Playing Hard to Get

Descyple · Nov 27, 2012

Seoulsearch, you missed one important point in my "pre-proposal requirements" - the woman needs to place the chocolate in my mouth herself, and save me the work of doing it. That way I know I have found "True Love" - lol.

P.S. Thanks again for the chocolate malt balls. For those, you get the following proposal from me: I propose you send me more chocolate malt balls!!!

seoulsearch · Nov 27, 2012

Descyple said:

LOL... So if a woman tries to CHOKE you with chocolate... does that count? 50

I suppose that could be seen as "Death By Chocolate" in the literal sense...

Ladies, Descyple, handsome as he is, DEFINITELY plays hard to get. I'm sure he's not talking about just any old 99 cent candy bar here... He probably expects the good stuff... You know, like the king-size bars that cost at least $1.59. Sheesh. That, and a plane ticket to Canada in order to deliver it.

Yup, I'd say that's pretty hard to get! Guess I'm gonna have to up the anty!!

Descyple · Nov 27, 2012

seoulsearch said:

For me, death by chocolate from the hands of a woman is the ultimate act of love for a man - lol.

But Seoulsearch, you are absolutely right about the fact that I would not accept just "any" chocolate bar from a woman. It needs to be a top-class and high octane chocolate bar: such as Kit Kat (Chunky version), or Twix (the new peanut-butter edition, soooooooo good!!!).

So ladies, if you have good taste in chocolate bars, and good aim, I am all yours!!!

agirlandherguitar · Nov 30, 2012

A man needs to pursue a woman and a woman needs to feel that she is worthy to be pursued. We want to feel wanted, desirable. If you act aloof and cold then a woman will write you off instantly. Some women try to manipulate a man's desires by acting the way she thinks is desirable to him but it's all a sham. Some women are just mean and like the chase but not the result.

Men: no games! Women: no manipulation! Men: If you're interested then act! Women: Be honest and don't lead the poor boy on!

Markum1972 · May 4, 2013

I am not going to spend a lot of time in this thread. It is plain and simple.

Deceitfulness, vanity, and a lying tongue. Some also call it head games. THAT is "playing" hard to get. It is ungodly and exalts itself above all that is holy and acceptable to God.

I will tell you what Proverbs says to do with someone that behaves this way. Get away from them. Do not waste your time or honor on them.

Turn people. Turn!

AmmiAmmiel · May 4, 2013

That's right!

This Day in Age it's called being "fake", which means to manipulate/deceive the people around you and pretend to be someone you're not.

Undortunately, this is what the so-called "Christian" Church (at large, not the true Chuch) is doing right now,.. The leaders of these megachurches are the intensified application of the False Teachers that are talked about by Paul. The world is being set up to believe the great deception that the Antichrist will present. DO NOT FALL AWAY!

maxwel · May 4, 2013

I'm not really sure if a girl has ever played hard-to-get with me or not.

If a woman is aloof or standoffish... I just ignore her.

Maybe I'm just not smart enough to play the games.
: )

Markum1972 · May 4, 2013

AmmiAmmiel said:

Oh, but Ammi, the strong delusion is already upon the people. Ask God what lie it is that they have been given over to that will cause them to be caught unaware and unprepared. It is something that almost EVERY Christian believes in. Only few have sought God on it and know the truth.

You already know this in your heart.

For those that are awake and alive in Christ and that sleep no more concerning the promise of God.

AzureAfire · May 4, 2013

Hmm...very interesting topic, this one.

As a girl, well, it's a given that you shouldn't be displaying your wares and such, and it includes all your feelings and emotions, simply coz it could really turn off the guy who is pursuing you. We should be well-kept and modest. The last thing i'd want is for a guy to think that i'm a card-carrying psycho, what with all the thoughts and daydreams i'm actually harboring in connection to growing feelings of attraction and fondness for said guy XD. I am still pretty much like a little girl when i am being approached by a crush, all nervous and giggly, but just hiding it behind a poker face.

But of course, it's not wise to lie and pretend to be what you are not. I'm a gamer, but i don't play this sort of game, with hearts on the line. A heartbreak can be so nasty...deadly, even. Still be true to your person and your ideals, your thoughts and ideas to this man. Simply pulling the reigns over our emotions is enough, so we could look at this person objectively, and see if he is worthy of, well, us. Personally, i am now striving to be a woman of virtue...something i have failed at in the past. To be a lady-girl after God's own heart. And to have a relationship with Christ at its center, with us growing deeper in love with Him, and He drawing us deeper in love with each other.

Powemm · May 4, 2013

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Markum1972 · May 5, 2013

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Liamson · May 5, 2013

Internet
Games...

