Conversation stoppers on that FIRST date..."What? You just told me 'that?"

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GreenNnice

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After having met a girl online or some way, by chance at a grocery store, library, wherever, and, you talked a bit, he mentioned he was a Christian, you liked that fact, and he arranged a first date between you two.

What, after meeting for coffee or food, has he/she said that was a BOMBSHELL that effectively ended the date, then and there ?

I had a girl tell me she spoke in tongues once on a date and I didn't speak in tongues. Just to note, we talked on eharmony 1-2 months before that, and I guess, that was something we never talked about but certainly should have. Not that I judge, I just haven't spoken in tongues and it is not as much of a shocker at 44 as it was at 34, when this happened, but, yeah, it was just a revelation that was out of my Christian comfort zone.
Immediately after I admitted I didn't speak in tongues. she said, 'I can see this isn't going to work.' She got up and left right after we had ordered our drinks, if I remember correctly. It was a bit odd, I would never do that, i mean, we could have still talked about something but I don't know. She probably was trying to save me the food bill, maybe, I would have paid. Girls are from Mars, that's all I got to say :D

Oh, just kiddin' ya, miladies, you are from God :)
 
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arwen83

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I once had a date with a fellow that said the D-word on the first date, he said that he was pretty dependent on his ex-girlfriend, and didn't have many friends because of it. He told me hadn't much luck with getting past a second date with girls. I asked what he liked to do for hobbies, he told me likes to nap and drive around the city. He also, picked apart his sushi rolls, didn't really care for it I guess. Then as soon as I got home, he texted me asking for another date. I'm sure you could guess my response.
 
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kayem77

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arwen83 said:
I once had a date with a fellow that said the D-word on the first date, he said that he was pretty dependent on his ex-girlfriend, and didn't have many friends because of it. He told me hadn't much luck with getting past a second date with girls. I asked what he liked to do for hobbies, he told me likes to nap and drive around the city. He also, picked apart his sushi rolls, didn't really care for it I guess. Then as soon as I got home, he texted me asking for another date. I'm sure you could guess my response.
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As I was reading your post ,I just kept trying to remember all the words that might be offensive that start with D but I couldn't get it :/. I think I won't be able to sleep tonight.
 
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arwen83

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kayem77 said:
As I was reading your post ,I just kept trying to remember all the words that might be offensive that start with D but I couldn't get it :/. I think I won't be able to sleep tonight.
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D-word= dependent
Have a good sleep :)
 
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kayem77

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arwen83 said:
D-word= dependent
Have a good sleep :)
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I considered it since you said it afterwards, but I thought you were only making a list of things you didn't like about him lol. Thank you :) I can sleep in peace now.
 
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Oh, I thought she was talking about a large structure which prevents water from flowing through it.
 
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mmmmm I had a girl say "I want to be the only girl for you'' once...we had just met
 
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I knew a guy who told his wife that he was going to marry her when they first met. :) As a recent commercial says "it's only weird if it doesn't work." Hehehe
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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What I used to hate was going on dates and having the person spill all of their problems and every bad thing anyone had ever done to them (especially their last boyfriend) on me throughout the first date. There was never a second date when that occurred. Never. Goodbye you FREAK!
 
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arwen83 said:
I once had a date with a fellow that said the D-word on the first date, he said that he was pretty dependent on his ex-girlfriend, and didn't have many friends because of it. He told me hadn't much luck with getting past a second date with girls. I asked what he liked to do for hobbies, he told me likes to nap and drive around the city. He also, picked apart his sushi rolls, didn't really care for it I guess. Then as soon as I got home, he texted me asking for another date. I'm sure you could guess my response.
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Why of course, you told him you have absolutely nothing on your agenda tomorrow, and that you'd love to immediately get married and have 2.5 kids, 1.2 dogs, 2.3 cats, and 1 white picket fence.

As a disclaimer though, I often do wonder if it's tougher for guys in that guys don't usually have many close friends and rely on a woman to talk to about things other than games and sports, as well as companionship.

My beloved Grandpa lost my Grandma after 64 years of marriage and he told me he didn't know how to make friends or have any other companionship except for what he had with her. It was quite heartbreaking. I would imagine many guys feel the same way, even without such a long history. Society isn't very supportive of men having strong social networks.
 
