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Jullianna

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I didn't want to derail the dish washing thread, so I'm making this one :) I was thinking about the attractiveness of strong, godly, confident men, and I began to wonder how guys like Moses, Abraham, Joshua or Caleb might talk with their wives about relationships, and this is what went through my brain. :)


"Babe, God is calling me to walk away from life as I know it. I don't know where it will lead, but I want you with me.

We're going to be living in tents and there'll be no shopping trips, but God promised to provide everything we need and I'm trusting Him. I need you to trust Him too, no whining or grumbling. That didn't go over so well in the desert...

I'm not going to be reading that "I'm feeling _______________ and I need you to _______________" chart thing that you ripped out of Glamour Shepherdess magazine. And I'm not gonna fall for those 10 ways to get your man to do what you want that you read in CosmopolitanWaterfetching Today. Though I will say that leg shaving thing sounds kinda interesting...

So, anyway, I'm going. I love you. Come with me. LET'S DO THIS!!"
 
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djness

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Jullianna said:
I didn't want to derail the dish washing thread, so I'm making this one :) I was thinking about the attractiveness of strong, godly, confident men, and I began to wonder how guys like Moses, Abraham, Joshua or Caleb might talk with their wives about relationships, and this is what went through my brain. :)


"Babe, God is calling me to walk away from life as I know it. I don't know where it will lead, but I want you with me.

We're going to be living in tents and there'll be no shopping trips, but God promised to provide everything we need and I'm trusting Him. I need you to trust Him too, no whining or grumbling. That didn't go over so well in the desert...

I'm not going to be reading that "I'm feeling _______________ and I need you to _______________" chart thing that you ripped out of Glamour Shepherdess magazine. And I'm not gonna fall for those 10 ways to get your man to do what you want that you read in CosmopolitanWaterfetching Today. Though I will say that leg shaving thing sounds kinda interesting...

So, anyway, I'm going. I love you. Come with me. LET'S DO THIS!!"
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Given the time period there probably wasn't a whole lot of discussion.
''Wife the Lord has told me to go sacrifice our child."
''That is wonderful husband, I will await your return and prepare myself or one of my maidens to birth you a new son. If it is a daughter we can throw the child from a cliff because a son is worth much more."
 
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Jullianna

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I was thinking about them being in OUR time period and what they might have to say :)
 
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Catlynn

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The original post got me SUPER excited!!! XD I hope that if I ever have a husband he will be confident enough not only in his relationship with God but also with me to be able to tell me something like this if necessary. What a fun thought, Jullianna!
 
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Liz01

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No dear, i wont spend our money in a boat because i want to go fishing, its an ark to save our lives from the rain...
 
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Jullianna

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hahaha Liz :)

btw, I saw that someone was building a model of the Ark to scale along I 64 while I was on my roadtrip :)
 
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Unfortunately I think, with rare exceptions like Jullianna and Catlyn, the reply coming from a lot of women would be: Not this again! The last time you got a hair brained idea like this we ended up wandering in the desert for 40 years! You must be having one of those midlife crisis things and if you don't figure out how to grow up and get over it I'm going to be setting an appointment with my attorney because I just can't live this way anymore!

Just from my own experience, most women today want their house with a white picket fence, 2.3 kids, the family dog. They want a quiet, financially secure life free of "childish" things like adventure.
 
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Oncefallen said:
Unfortunately I think, with rare exceptions like Jullianna and Catlyn, the reply coming from a lot of women would be: Not this again! The last time you got a hair brained idea like this we ended up wandering in the desert for 40 years! You must be having one of those midlife crisis things and if you don't figure out how to grow up and get over it I'm going to be setting an appointment with my attorney because I just can't live this way anymore!

Just from my own experience, most women today want their house with a white picket fence, 2.3 kids, the family dog. They want a quiet, financially secure life free of "childish" things like adventure.
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Hear, hear! That pretty, much describes the women I've met, even those who consider themselves Godly. not all obviously, but those ones are already married.

I just realized I maybe need to get out more!
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Jullianna

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Pssssh...I say BRING IT :D
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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If i loved him, i would go where ever he asked me to go.
 
