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my ex wife walked out and asked for a divorce, I do not believe god is going to hold me accountable for her actions, I left the door open for many years for her to come back, and she was simply not interested.. I had no interest in wanting her to leave or wanting a divorce but that's what she wanted,
That question could be asked in a lot of situations. I think the answer is always the same though:
Someone who seeks Jesus and repents will certainly be forgiven. However, sin has consequences that can last after that forgiveness has happened.
Sometimes the sins of others do effect us, unfortunately.
Lets say a man murders another. He goes to prison with a life sentence. He repents and comes to Jesus while serving that sentence. Are they just going to let him out then? Nope. He still must endure the consequences of the sin he committed and stay in prison. The family of the victim in this scenario also has to endure the sadness this man has caused their family, even though they were totally innocent. Sin has consequences.
God never said life would be easy all of the time in this fallen world.
Someone who seeks Jesus and repents will certainly be forgiven. However, sin has consequences that can last after that forgiveness has happened.
Sometimes the sins of others do effect us, unfortunately.
Lets say a man murders another. He goes to prison with a life sentence. He repents and comes to Jesus while serving that sentence. Are they just going to let him out then? Nope. He still must endure the consequences of the sin he committed and stay in prison. The family of the victim in this scenario also has to endure the sadness this man has caused their family, even though they were totally innocent. Sin has consequences.
God never said life would be easy all of the time in this fallen world.
no sometimes it just takes one to decide they dont want to be married anymore and walk out, I'm sick of hearing that it's always both persons fault, both spouses may have made mistakes, but usually one wants to save the marriage and one doesn't. Dont blame the person who wants to save the marriage, after my ex left I was devastated, I think at one point I lost touch with reality and made a very serious attempt at suicide. Do you think a compassionate God is going to look at the heartbroken spouse who wants to save the marriage and has done everything they could, to save it, and say, no you must now spend the rest of your life alone because your wife abandoned you?
C
I am sorry that i upset you, thousand apologies. I also understand / appreciate your situation right now. The reason being you are the one whom iam speaking to not your ex. If your ex were here, I would have said the samething to her. At this moment, I could only see that you be the one to initiate the saving part. God will give you whatever you need to do it if you are willing.
It is my own personal views that whenever a conflict occurs, we should look at the root-cause and come out with ways to resolve it rather than blaming each other because that would not resolve the conflict. It is going to bring more hurts and make the situation worse.
It is my own personal views that whenever a conflict occurs, we should look at the root-cause and come out with ways to resolve it rather than blaming each other because that would not resolve the conflict. It is going to bring more hurts and make the situation worse.
The verses quoted above, pin the issue down clearly. I thank those whose posts I have "liked."
The final verdict comes from scripture, and scripture is clear that divorce is not God's plan. Also, remarriage is not God's plan, whatever the reason may be. The provision for remarriage is made only on one condition: if the spouse dies, and that too is not advised.
Yes, at times remarriage can be encouraging, but we must not seek encouragement outside God's will. By doing so, we sin against God. If we obey God, he has ways of encouraging us. We will be better off obeying him than doing our own thing.
The final verdict comes from scripture, and scripture is clear that divorce is not God's plan. Also, remarriage is not God's plan, whatever the reason may be. The provision for remarriage is made only on one condition: if the spouse dies, and that too is not advised.
Yes, at times remarriage can be encouraging, but we must not seek encouragement outside God's will. By doing so, we sin against God. If we obey God, he has ways of encouraging us. We will be better off obeying him than doing our own thing.
I was going to note that the ex also wasn't a christian, She was catholic but didn't want to attend church or anything, I told her God would save the marriage if we came before him and asked for him to reconcile things, but she didn't want to do that. I pray for my ex, I believe she may have started attending a christian church now, my current wife was married twice, first husband molested her daughter, she divorced him, then later tried to fix things and he did it again, second husband beat her, both of them have passed away now
K
Don't listen to ANYONE on here--listen to what God tells you. What do YOU think/feel/believe? These are just people talking on here. Some of these responses are exactly why I'm afraid to even stay on this Christian path--because of other Christians, and their judgment on me...Maybe this wasn't such a good idea, after all--this is the 2nd time I've been on here, and been disheartened by others, rather than feeling any of Christ's love.
I wrote this earlier in this thread, and I'll just emphasize this again:
So someone might argue "I've been divorced, does that mean that since I made a mistake I have to now spend the rest of my life alone?". You're looking at it the wrong way. For one, your ex-spouse might eventually come around. Don't think that's possible through God? Read the new testament and see what awesome stuff God does through people, and how He changes lives. Say they don't come around...well, then you're still not "alone". God just means for you to not be married right now. You can either accept that or you can live your life in open rebellion against Him. This is a broken world, and if you're divorced I just want to say that my heart breaks for you. That's the worst thing I think can happen to a person. God clearly shows all through scripture that He wants you to be married. But this is a broken world, so not everyone will be. But consider that spending the rest of your life "alone" is absolutely nothing in light of God's eternal salvation.
Going off of what you feel rather than what the Bible says is true leads to a weak relationship with God. He lays down what is right, not your feelings. I can't find anywhere in the Bible where strong followers of God went off of their feelings...but somehow many in our modern day church think that "following your heart" is deeply spiritual. In many cases where the Bible doesn't say anything about it (for example; where you should buy a house or where you should take a job, what laundry detergent to buy, etc) then by all means follow your heart. But not for something like this.
So someone might argue "I've been divorced, does that mean that since I made a mistake I have to now spend the rest of my life alone?". You're looking at it the wrong way. For one, your ex-spouse might eventually come around. Don't think that's possible through God? Read the new testament and see what awesome stuff God does through people, and how He changes lives. Say they don't come around...well, then you're still not "alone". God just means for you to not be married right now. You can either accept that or you can live your life in open rebellion against Him. This is a broken world, and if you're divorced I just want to say that my heart breaks for you. That's the worst thing I think can happen to a person. God clearly shows all through scripture that He wants you to be married. But this is a broken world, so not everyone will be. But consider that spending the rest of your life "alone" is absolutely nothing in light of God's eternal salvation.
Going off of what you feel rather than what the Bible says is true leads to a weak relationship with God. He lays down what is right, not your feelings. I can't find anywhere in the Bible where strong followers of God went off of their feelings...but somehow many in our modern day church think that "following your heart" is deeply spiritual. In many cases where the Bible doesn't say anything about it (for example; where you should buy a house or where you should take a job, what laundry detergent to buy, etc) then by all means follow your heart. But not for something like this.