For some women, I could give them flowers, take them out, write songs about them, admire their every talent, take interest in everything they are about, buy them books, encourage, support, push, teach them in everything I can and I could even drop the L bomb. And we would still be at square 1. Most Women neither fight it nor reciprocates it, they simply are okay with it and expect it as if I'm the Schwan's Man. Which is a very odd place to be. So, I take it as a sign of disinterest. And I stay friends but I move on. From this place there is nothing more to do and nothing more to say. I simply can't get there from here. I guess I have to be okay with that, so I am.

I never had this problem before Facebook and CC. Now I can sit at my laptop with weak knees and sweaty palms, nervous about not screwing up and hoping that the person I am interested in notices me. I could be worried about whether or not they know I like them, or how much. Or I could just be sending a letter of encouragement as a Brother in Christ and it all has about the same effect.

So in a way I like the internet, keeps us all connected. But in the same way I hate it. Because even if all of your dreams come true and you skype your heart out and everything seems amazing, when you meet this person, you suddenly realize that you are back at square 1.

arwen83 · May 5, 2013

Here comes arwen to stir the pot....

Don't guys like the chase? Maybe it's not universal. But I've known a few guys in my lifetime, that won't chase girls if they are too easy to get. In the past, when I have been in relationships, has been the times when I get asked out on a date the most.

Arwens confession of being a game player:

Ok. I will confess something that I did in my early 20's that may give some insight... I wasn't really Christian back then and sure wasn't living the lifestyle FYI. Ok, so I was on a dating site chatting and there was this one guy that I found pretty decent but we hadn't gone on a date yet. He asked me what I was doing on the weekend, I lied and said I was going on a date. He replied 'why haven't we gone on one?' And I said, because you never asked me. Then he proceeded to do so. And that's how I got a date. THEN the same day, I was chatting with another fellow, and he asked what I had planned for the weekend, I said I am going on a date (truthfully now), he replied the same way. And that's how I got 2 dates in one weekend.

Nothing came about from the dates, but I realized that when I am not so conveniently available, it puts a fire under the guy's bum to pursue.

Ok now I think I am ready for some judging, and replies that I am completely wrong. On your mark, get set, GO!~

Ugly · May 5, 2013

arwen83 said:

Well, it's not that you're wrong, to a degree. But as you said, it's not universal. I think the 'alpha male' types are the hunter/chaser types. Which means they're more likely to go after you, but also more likely to get tired of you once they get you.
I'm no alpha male, i'm not into chasing after women. If i'm attracted, and she's attracted, great. I'm not going to compete with other men, or play games, to get her. Relationships aren't games. Generally guys who enjoy the hunt aren't looking for relationships, they're looking for women to conquer, by getting them in bed. Once that challenge is over, and you have been conquered, they are over you.
If i were one of those guys and you told me you had a date, i'd move on. But then again i'm not into the whole 'casual dating' scene anyways, so that kind of mentality would turn me off anyways.

error · May 5, 2013

arwen83 said:

This made me smile.

I have a guy friend. We are friends for about 8 or 10 years now. He is not married (yet). We used to talk and hang out a lot. And he would always call me and I would always answer. Thn we could not talk for a while (and not see each other). Now-I didn't answer to his phone calls for about 3-5 times (I was busy or something. and sometimes I just don't want to talk to ppl at all). So-> when he sees me online-he goes like-what's up>? where have you been? what's NEW? is there ANYTHING exciting going on that I need to know? What have you done today (or even better -all week)? Blah blah. And when I joke back and say-oh, too many questions. He asks me more 1677012902 questions. And calls me more often. Now-am I being controlled (by him)? Cause I do feel like that sometimes.

Ugly · May 5, 2013

A swift kick in the giblets would take care of that.
Or you could just tell him he's going overboard and to please back off some.

iTOREtheSKY · May 5, 2013

I'm kinda leaning to agree with Ugly. I'm not into head games or chasing a girl. If a woman likes me,she should say so. I don't mean like actively pursuit me,but just be open. I don't play games with women and ones that get to know me realize that right away,so there should be no desire or need for them to feel as though they have to have me chase them or play head games with me. That sort of thing is cute for all of 10 minutes. I don't want to put my heart & emotions out there and have them treated like a toy. If a woman wants a Conan the Barbarian type who will chase & conquer them,I'm not that guy. I don't think I ever was & I'm not gonna start now in my early 40's. Life's too short to mess with hearts & minds. Love isn't a game. If all you want to do in life (or for a season) is mess around & play cat and mouse with the opposite sex,go for it...many people like that & find it exciting. Personally,I can think of a lot more exciting things to do once you admit to one another that you have feelings. (and no I don't mean try to go to bed with them)

meggars · May 5, 2013

Liamson said:

mmmhmmmm preach!

Catlynn · May 5, 2013

Who brought this thread back to life?

I still feel the same as I did on the first page. ^_^

I'm kinda pro-honesty. I'll give room for a little chase, but if I like you, I'll tell you. Trust me.

iTOREtheSKY · May 5, 2013

Catlynn said:

**waits**............................................lol

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