Mr./Mrs. Perfect.

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hmmmm... what id like in a guy

1: Loves God above all else.
2: strong Christian/ involved with church
3: witty/funny
4: likes to read
5: likes to go to concerts
6: likes the same music as i do
7: is sweet and thoughtful
thats pretty much everything i require in a guy. and i usually go for the nerd/geek/loser types lol.
 
may I suggest something.Prayer.When I was a little girl,I had a dad who was not a good dad.He did not abuse me he just was not interested in me.How I handle it is I prayed.Every time my dad was not there for me I would pray.they little prayes ...like Jesus when I grow up give me a daddy for my kids that will kiss them good night or Jesus when I grow up give my kids a daddy that will know their birthday or tell them he loves them.I prayed hundreds of those prayers as a little girl and then I grew up and forgot about those prayers but Jesus did not forget.When my daughter was married and my husband was standing up there giving her away and they were singing Butterfly Kisses.It hit me that Jesus had remembered everyone of those prayers from that little girl and answered them Is he perfect No!But he was an answer to prayer.We have been married 39 years
 
Mr/Mrs perfect

1. Put God number one

:) That's it. If they put God number one in their life, they wont have to worry about things like cheating or anything else. If God is the foundation of your relationship, then what can go wrong? :)
 
aww.. thats a very heat touching story flossie! thanks for sharing it!

another thing i do while im waiting for my MR right... I pray for him. that God will protect him and take care of him and help him make the right decisions!
 
I'd like a Christian guy.
Who's a virgin.
Wants kids!!
Hopefully a good sense of humor (which does not involve southpark).
Does not drink, smoke or cuss.

As for the age/physical appearance stuff...i'm becoming less and less picky. i used to be really picky about height and age but... I don't want to close any doors that God may have opened.

I would prefer someone older than me tho..
 
From my experience and studies I have found that when there is only 1 area that matters marriages work out.

The average marriage fails after 3 years in (2008) (80%) - After 3 years you have a 72% chance of divorcing. After 5 years of marriage you have a 25% chance of divorce. The percentage drops from here, but NEVER goes to 0. The divorce rate is 61% in the church and 45% out of the church - I think the reasons for so in "pedestals"

I know above stats are sad and depressing, but lets keep it real and honest.

Here are the things that are important. ( I honestly say ONLY)

1) That She be Christian (Fully walking the walk and Talking the talk)(The perfect, but walking what she believes.)
2) That She have the same "Calling" as you. I.e: If God has called you to be a Worship leader, the girl NEEDS to love worship and be able to worship with you. If you are called to be a Youth Pastor or Pastor, Missionary, or a pew sitter, that must be the commonality. The marriage body needs to work together not pull in two directions.
3) She needs to thirsty and hunger for the Word. Now, it's nice that she might always be reading, but lets be real, we all fall short in that area, BUT like the sin-nature, she must have conviction there to say, you know I NEED to read more, so I can grow more.
4) She needs to be able to pray with me. Marriage is a lot of Spiritual warfare. Satan is afraid is us doing GOD's work which defeats his kingdom, so imagine when to people are sold out, no compromise, on fire, recklessly abounded, to death for Jesus. Satan's a Punk and doesn't want that, so Pray is what will make your way through the rough times.
5) The desire to learn (not just the way of the bible, but the way of the world) It is unacceptable for a woman not to know the basics of life. (Changing a tire, Changing the oil, Simple plumbing, Finances, ) To a lot of you this ma sound like a lot, but its not, imagine the guy having to know how to learn, handle and react in emergencies to this very things, and A LOT MORE. Be my helper and actually help. Same goes with me and having kids, and house cleaning and cooking, I need to know, (already do) OR want to learn how to do what my girl can do. That way we can balance life out.
6) Strength and weakness is the final thing: Its important that if you are strong weak at prayer your partner needs to be Stronger, and if you are stronger at reading the Word, you need to the the strength for her weakness.

