New and in Despair

[Christine11]

Hello All. First of all, I am sooo glad I found a christian chat forum. God is what is most important to me.
I came here because I have been extremely depressed. I pray and pray, but can't seem to get out of it.
I am going to seek counsel. I am requesting for prayers and spiritual guidance here.
I am unhappy. I was reading one of the self help books, and it read, when you are depressed, let your mind go to a happy occurence in your life. I can't think of any. That really broke me down. I can't seem to find God's will or purpose for me on this Earth. My family relations are all messed up. I am strained from 2 members. I have tried and tried and tried. I continuously get hurt from them. I feel better off not having a relationship with them, as they are not honest with me, leave me out of things, etc. I am unemployed, and have been searching, and don't know why I can't get a job. My friends are few. Again, I get hurt. I allow people to take advantage of me. I am kind, and they walk over me. Any prayers or suggestions you can offer are deeply appreciated.

 

[AllIsFullOfLove]

Hi Christine,

I'm sorry to hear about your current situation. It sounds as if you have been in this for such a long time you have forgotten what it is to be happy. But there is always hope and it will take a lot of faith and support to get you out of this, and that is where people come in so I hope that others will join me in sending you love and prayers and making you feel that we aren't giving up on you. Often the way out of this place is to really know that you are not alone, so I'm right here if you want to talk or get some support or help you find that happy place again. It takes baby steps in the right direction, and being strong in feeling hopeful even if you feel there is nothing to feel hopeful about. God is always there for every person, and usually acts through people to help you see that, and I know its hard to see that when you feel so disconnected from your joy. I pray that others will join me in not just giving you a silent blessing but in really sending you their empathic love from their heart, because you have mine Even a little smile is better than no smile, and in every smile there is hope, until you have so much hope that you can take away the crutches and start to walk again in a place that feels like love.

:-D

 

[liz247]

I will pray for you. It sounds like you have to make boundaries withsome people, I know I had to. Also you should Listen to some good Christian teachers, myself I like Joyce Meyers. Get int o the Word Especially the Psalms, there are alot of psalms David wrote that he seems to know like he was going through the same issues as we are. God Bless You. Your Sister in Christ

 

[Christine11]

AllisFullofLove: Thank you. Your words are like those an angel would speak. I feel like the Holy Spirit must have guided you with your reply bk. it really touched me. You are spot on. I never thought I would feel more compassion and love from a stranger on the internet vs. people I know already.

liz247: good advice. I love the Psalms. I haven't had much strength physically, mentally or emotionally lately, but I will pick up the Bible this evening and read.
I think i needed this encouragement to help motivate me.

 

[weakness]

Nice to here from you. I spent so much of my life (and still sometimes) Looking to people to satisfy my sense of purpose and reason for being. God has shewn me that he is the only thing that can do this .The scripture says "that in him was life and that life was the light of men". Sometime it hurts when what we have thought as our family and friends or society in general, offend us . Trusting Jesus that" works all things to are good" and forgiveness toward others is a very liberating and yields the fruit of peace and joy. I still struggle in the lord against the untrusting nature of our old person ,but God really is faithful .Keep seeking and you will find. rest in gods love he has towards you. praying for you weakness

 

[AllIsFullOfLove]

When I feel such pure empathy in a moment I am without my 'self' my life and my burdens. When I succumb to selflessness I become a channel of something greater than me. I'm glad to have put a smile on your face, although it is not I but something greater that comes through. God is Love and it is hard to get answers from God through ourselves when we do not even feel love in our despair, God is in all of us and we have to be open to being a part of God in every persons life without any conditions. In the image of God we are without our 'selves', our body and mind, with its dysfunctions and fears and temptations to isolate and protect itself and shun those who make us remember our own fears; we become a channel of God for all people. So do not ever think that you are imperfect enough in how you feel, that you cannot be a channel of God for another. As I inspire you, you inspire me To help another to be in spirit, to be who they really are, the joy the happiness and the pure love which we sometimes deny is there, that we say is dead, we become more in spirit ourselves. I hope I give you hope, as I said, baby steps, and all you need is for people to make you remember it is not so cold outside, if you remember that you are warm inside, a burning passion that we only come to believe is extinguished but never can be. In Christ we are alive, is to see this world through his eyes and his spirit within us, because our spirits are all in the image of God, we are alike in who we really are, only the self-identifying mind thinks that we are so different. Be at peace and accept who you really are and turn your cheek to those who may try to make you question your own humility. Love who you are and remember what it is that makes you so valuable even in this moment to bring out the humility in me.

 

[astropithacus]

Dont feel alone.I have been depressed for years. Now i just wont go there any more. when i think negative thoughts that is what gets me down so i try to think about God and how much he loves me and that im worth alot to him you dont need to think about your past good things dont think about the bad that is at all and if it still creeps in your mind keep thinking about how much you are worth to God.Another thing i found that helped me at first was to try to find a silver lineing in evry thing that happens to me it is hard at first but if you look hard enough at a situation you can find it .Ill be praying for you as well and yes its a good idea to get some help a counceler helps alot some churches have christian counslers try to find one of those if you can.You are going to be fine !

