Are You Ever Ashamed to Be A Christian?

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OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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Hello Everyone,

I know some people are going to read this title and immediately think of Jesus telling us that if we are ashamed of Him, we are not worthy of His recognition before the Father.

However, I'm talking about a different kind of shame.

Do you ever encounter situations in which Christians handle a situation that leave you unsure of how to profess your faith?

Two particular examples I've seen recently:

1. I was participating in a chat on another site when a young man of about 20 was trying to ask people about their experiences with the homeless. After allowing everyone else to have their say, he said that he wanted to share his experiences with working at homeless shelters.

But he never got a chance. A fellow Christian woman in her mid-40's wrote, "Keep your stories to yourself, so you can receive heavenly glory instead of the praises of men." She then said, "I rarely voice my own thoughts, as my thoughts don't count, but rather, I speak the words of the Lord." Now why she didn't confront everyone else as well, I have no idea, but she shut this guy off cold and didn't even allow him to speak.

Now we all know what she's talking about--Jesus told us that when we do a good deed, don't let one hand know what the other is doing. But I personally felt this was taken WAY out of context and that this poor guy was just trying to share and get some feedback (after all, she didn't confront anyone else who shared, just him.) But her reprimand dominated the entire room and I didn't have a chance to try to tell him, "Hey, some of us really ARE interested in what you have to share."

2. I was told of the story of a young, married, Christian woman who chose to abort a pregnancy because she was diagnosed with a terminal illness. The doctors told her it was either her life or the baby's, and she made the choice to fight for her own life.

It's been so easy for other Christians to tell her what she should have done. But they were not in her shoes. AND, consider the fact that she and her husband already had a young child, so she was faced with a decision of A. trying to carry the pregnancy to full term and leaving her husband with TWO children to raise by himself with no mother or B. trying to stay alive to raise the one child who would survive.

I'm not judging her choice. What I'm saying is, it hurts a lot to hear other Christians immediately judge her choice (and very harshly at that), especially when most have never had to face that decision themselves.

Situations like this, for better or worse, make me ashamed to be a Christian. And it makes it hard to know what to say in when I might be able to "share my faith." To be honest, things like this make me want to leave the church--I sometimes take breaks, but I always wind up coming back.

How about the rest of you? Do you ever face things that make you unsure of how to tell someone you're a Christian... and the reason is because of other Christians? How do you handle it?
 
To begin, no, I'm never ashamed to be a Christian. I am, however, sometimes ashamed of my or others actions while bearing the name 'Christian, but church is something like a spiritual hospital. There are people of varying levels of health or illness there, and so you will find both reflections of Christ and Sin/worldliness in the church.

Now, that said, I would never dream of leaving! I want to be a part of Christ's church, and do my best/give my all for Him! I understand, though, where you might be coming from, as I've spoken to several lately who seem disillusioned or find difficulty in Christianity and the church.

The way I react or handle it is similar to how I just answered. I apologize for the hurt someone in the church may have caused, but know also there is healing, grace, forgiveness, and love to be found there. I can't control others actions, ideas, beliefs, feelings, or words, nor would I want to. I am, however, in control of myself (largely). I can respond in love. I can seek and try my best to be Christ to those around me, but I'll mess up too. The thing is, I'm okay with that. I'll just have to try my best to reconcile and move forward.

The church is made up of people, and where there are people, there are all the things of people. In this light, it's not surprising that those in the church do ill things. People in general do ill things. The difference, however, is in those who are being transformed by God. Many didn't believe, but for those who did, He gave the power to become children of God. This is the church. God's servants, friends, and children at work in the world under His guidance. I know it's difficult, but really...what's not? Most easy things are not worthwhile.
 
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I am not particularly one to trumpet my faith on the mountain tops. I don't want people to know I'm a christian because I announce it, I want them to know I'm a christian simply by how I handle situations, and the love I show for others. I never really feel ashamed of being a Christian because of others. Agree with their actions or not they're still my brothers and sisters, I do however find it extremely difficult to be a ministry to others because of all the negative connotations of judging, and being tightly wound and legalistic, and that's the reason I stay subtle about my faith.
 
I have seen so much of this kind of activity, that I do not call myself a Christian (okay I had to for this website; there were only two choices). I call myself a follower of Jesus.
 