Here is my personal note: Girls DO NOT chose a man who is weaker than you spiritually. He is the spiritual leader NOT you. If you like someone and they are not strong enough in their walk. Dont date him and hope he gets stronger. Cause you might be really surprised when it gets worse or the guy even walks away from GOD.
 
shiningthrupain said:
....ahaha nice Jenni....
1. He must be a Christian Man....and actually FOLLOW God...and have a PURE heart..mmhmm.
2. He must be a family man...not a business then family man.
3. He must be random...haha and not boring...
4. He must be loyal, honest, funny, serious, goofy, haha...
yea that's all I feel like typing for now
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She sounds perfect, shiningthrupain. Send her my way. ROFL :p
 
shiningthrupain said:
2. He must be a family man...not a business then family man.
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That's very important. That can be a tough situation for men because they consider it to be their role to provide for the family. Therefore, they (or so I've heard) can consider putting their business first to be doing what's ultimately best for their family. However, men need to remember that (while it is very noble to provide for one's family because the world is full of men who don't) there's more to providing for one's family than just money. Furthermore, although I don't have a husband and kids, if I did I could imagine myself doing selfish things and telling myself that it is for the benefit of my family. For example, if a man puts his business before his family because he likes making money and climbing the corporate ladder, but has convinced himself that it's just for his family, that's the kind of guy I don't want to be married to.
 
On the other hand, a lot of men, and women for that matter, find themselves in what sociologist call (if I remember correctly) a role strain.* That's one's role pulls them in different directions. Like I had a classmate in university who was a new mom. She learned to study and feed at the same time, but sometimes she had to make the choice between playing with her baby and writing and writing a term paper. She felt guilty when she was doing school work instead of spending time with her baby, but when she wasn't doing school work she felt guilty because she was getting educated for the long term benefit of her baby. I bet men often feel like they'd like to spend more time with their families but they're too worried about making enough money to make ends meet. Even worse are the men who don't let their families in on why they work so much because they don't want to worry them. When I was a kid, my dad made good money but had very little job security. There was a round of lay-offs in 1990 that was really scary but in hindsight I'm glad my parents didn't worry me too much.

Anyway, the point is, I hope that one day if I'm married I'll be the kind of wife my mom was during those times: very frugal and very supportive of my dad.

*I used to confuse this with what I think is called a role conflict which is when one has two different roles that pull them in different directions. Classic example is adult daughter who must care for her aging mother and this is taking her away from her children whom she also must care for
 
While I certainly think that "Mrs. Perfect" (or "Mr." if a woman's reading this) is a myth, I do believe that God will bless His children with a wonderful spouse, especially if we place Him in charge of the search.

That being said, we all have our preferences, and here's a few of mine...

Character Traits

- She must have accepted Jesus as her Savior, and also posess a strong moral foundation.
- She won't be unfairly critical, judgmental, or harsh, especially concerning the failures of others.
- She'll be understanding and forgiving, yet not a "pushover" in any way.
- She won't be afraid to hold me accountable for any foolishness or irrseponsibility on my part, and will expect the same in return.
- She'll be brave and capable, yet minding of her foremost need for God, and secondary need for me to protect her as well.
- My attempts to defend her honor won't be met with insult or offense.
- She'll be both trusting and trustworthy in matters of love, loyalty, finance, and sex.
- She'll be honest with me when I ask her questions, and won't resort to playing "mind games".
- She won't allow herself to become excessively drunk.
- She won't smoke (I've seen too many lives ruined by it).
- She'll understand my desire to avoid premarital sexual touching and intercourse, and do the same herself.
- She'll treasure our sexual intimacy once we're married, and won't defile it.
- She'll avoid discussions of our specific sex life with third parties.
- She will know how much her body excites me, and so prior to marriage will refrain from wearing tight or revealing outfits in my presence.
- Once we are married, she will save her revealing clothes for times when we're alone at home.
- She won't want children for at least the first five years of our marriage, if at all.
- Her sense of humor will be full of joy, yet clean and not intentionally offensive.
- Her smile will melt my heart like no one ever has.
- She won't swear excessively, if at all, and especially won't take God's name in vain.

Physical Traits
- Approximately 5' 6" - 5" 10" tall.
- Between 140 - 180 pounds.
- Slight athletic build, but not overt.
- Fairly long hair (middle of her back at most); preferrably red or blonde in color.
- Blue, green, or hazel eyes.
- Lots of curves (hey, it's a guy thing).
 
:-O "a few" ?? haha gawsh movie! i used to have a big long line....now i've got it down to a few basics

- Male
- Christian (understands the whole spiritual leader of the household...n such)
- Wants kids
- There needs to be chemistry
- Not a drinker, smoker or drug do-er/dealer



Moviefan2k4 said:
While I certainly think that "Mrs. Perfect" (or "Mr." if a woman's reading this) is a myth, I do believe that God will bless His children with a wonderful spouse, especially if we place Him in charge of the search.