 

[Christine11]

AllisFullofLove: your words are so beautiful and deeply moving. Thank you. It's a challenge to turn the cheek, AGAIN, but I know it's the right thing to do. I want to figure out the proper way to handle these recurring incidences, to where I don't end up depressed and so hurt.

astropithacus: I have asked a friend for a counselor who is also a Christian. That is the direction i'm looking at right now.
This will be new to me, a first, but I think it's worth looking into.


Can anyone suggest a certain scripture reading to help with me figuring out God's calling for me on Earth?

 

[Christine11]

Nice to here from you. I spent so much of my life (and still sometimes) Looking to people to satisfy my sense of purpose and reason for being. God has shewn me that he is the only thing that can do this .The scripture says "that in him was life and that life was the light of men". Sometime it hurts when what we have thought as our family and friends or society in general, offend us . Trusting Jesus that" works all things to are good" and forgiveness toward others is a very liberating and yields the fruit of peace and joy. I still struggle in the lord against the untrusting nature of our old person ,but God really is faithful .Keep seeking and you will find. rest in gods love he has towards you. praying for you weakness

Thank you weakness. All of the prayers are deeply appreciated.

Can you tell me where in scriipture that passage is from? "that in him was life and that life was the light of men".

 

[JessW]

Put your faith in God and not in that of man. Be strong and of good courage. Prayers for you in Jesus name. Amen.

2 Samuel 22:31 “As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him.”

Job 13:15 “Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him.”

Psalm 7:1 “O LORD my God, in thee do I put my trust: save me from all them that persecute me, and deliver me:”

Psalm 25:1, 2 “Unto thee, O LORD, do I lift up my soul. O my God, I trust in thee: let me not be ashamed, let not mine enemies triumph over me.”

Proverbs 30:5 “Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him.”

 

[Snackersmom]

Can anyone suggest a certain scripture reading to help with me figuring out God's calling for me on Earth?

I like these verses from Proverbs chap. 3, verses 5 & 6:

5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

In my experience, God seldom reveals His full plan to us upfront. However, if we seek His answers, and acknowledge Him in our day-to-day lives, He will tell us what we need to know, when we need to know it

It also helps to ask Jesus to fill you with The Holy Spirit, it's easier to know His leading if you do. Also, if you're not sure which life-path to take, then pause to check for the peace that accompanies His answer. God bless, I hope this helps! -Nichole

 

[Christine11]

I, amazingly, am feeling a bit better. I know, without a doubt, it is the prayers. I can feel it. I want it to last.
I am so grateful that I found this site, it gave me encouragement, and direction. I love reading your words about Christ. You are so kind, and not judgmental, something I'm not used to.

Snackersmom and JessW: thank you for posting the scripture passages. I feel hungry for the Bible now!

I have thanked God for yall, and ask that he bless each and every one of you.

 

[JessW]

You're welcome. God Bless!

 

[Powemm]

Hiya friend mam I relate to your experience ... but even better then that , Jesus knows exactly and I mean exactly what you're going through ..., it took a long time for me to look at my situation other than what it was... I finally a light (Jesus Christ) came into my darkness... my depression of foster care chased me and held menin bondage for years...by the grace of God I am finally out if it...
it took verses like
"who is
Man that you pay Him your mind?".
is he your God or am I?
Do you know and do you believe who
Mam says you are or do you believe me and who I say you are?
It was verses like these in Goda word that brought mento
A
Place to do an unsworn study and check my belief system?
God asks us questions in His word to check that .... with things like " Who told you" me or
Man? When I tool a closer look at my belief system it was very
Jacked up... More than I could have ever imagined... My belief system was all out of wacko
Jacko... God changed Tjat and now has me thinking correctly...
I was surrounded by people speaking things ungodly... Words of death instead of life... No winder there was such an oppression everytime I was around them... When I learned the truth about who God says I am , I finally had something to compare everything I heard spoken... God gives us discernment skills in This.... when words are spoken that don't match up with who God tells me I am... I no longer offended or get upset about it..innow know I'm hearing things from someone who not only doesn't know who God tells them they are, they don't know who god says I am... Now I can simply laugh it off and know that what they are saying simply isn't true and instead of believing them , I believe God... I have since learned in this truth , I am hearing this from someone who "they themselves don't know who they really are"
hurting people Hurt people... I now hand what they say up to God , share my raw emotions about it with him "first" because he can handle
My emotions better than anyone else can... He already knows what I'm thinking so not sharing them with Him won't hide anything... he tells us to come to His throne exactly as we are and change nothing ... when I spill the beans of my ugly emotions to Him, He quickly reminds me of a few things...
1. Michelle, have you forgotten all you have been forgiven for? My answer? Uhhh
2. Did I ever once give you what you deserved? Are you still standing and alive? Again my answer ... Uhhhhh
3. And has my mercy given you
More than what you deserve?

if the answer is yes ... Go and do the same as I have done for you..

