bit on the selfish side to me.

If I am truly interested in someone and a friendship grows into a relationship, I have no issue with letting a guy know very clearly how I feel, but I have no interest in pursuing a relationship with anyone unless I know the feeling is mutual. That takes some time and honesty.

 

[Crossfire]

I only have two levels.

1. Apathy
2. Camping outside her house in the bushes with surveillance equipment and night vision goggles.


Apathy is the safest for me

That's hilarious... lol