Niceguy did have a good point with there being varying levels of trust. Trust at it's lowest levels is something that I figure is given until there is good cause not to, however the deepest level of trust that brings true intimacy is something I don't give readily, it is definitely an earned privilege to be allowed into that part of my heart.
I think that all of us have different things that we are hypersensitive to, sometimes to our own detriment. These "spidey senses" are usually developed through experiences that are usually painful to us. I know for myself, the first sign of a woman chasing me, or signs of severe emotional issues makes me clam up quick and run due to numerous bad experiences with women in those areas.
It is all too easy to allow negative experiences to jade our perspective and cause us to be fearful of allowing people close enough to hurt us. I wasted a lot of years and hurt several people who were very close to me in my younger years because of the defenses I had built up from fear of being hurt. In those years even those closest to me weren't allowed into those parts of my heart, and as a result I missed out on the love and support they had to offer.
As far as whether I trust someone again after a breach of trust I guess it really ends up depending on how my trust was violated, and who it was that violated my trust. In my younger years I violated a close friend's trust in a horrific way, was forgiven, and with time I was restored. Of course there was true repentance and major changes on my part that facilitated that. I guess my point is that like him, I am more prone to consider restoration when there is obviously repentance on the part of the person who violated my trust.
I think that all of us have different things that we are hypersensitive to, sometimes to our own detriment. These "spidey senses" are usually developed through experiences that are usually painful to us. I know for myself, the first sign of a woman chasing me, or signs of severe emotional issues makes me clam up quick and run due to numerous bad experiences with women in those areas.
It is all too easy to allow negative experiences to jade our perspective and cause us to be fearful of allowing people close enough to hurt us. I wasted a lot of years and hurt several people who were very close to me in my younger years because of the defenses I had built up from fear of being hurt. In those years even those closest to me weren't allowed into those parts of my heart, and as a result I missed out on the love and support they had to offer.
As far as whether I trust someone again after a breach of trust I guess it really ends up depending on how my trust was violated, and who it was that violated my trust. In my younger years I violated a close friend's trust in a horrific way, was forgiven, and with time I was restored. Of course there was true repentance and major changes on my part that facilitated that. I guess my point is that like him, I am more prone to consider restoration when there is obviously repentance on the part of the person who violated my trust.