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Liz01

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I think that many men in the bible had to do things that may had sounded odd at that time as a product of their faith in God but not reasonable to humans and it was very important the support of their wives. I think that we as women need to give the encouragement and moral support to our husbands.

But i think too that when a woman has her eyes in God and her husband has a new project or move to another place or something difficult or inexplicable for a woman, then God send strenght and faith to be able to follow him.
 
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aprilandkeion

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im super amazed if a man is like them, ive seen people like them in our church those volunteer who wants to be a pastor, theyre so great i wish my husband is like them very kind, passionate, they know how to respect a woman and of course their love to our Lord is the best qualities they had...
 
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kayem77

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Am I the only one who thinks the wording is a little rude if this was a real man talking? (not saying that Jullianna is rude of course haha)
I would like him to say something like ''Babe,Honey,Dear,Sweety _____(insert your corny endearment here) I've had the conviction of doing (insert decision here)_____________ and I really think God put this in my heart, so let's pray about it and make sure I'm following God's voice'' :)

I'm not trying to be a hater btw, just an observation regarding decisions in a marriage.
I agree that godly confident men are VERY attractive and I seriously wish I could find more of those...to be honest I sometimes get frustrated because I haven't found any man who really can have a deep and SERIOUS conversation about the Bible or God. Now , finding someone who could make extreme decisions for God? and that doesn't necesarily mean doing missionary work in Egypt .

I can't imagine me being the one who has to push my husband to read the Bible or to come closer to God, or having to push him to do more for God....that would be frustrating. Not that I'm looking for a husband right now or that it is my concern of the moment, but if the present time looks like this I could feel very discouraged if the future looks the same way.
 
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Oncefallen said:
Unfortunately I think, with rare exceptions like Jullianna and Catlyn, the reply coming from a lot of women would be: Not this again! The last time you got a hair brained idea like this we ended up wandering in the desert for 40 years! You must be having one of those midlife crisis things and if you don't figure out how to grow up and get over it I'm going to be setting an appointment with my attorney because I just can't live this way anymore!

Just from my own experience, most women today want their house with a white picket fence, 2.3 kids, the family dog. They want a quiet, financially secure life free of "childish" things like adventure.
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Yes, I'm afraid that is the reality folks. ^^^
 
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Beloved57

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Jullianna said:
I didn't want to derail the dish washing thread, so I'm making this one :) I was thinking about the attractiveness of strong, godly, confident men, and I began to wonder how guys like Moses, Abraham, Joshua or Caleb might talk with their wives about relationships, and this is what went through my brain. :)


"Babe, God is calling me to walk away from life as I know it. I don't know where it will lead, but I want you with me.

We're going to be living in tents and there'll be no shopping trips, but God promised to provide everything we need and I'm trusting Him. I need you to trust Him too, no whining or grumbling. That didn't go over so well in the desert...

I'm not going to be reading that "I'm feeling _______________ and I need you to _______________" chart thing that you ripped out of Glamour Shepherdess magazine. And I'm not gonna fall for those 10 ways to get your man to do what you want that you read in CosmopolitanWaterfetching Today. Though I will say that leg shaving thing sounds kinda interesting...

So, anyway, I'm going. I love you. Come with me. LET'S DO THIS!!"
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If you where talking about the Rachel Ray thread, by all means next time please do, this would have added so much class to it.

This is a great thread because God is always seeking helpers:
And, I sought for a man among them, that should make up the hedge, and stand in the gap before Me for the land, that I should not destroy it; but I found none.
Ezekiel 22:30
For our Lord even told us the harvest is plenteous, but the labourers are few (Matthew 9:36-38). For what good is the Gospel to those who have not heard it (Romans 10:13-15). IMHO, God is looking for beautiful feet (Romans 10:15; Isaiah 52:7).
 
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Jullianna

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Oncefallen said:
Unfortunately I think, with rare exceptions like Jullianna and Catlyn, the reply coming from a lot of women would be: Not this again! The last time you got a hair brained idea like this we ended up wandering in the desert for 40 years! You must be having one of those midlife crisis things and if you don't figure out how to grow up and get over it I'm going to be setting an appointment with my attorney because I just can't live this way anymore!

