Ok, you want some help? First of all you have to understand how women think. I grew up with 6 sisters so I have had time to observe and analyze. First of all you have to understand that you can't make someone fall in love with you, but you can certainly help your chances. Here are some tips that I have learned over the years. If you want my pedigree...I've had 9 gfs in the past 6 years and been on 30 dates in the past 3. Most of the dates didn't mature because I didn't want them to rather than the girls not wanting them to.
First of all, girls/women are looking for a man. So be a man, don't be a jack ass but don't let people walk over you either.
1. Start going to a gym and lifting weights and getting into shape. All you might have to do is go 3 times a week and work out for a couple hours. Out side beauty isn't everything, but it certainly is appreciated. Work on your abs.
2. If you like computers, better find some hobbies that don't include them. If all you know is computers, and all you talk about is computers to anyone who doesn't know the ins and outs of computers your going to seem like an amazingly BORING person. Basketball, tennis, rock climbing...whatever something that makes you sweat and exert energy...seeing a man sweat is an appealing image to women or so some mens magazine said. hahaha...but seriously get a side hobby that isn't collecting combic books.
3. Don't by shy, if you are looking for a Christian girl, they aren't going to come up to you and ask you on a date. If you see a girl you like, casually walk over and start a conversation. This is why #2 is important if you are well rounded person you can start talking about anything. Usually I walk up to them and ask them their name and introduce myself. Maybe ask them where they are from and go from there. If things are going good, casually ask if you want to go do something casual sometimes...a movie whatever...if they say no drop it...take it lightly there will be other girls and walk away.
4. Remember man, when you are talking to a girl on a date, women love to talk about themselves. So you can control a conversation with out saying much of anything, just ask questions about her answers...maybe she mentions a sister...ask her how many siblings she has...whatever. Always look right into their eyes, some people look to the side or just at their face...If the date is going well...look right into her eyes its shows that you aren't intimidated, but the way you treat her shows that you respect her<< last part is just for the date.
5. On a first date you better open doors and pull chairs...most women don't expect it anymore...but it will score you some brownie points. Chilvery might be dead but women like the idea. So open doors let her go first, one of the things I do is that sometimes the women will reach for the door handle, well I will grab the door quickly even if they are reaching for it, grab the handle look them in the eye and be like, "I got it" not hostile just saying thats my job. Also open car doors let them in then go in and open your door and let yourself in. Also if you are walking make sure you are walking make sure you walk on the side closest to the street.
6. Also make sure you got some stylish clothes, wearing pants up to your belly button isn't stylish anymore. Look like you dressed yourself and you are a independent person that your mother doesn't go shopping for you. Another old saying is that women will look how a guy treats his mother, but they also don't like he to be to close to her either. That means be your own person, just treat women with respect.
7. Better find a job if you don't have one and get some kind of income women are expensive. Alot of times women will try to pay I don't let them on the first time or two. If you two are dating seriously for a long time then yea I will because yea thats how it is. But on first dates and what not its best if you do.
8. Finally, when you are on the date, don't be scared to make a move. If you are watching a movie reach over and grab her hand, if she doesn't want to she will pull away, trust me. Or if you learn in for a kiss just do it, she will let you know if she doesn't want to. If she doesn't want to on the first date that is cool, don't make a big deal about it. Some of the best gf's that I had didn't want kiss a guy to early. Don't ask permission thats dumb.
9. oops forgot one more...when you are talking to a girl don't talk about your problems. Women want to be able to cry on a mans shoulder not the other way around. Be the strong one in the relationship, if you want to talk about problems tell them to your guy friends. I ask this girl why she like taller guys and she said she felt protected when she was with one...so when you talking don't focus on your short coming or pitfalls how you never had a gf or whatever that isn't confidence. Be Confident in yourself