God puts me in check with this everytime... My anger issues have gone from a devouring raging beast full of wrath... To a pea sized little peon ... he revealed to me that I was no better than those who were wronging me... I might have not dine anything to their extreme but my words to them, about them to everyone else was doing murderous things.. Right off the tip of my tongue...
I pray that you pull close to Christ , I pray that you find comfort in His shelter... Read psalm 91... calmed my hurt in many occasions and also brought insight into what Jesus went through for
Me , when I ignored and turned my back on Him... Humbled me greatly because there is even pride that can brew from
Hurts ... I know I had lots of woe is me in it... I finally took
My hurt and nailed it to the cross... I now look at it from a much different perspective .. I now see Jesus wearing my Hurt and all He went through for me and all of us... I can't help but think now, if I hurt this
Much from this little bit of pain, I can now see why Jesus sweat great droplets of blood from His pores , in having the hurts of the world laid on Him... My Hirt was from just a few people, Jesus Hirt came from
The entire world... makes you think a little deeper doesn't it?
he loves us so much ... And keep in mind God hasn't forgotten you, or is neglecting you.. He separates his sheep from the goats... And as the world doesn't seem to know you, neither does the world know Jesus... But that is changing
Keep your focus on Christ , let nothing steal it away from
him... He has much
More to show all of us...
Love you in christ
Michelle

 

[Jilly81]

Thank you weakness. All of the prayers are deeply appreciated.

Can you tell me where in scriipture that passage is from? "that in him was life and that life was the light of men".

That's in the book of John in the first chapter, verse 4. Great scripture to read; the whole book of John is one of those that many people read at least once a year; it's so comforting! Glad that you said that the scriptures and prayers that the others gave have helped so much ! Hope you continue to have a great time here. -Jill

 

[Tommy4Christ]

Hello All. First of all, I am sooo glad I found a christian chat forum. God is what is most important to me.
I came here because I have been extremely depressed. I pray and pray, but can't seem to get out of it.
I am going to seek counsel. I am requesting for prayers and spiritual guidance here.
I am unhappy. I was reading one of the self help books, and it read, when you are depressed, let your mind go to a happy occurence in your life. I can't think of any. That really broke me down. I can't seem to find God's will or purpose for me on this Earth. My family relations are all messed up. I am strained from 2 members. I have tried and tried and tried. I continuously get hurt from them. I feel better off not having a relationship with them, as they are not honest with me, leave me out of things, etc. I am unemployed, and have been searching, and don't know why I can't get a job. My friends are few. Again, I get hurt. I allow people to take advantage of me. I am kind, and they walk over me. Any prayers or suggestions you can offer are deeply appreciated.

I will keep you in my prayers, I just encourage you to draw near to God, and make sure you are in the faith, through repentance and faith proven by deeds. 2 Cor 7-10-11...

God is commanding men everywhere to repent, He is waiting patiently, I do not know all your circumstances, but if you are in any willful sin against God, His mercy will not wait forever, get into the word of God, find comfort there, not is a counselor, Jesus is the great counselor, and is calling you to deny self and follow Him.

I know there are no easy answers to your problems, I went through the same thing several years ago, I wasn't right with God, had to come out of the apostate church, go through a long season of godly sorrow, and coming to a saving faith, you wont find it in the modern church today, its all about putting a small bandage on a huge gaping wound, it wont heal until its cut out for good, its the same with sin and rebellion.

You do your part in brokenness and repentance and God will do HIs. 2 Cor 6-1,. but there are many errors to break down and throw out, I pray you take this time to seek the truth with great diligence, and get right with God, this is of most importance now in your life.

Seek first His kingdom and righteousness, lay aside all filthyness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word of God, stop fucusing on your trials, but instead focus on Jesus Christ, obeying His commands, and being a doer of His word. He is your strength and power,He will lead you into all truth and peace, as you love Him supremely with all you heart, mind, and soul!

 

[s4t]

hi im new here 2 n i kno how it feels 2 b hurt by family n friends. i also have been goin thro a difficult time 4 the last 3 years. but i kno whom i believeth n God has carried me thro. n im a much stronger person then ever! so keep lookin 2 Jesus n he wil make u whole. i will pray 4 u!

 

[SylviaheartJC]

You also have a sister in me Christine, I would love to encourage you in the faith and increase your love for God and then be reflected in you. God bless you!!

 

[destiny]

Nice to hv u here, u a welcome

 

[willfollowsGod]

Welcome to Christian Chat, Christine. Hope that you keep on learning and can get through this depression in your life through most importantly God's help and other believers. God bless and be strong and courageous!