Just from my own experience, most women today want their house with a white picket fence, 2.3 kids, the family dog. They want a quiet, financially secure life free of "childish" things like adventure.
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If this is what guys are expecting/looking for, it explains why I'm still sngle.:D I can't imagine my goal in life being becoming a Martha Stewart clone....ugh. Not slamming it for those who want it, but I can't imagine that driving me to get out of bed every morning.

This quote from Einstein pretty much describes my life. I haven't always walked alone, but I have most certainly taken on many things alone (well...not totally, God was with me) and loved every second of it. God has put more opportunities in my life than I would ever have imagined and I have been fortunate to have had a couple of guys in my life who have fully supported it, as they had mountains to climb as well. Some of them we climbed together, others we simply cheered one another on.

If I have to go it alone the rest of my days, I have no problem with that. It's not my personal preference, but I won't sweat it. I hope I still have the attitude of Caleb when I'M in MY 80s :)

I do have my mini-farm that is my sanctuary from the craziness of the world sometimes, but it is NOT my reason for being, nor is it all I want out of life.

It's not about being an adrenaline junkie or anything. It's about the expectations of God for us to get up off of our butts and USE the talents He's given us for HIS purposes. To make a difference on this planet. To do our part in building the Kingdom. If the rapture doesn't come during my lifetime (let's pass on debating that in this thread - thanks :D ), I fully intend to slide into the grave sideways and say WOW GOD! THAT WAS COOL! WHAT'S NEXT??

 

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Jullianna said:
If this is what guys are expecting/looking for, it explains why I'm still sngle.:D I can't imagine my goal in life being becoming a Martha Stewart clone....ugh. Not slamming it for those who want it, but I can't imagine that driving me to get out of bed every morning.
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I think many guys, including myself are not looking for this, however many guys settle for it because they give up on finding a woman who has a little zip and adventure in her. I've seen guys like this ending up feeling as if they've been emasculated and domesticated (in a bad way) after they've "settled."
 
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Oncefallen said:
I think many guys, including myself are not looking for this, however many guys settle for it because they give up on finding a woman who has a little zip and adventure in her. I've seen guys like this ending up feeling as if they've been emasculated and domesticated (in a bad way) after they've "settled."
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How tragic. ;_;
 
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Oncefallen said:
I think many guys, including myself are not looking for this, however many guys settle for it because they give up on finding a woman who has a little zip and adventure in her. I've seen guys like this ending up feeling as if they've been emasculated and domesticated (in a bad way) after they've "settled."
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"settled" is the right word too.

In my church and in my community, there is a philosophy that women must go out and have fun early in their life, call it a past. Get all of the adventure out of their system. Then find a nice, stable, church going guy, to "Settle" and make babies with when they "grow up"

I had a Long conversation the other day with an Elder at a church that I'm not going to anymore. He said I have I the tools to build a successful marriage but, I have the wrong mindset. He talked about how he asked his wife's father for permission to date his daughter. He showed him his direction in life, his financial status, his willingness to be a father and his life as not only a part of the family but a part of the community. He said what I was trying to do was the opposite of everything he as a parent would look for in someone he would want dating his daughter. He said Foreign Exchange Trading, School and Miscellaneous jobs are not something to hang a hat on. He said I should never run away with the Bride and I should concentrate on buying a house not, the world race or any long term missions trips. He said women want to be treated well, not off digging wells.


My response was that Paul, fixed roofs and did what he could for the people he could in order to support himself as a Missionary.

His response was that Paul was not married.

touche'

So.... . . . . . . . . I feel like I'm swimming the wrong direction in a sea of people following each other. The full weight and realization of my frustration has come to a point. Its not a Christian thing, its a cultural thing. Being a Christian, Spearheading Bible studies and bringing people to Christ is not a necessary part of the equation. Rather just being in attendance and Building the American Dream is the more favorable option to find a Godly woman.
 
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