That being said, we all have our preferences, and here's a few of mine...

Character Traits

- She must have accepted Jesus as her Savior, and also posess a strong moral foundation.
- She won't be unfairly critical, judgmental, or harsh, especially concerning the failures of others.
- She'll be understanding and forgiving, yet not a "pushover" in any way.
- She won't be afraid to hold me accountable for any foolishness or irrseponsibility on my part, and will expect the same in return.
- She'll be brave and capable, yet minding of her foremost need for God, and secondary need for me to protect her as well.
- My attempts to defend her honor won't be met with insult or offense.
- She'll be both trusting and trustworthy in matters of love, loyalty, finance, and sex.
- She'll be honest with me when I ask her questions, and won't resort to playing "mind games".
- She won't allow herself to become excessively drunk.
- She won't smoke (I've seen too many lives ruined by it).
- She'll understand my desire to avoid premarital sexual touching and intercourse, and do the same herself.
- She'll treasure our sexual intimacy once we're married, and won't defile it.
- She'll avoid discussions of our specific sex life with third parties.
- She will know how much her body excites me, and so prior to marriage will refrain from wearing tight or revealing outfits in my presence.
- Once we are married, she will save her revealing clothes for times when we're alone at home.
- She won't want children for at least the first five years of our marriage, if at all.
- Her sense of humor will be full of joy, yet clean and not intentionally offensive.
- Her smile will melt my heart like no one ever has.
- She won't swear excessively, if at all, and especially won't take God's name in vain.

Physical Traits

- Approximately 5' 6" - 5" 10" tall.
- Between 140 - 180 pounds.
- Slight athletic build, but not overt.
- Fairly long hair (middle of her back at most); preferrably red or blonde in color.
- Blue, green, or hazel eyes.
- Lots of curves (hey, it's a guy thing).
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I've had that list on my computer for a long time; in posting it here, I omitted a few specifics I thought might be considered "overkill". I believe that where such an important issue as marriage is concerned, sometimes its important to really specify what you'd like to have in a husband or wife, both for yourself and for God. After all, have you ever heard the phrase "God has a sense of humor"? Wouldn't want to leave too much unaccounted for, now would we? LOL ;)
 
1) A Christian man. Someone who's a devoted follower of Christ and who will love God MORE than me.
2) Needs to have a great sense of humor--but also needs to be serious at times when it needs to be serious. Ya know?
3) Needs to have a compassionate heart, also understanding.
4) Needs to provide for his family (me and if we have kids together).
5) Needs to be honest and open with me!
6) And I would loev to marry a man with a British accent or any other accent. ;) hahah. But if not, I'll do fine without one. But that's basically my ideal mate <3
 
Wow some of you really know what you want.. lol

Well for me.
1. He must be a christiaan and know his place as leader in the home.
2> He must be a help mate
3. Know how to have fun.
4. Show great respect towards woman and children.
5. know how to comunicate.
6. love me and only me.
7. non smoker, drinker and does not do drugs.
I been in a loveless marriage.. I will stay single before i ever go back there agian
I know there is no one perfect, but I alos know that if you truely love someone,
you will do all you can to uplift and encourage each other and not tear each other down.
 
There's no such thing as Mr. and Mrs. Perfect. I thought there was before and i was wrong.
 
o.o hm..

smarter/ more mature than me
but doesn't rub it in my face :p
 
flossie said:
may I suggest something.Prayer.When I was a little girl,I had a dad who was not a good dad.He did not abuse me he just was not interested in me.How I handle it is I prayed.Every time my dad was not there for me I would pray.they little prayes ...like Jesus when I grow up give me a daddy for my kids that will kiss them good night or Jesus when I grow up give my kids a daddy that will know their birthday or tell them he loves them.I prayed hundreds of those prayers as a little girl and then I grew up and forgot about those prayers but Jesus did not forget.When my daughter was married and my husband was standing up there giving her away and they were singing Butterfly Kisses.It hit me that Jesus had remembered everyone of those prayers from that little girl and answered them Is he perfect No!But he was an answer to prayer.We have been married 39 years
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wipes away a few tears...seriously... awesome story!
 
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