Yes, in Matt 6: 5-15 Jesus talks about prayer and is pretty obvious about our attitudes towards prayer. That being said I feel that is the tone set for our behavior as Christians: Not to stand up and announce how faithful and good we are and rather take all our matters to God first and foremost. The lady in the post that was all "Meeeeehhhh shut up I'm so holy I speak only the truth from God" or whatever is kind of a *****. Sorry, but she is. Saying you're a Christian then turning around to some poor guy who wants to talk about helping the homeless and slamming him in front of everybody is very disrespectful and not at all Christ-like. Unless this guy was all "I'm so awesome watch me help the poor!" then fine, but you still shouldn't throw that back at them. She was in the wrong and you should ignore her, as should most who are in contact with her. I guess the Christian thing to do is to love her anyways and pray for her to come off her high horse and taste a big ol' slice of humble pie.
Like the others mentioned, no I'm not ashamed of being a Christian. I am, however, ashamed of most of the behavior of these so called Christians. Heck, I'm not perfect and am often ashamed of myself but I try to be a good example in Christ's eyes, not the eyes of men. Unfortunately it's easy to get caught up with the world and "do as the Roman's do" sometimes :\
 
Oopse! I got bleeped. Sorry, I should not have called her a "lady dog", especially if I don't know her, haha.
 
I have seen so much of this kind of activity, that I do not call myself a Christian (okay I had to for this website; there were only two choices). I call myself a follower of Jesus.

I like this nomenclature, however I think a lot of people use it for sort of new-age 'christianity.' Since I don't want to be associated with that, I still use the term christian. But this is off topic. I too am focused on Jesus, it seems appropriate!
 
I'm sometimes ashamed of the examples that other christians are making in the name of chrisitanity, but I never felt ashamed to be a christian. In fact, one reason that drew me to Christ was the hope that he could help me conquer my own sense of shame.
 
When I see some of the stupid things people do in the name of christianity I just avoid mentioning anytthing about me being the same as them.
 
I'm sometimes ashamed to be human, because of the ignorant things my species does sometimes.

Same principals with some of the associations Christianity has gained.

I have seen so much of this kind of activity, that I do not call myself a Christian (okay I had to for this website; there were only two choices). I call myself a follower of Jesus.

Good idea. ^ :D

I just put "unsure" on my profile.
 
First, I want to say that I really like this question. Annnd! Now, I'm going to answer it.

There are many different people in this world, and many different Christians as well. I believe there are levels of belief and dedication when it comes to Christianity. However, I'm not going to go into them here.
We live in the modern times and the term, "modern day christian" is heard more and more. There are some who like having the title of being a christian, but don't try to live in the way, talk about God, Praise God, pray to God, read their Bible, or try to witness. Of course, none of us stick to this all the time, but I think everyone understands what I'm trying to say.
We don't have to face the trials and tests that earlier Christians did in the bible. We're comfortable. In my opinion, we have it easy. I was watching a sermon the other day where the preacher was talking about standing up for the weak. The main questions he posed were, what will you stand for, who will you stand for, and who will you stand with? We are meant to stand up when things aren't right, or when we seen injustice, or even other people who can't stand for themselves.
However, it seems to me like we're being outnumbered more and more every day. Movies and shows jump to the 'christian bashing' jokes more easily now. People don't believe in God anymore, people do not have faith. We're being backed into a corner and before long we will be the minority. The question is, are we going to fight for our God, die for him, or whatever else at that time? It's just like practicing before the big game, we need to gain the knowledge to back up our decisions. Not through our own words, but through God's.
When I was in high school, I took theater and no one was Christian. I had never felt like the odd man out before until then. I found myself growing weaker, keeping from talking about God, or even mentioning him around my friends. I had never been like that before. I wasn't ashamed, but I guess you could call it peer pressure. Before long, I stopped reading my Bible all together, going to church, and fell into a terrible way with even worse friends.

Anyhow, one day I looked at my life and I wanted more for myself. I felt so empty, and didn't know why. Then I went to my church for home coming and the holy ghost moved right over me. It was so beautiful and warm and bright, I had never felt anything like that before. Just in that second, after months of despair, I was whole again in an instant.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, for the people who do feel ashamed or pressured about God, remember this. The devil is strong and it's talked about all the time. He aims to steal, kill, and destroy.
What people seem to be forgetting though, God is so much stronger and he can't be beaten! He will protect us, and give us the words to say when the time comes.Even though you may be outnumbered, don't be afraid to stand up in the crowd, because keep in mind.. you are never alone.
 
Christian:
A person who believes in Jesus Christ.
A follower of Jesus Christ and His teachings.


A lot of people claim to be Christian. A lot of them don't even really have a love or devotion to God.

Of course people who claim the title are going to do stupid things that don't represent the love of God. Even those of us who do really try mess up some on that one.

That said, why not just go ahead and claim the title Christian? Maybe you can be the person that makes someone else stop and say "Hey. That guy/girl is a Christian and they are different! .

