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There seems to be a mentality, that marriage is the thing you do when you're done having fun in life. Once you've done what you want to do, then you can go ahead and get married.
I'm wondering if this attitude toward life in general is what is causing such high divorce rates.
The foundation of the belief is that life is about pleasing yourself. So you spend 5 to 10 years, maybe even longer, simply living to please yourself, and doing all the things you want to do. After sowing the seeds of personal satisfaction for five to ten years, people then jump in to THE THING that calls for the MOST self-denial in the world.
How can you live a life of self-denial after you have sown he seeds of self-interest for half a decade or longer?
We do reap what we sow. So if you've sown simple self interest for a decade, well it follows that you're going to have a crop of something ready for harvest when you enter marriage.
People now days say people can't marry young. WHY?
It worked great for our grand parents. They got married young. Learned life wasn't about pleasing self. Popped out some kids. Learned life was about taking care of those kids. Things seemed to work really WELL!
I fear this 'wait til you're older and done having fun' mentality is the root of the problem, instead of the solution to the problem that so many think it is.
I'm wondering if this attitude toward life in general is what is causing such high divorce rates.
The foundation of the belief is that life is about pleasing yourself. So you spend 5 to 10 years, maybe even longer, simply living to please yourself, and doing all the things you want to do. After sowing the seeds of personal satisfaction for five to ten years, people then jump in to THE THING that calls for the MOST self-denial in the world.
How can you live a life of self-denial after you have sown he seeds of self-interest for half a decade or longer?
We do reap what we sow. So if you've sown simple self interest for a decade, well it follows that you're going to have a crop of something ready for harvest when you enter marriage.
People now days say people can't marry young. WHY?
It worked great for our grand parents. They got married young. Learned life wasn't about pleasing self. Popped out some kids. Learned life was about taking care of those kids. Things seemed to work really WELL!
I fear this 'wait til you're older and done having fun' mentality is the root of the problem, instead of the solution to the problem that so many think it is.