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arwen83

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seoulsearch said:
Why of course, you told him you have absolutely nothing on your agenda tomorrow, and that you'd love to immediately get married and have 2.5 kids, 1.2 dogs, 2.3 cats, and 1 white picket fence.

As a disclaimer though, I often do wonder if it's tougher for guys in that guys don't usually have many close friends and rely on a woman to talk to about things other than games and sports, as well as companionship.

My beloved Grandpa lost my Grandma after 64 years of marriage and he told me he didn't know how to make friends or have any other companionship except for what he had with her. It was quite heartbreaking. I would imagine many guys feel the same way, even without such a long history. Society isn't very supportive of men having strong social networks.
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I like my kids, dogs and cats whole thank you very much. 1/8 of a cat is no use to me :p
 
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Jullianna

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I love it when a guy spends an entire dinner bashing all of his ex-gfs. :rolleyes:
 
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arwen83 said:
I like my kids, dogs and cats whole thank you very much. 1/8 of a cat is no use to me :p
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Some would argue that 1 whole cat is of no use too.... :)
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Obscene medical conditions

The whole history of you and your ex girlfriend/ex wife

Your whole life story starting from in-utero

Saying I Love you

Asking me for my best friends phone number so you can go out with her.

Talking to me about how you really like super thin girls, with dark hair, then telling me i would look really hot if i would just lose ten pounds.

Saying "Sorry if i accidently call you my ex girlfriends name, it just means i really like you."


These have all been first and second date encounters.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
Obscene medical conditions
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Sorry, Nod.

I really tried to keep myself from telling you about the problem with my obscene bunions, but I just couldn't help it. You were so pretty, I thought, "Surely this is a girl who would care about my overgrown bunions!!"

I promise to be better behaved the next time we go out. (Do you mind listening to the details of an obscene earwax condition...)
 
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Sorry, Nod.

I really tried to keep myself from telling you about the problem with my obscene bunions, but I just couldn't help it. You were so pretty, I thought, "Surely this is a girl who would care about my overgrown bunion problems!!"

I promise to be better behaved the next time we go out. (Do you mind listening to the details of an obscene earwax condition...)
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For you, im willing to let it go ;)
 
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Oh my goodness Nod... do they have no social skills...

Tough one hey. Depends on your aims I guess, some things are just dumb to mention on the first few dates, having said that...

There are some things that need to be talked about, I don't want to spend time and emotion investing in someone if it is just going to hurt us both. For example... if you want to be rich and live in the middle of an expensive Sydney and have me working long hours and earning to earn a heap of money that we don't need. Not going to work.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
Obscene medical conditions.
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Nod, on our first date, I would show up limping, sweating profusely, my right eye would be twitching uncontrollably, and I would stutter every time I pronounce your name - Hhhhhh-oooooooo-lllllllllllll-yyyyyyy.

Would you want to know my medical conditions then, or would you prefer to live with the mystery and give me a second date???

I need to know ahead of time, so I can decide whether or not to have major corrective surgery!!!
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
For you, im willing to let it go ;)
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YAHOO!!!

*Gazes DEEP into Nod's eyes*

*and starts right in about her rampant mole problems (as in the skin kind, not the kind that dig holes in your yard) that may or may not involve a few hairs as well*

*all the while calling her 'Heather' and asking for 'Heather's' phone number... only to ask Heather how great Nod is, of course!!* :D

Nod, I can't wait until our next long string of successive, obsessive, compulsive dates. I have so much to tell you about (my exes.) Not to mention the fact that I'm already practicing how to say "I love you" about 2500 times in a row (just think of an auctioneer on speed.)

And, the best part is, she just gave me PERMISSION, ladies and gents!! You know what that means? It means no restraining orders, that's what it means. WAHOO!!! My dating issues are SOLVED.
 
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Descyple said:
Nod, on our first date, I would show up limping, sweating profusely, my right eye would be twitching uncontrollably, and I would stutter every time I pronounce your name - Hhhhhh-oooooooo-lllllllllllll-yyyyyyy.

Would you want to know my medical conditions then, or would you prefer to live with the mystery and give me a second date???

I need to know ahead of time, so I can decide whether or not to have major corrective surgery!!!
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Descyple, "Rampant Ego-Mania" is its own obscene medical condition. :D j/k! j/k! If you're going to burden us with an obscene medical history, at least make it an accurate one.

AND, we don't want to hear about all the callouses you have from carrying around those mirrors all the time. :)
 
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