What good is ditching the title doing? If you think it's a sinking ship, you're just going to jump off rather than try to do your part to make it better? Obviously, any good accomplished is directly from God alone..but He can't use us if we don't show up.

No, I'm not ashamed to be a Christian. I have felt shame when I've sinned, or seen other Christians sin and do things that God doesn't approve of, though. Thankfully God still calls me His.
 
Im not ashamed to be called a Christian or identify myself with Christ. But I know what the OP means, sometimes I have inwardly cringed at some of the things other people have said and done, and some times at some of the things I have said and done.

I suppose it is all down to us all being at different stages and God continuing to work in our lives as we journey through life. I suppose the most important thing is that we reflect Christ in our daily walk and maybe if someone has set a bad example, then we can be the person who sets the good example.
 
Thanks AsifinPassing. I love your answer.GOD bless everyone here.
To begin, no, I'm never ashamed to be a Christian. I am, however, sometimes ashamed of my or others actions while bearing the name 'Christian, but church is something like a spiritual hospital. There are people of varying levels of health or illness there, and so you will find both reflections of Christ and Sin/worldliness in the church.

Now, that said, I would never dream of leaving! I want to be a part of Christ's church, and do my best/give my all for Him! I understand, though, where you might be coming from, as I've spoken to several lately who seem disillusioned or find difficulty in Christianity and the church.

The way I react or handle it is similar to how I just answered. I apologize for the hurt someone in the church may have caused, but know also there is healing, grace, forgiveness, and love to be found there. I can't control others actions, ideas, beliefs, feelings, or words, nor would I want to. I am, however, in control of myself (largely). I can respond in love. I can seek and try my best to be Christ to those around me, but I'll mess up too. The thing is, I'm okay with that. I'll just have to try my best to reconcile and move forward.

The church is made up of people, and where there are people, there are all the things of people. In this light, it's not surprising that those in the church do ill things. People in general do ill things. The difference, however, is in those who are being transformed by God. Many didn't believe, but for those who did, He gave the power to become children of God. This is the church. God's servants, friends, and children at work in the world under His guidance. I know it's difficult, but really...what's not? Most easy things are not worthwhile.
 
I like this nomenclature, however I think a lot of people use it for sort of new-age 'christianity.' Since I don't want to be associated with that, I still use the term christian. But this is off topic. I too am focused on Jesus, it seems appropriate!

I am open to a better solution. Any ideas, anyone?
 
I just put "unsure" on my profile.

I meant where they asked it as a yes or no question. If I had answered this, I would have thought it meant "I don't know if I trust Jesus enough to follow Him or not". That certainly is not true.

If Satan can't prevail against the Church, the his next tactic seems to be to confuse the words enough so we can't tell people which ones of us are in it.
 
I at times am saddened by what other Christians say. But I am not ashamed to be a Christian. Maybe there are times when I get scared because of peer pressure, give allusions to my faith, or I give into to a temptation I should have given into, but I will call myself a Christian. Instead of avoiding the name, let us keep that name and switch our culture's perceptions about Christians.
Romans 1:16
"For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile."
Keep in mind the term Christian, was first used for the people who composed the church, body of Christ, in Antioch.
Acts 11:26
"The disciples were called Christians first at Antioch."
So let us keep the label, but if we want to use other names not in place of Christian but meaning mostly the same thing. Let us use terms like follower of Jesus Christ, apprentice of Jesus Christ, servant of Jesus Christ (even slave of Jesus Christ), etc. But first of all let us keep the name Christian, and let them know by our love and our actions and if they don't recognize via our actions, then we need to confess any sin that we are still engaged in to God and also ask forgiveness from those who we have hurt due to those actions. God bless.
 
Niceguyj stole my answer. But I can't resist posting these verses anyway:

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.
 
I personally refuse to give up my title of being a christian just because some people tarnish the title by making a fool of themselves. It is an honor to know that I am a christian even though it's not something I tell everyone I meet, part of the reason being that people have given christianity a bad reputation, and if I was to just word vomit to everyone I know and tell them I'm a christian, rather than draw them in order to gain their trust and minister to them when the opportunity comes, I'm most likely going to alienate them. But again just because I'm not vocal does not mean I have any intention of relinquishing my title, that's not fair to me and it's not fair to God. Read the chapter on Marking and Begetting in Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis. Christianity goes far deeper than just some religion to follow.
 
No, I'm not ashamed to be a christian. Those of us who love the Lord are troubled from time to time by the hurtful, stupid things we and other christians say and do to others, believers and non-believers alike. Especially other believers.... because when one part of the body hurts, we should all hurt.