Surviving Church as a Single

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Sharp

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I doubt I would talk to anyone haha! That's the way it usually goes.

Ok so you guys are saying people like to talk about babies at church? BAM that's what I'll do, I'll bring a baby with me next time
 
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SamIam

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#42
I dont talk to anyone at church unless they talk to me... and then at that since i dont know them... i dont say much and what i do say sounds really dumb!!!! Sharp... where are you gonna get a baby from!!!! hahahha
 

Sharp

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well maybe i could just come in with one of those prams with a cover on it so they won't be able to see that its empty. then i'll get a reeeeally shiny fake wedding ring and flash it around saying look! i'm married AND i have children, i'm the perfect demographic, talk to me!!!!!
 
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SamIam

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#44
hahahahah thats actually not a bad idea!!
 

J0Y

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#45
LOL....Sharp if you came to my Church I may talk to you! My church is friendly, but just over-run with a baby boom atm! Ahh well....
 
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MusicalMe

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#46
Alright, I hope this works... I just read how to embed a youtube video. Anyway, this has nothing to do with being single, but since we're talking about how hard it can be to feel welcomed at church, I thought it was appropriate.

What if Starbucks marketed like the church?

[video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D7_dZTrjw9I[/video]
 
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missy2shoes

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#47
hahaha loved it when the guy at the end goes....'Alrighhhht ;)'..........that was soooo brilliant and boy, have I felt as awkward as that couple :p
 

Kakashi

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#48
Man that was so hard to watch because it's so t rue. I've been there done that.
 
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MusicalMe

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#49
Like when they're in line and the people in front of them look them up and down and don't say anything.... I've soooo been there....
 
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Narn

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#50
I am a single guy and I go to a small church. I think the hardest thing is I want to be a hospitable person invite people over and so on. Its hard to approach the others my age cause they are all couples and why in the world would you come to my place? Its awkward IDK if anyone feel like that. Mind you I am only 20 but it seems the majority are couples that are my age and I am the misfit. I mean couples that are between 18 and 25.
 

seoulsearch

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#51
Oh my gosh, that video just makes me want to rush out and buy someone a scone...

I've had my share of feeling that way at churches too--I wish all of us singles could ban together and choose random churches to crash in groups... then WE could be the ones to stare THEM down... :)

*scone, anyone?*
 

seoulsearch

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Actually, and I hope this isn't too evil, but I once tried to talk my friend Mariea into going to a town about an hour away from us on Sundays and "crashing" churches--showing up in miniskirts, tank tops, wild hair, too much makeup, and fake (but real-looking) tattoos in order to see what kind of response we would get.

And, keeping it real... I told her I wondered how many guys would try to slip us their numbers.

And how many of those guys would be married/deacons/elders/men of authority in the church.

I'm NOT trying to sound negative, but real. (My own social psychology experiment.) We never went... but I'd do it and publish the results as a dissertation in a heartbeat if I were still in school. Again, not in condemnation, but to say hey, we actually have to SHOW people the love of God, not just talk about it... myself included!
 
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missy2shoes

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#53
ohhhhh something similar happened in a church once Seoul.......the visiting speaker disguised himself as a hobo like character......and quietly sat at the back of the church......everyone was worried at how the guest speaker hadn't arrived yet and what were they gonna do.....NO ONE spoke to the 'bum' in the back corner of the building...people stared but didn't make him feel welcomed.....when finally the pastor stood up to say that the speaker was obviously delayed, the hobo got up and headed for the pulpit......made for an unforgettable lesson ;)
 
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SamIam

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My step dad is a pastor and he told a story one sunday of how... a pastor down in georgia i believe had just started preaching his sermon and all of a sudden these men with masks on and ''guns'' ran in the church service and started yellin... whoever here is a christian get up now! well he said more than half the congragation got up and ran out of the church! and the others that were left stood up.... The guys took there masks off and they were the deacons...they took there seats and the pastor said NOW i can begin my sermon... and he went on.
 
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missy2shoes

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#55
ohhhh I've heard that too Sam!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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SamIam

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#56
you have????????????? isnt that a neat story! i mean what would you have done! Would i have ran or would i have stayed!!
 

seoulsearch

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May 23, 2009
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WOW. Those are amazing stories... wish I would have been there... but truthfully, I may have been one of the ones who ran out!
 
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SamIam

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i would hope that i would be one of the ones that stayed! but then when your put in the situation you never know! On t.v. i heard the story of a group of people who gathered together for bible studies in china. and since this wasnt allowed, they had to be really hush hush about it, Well some government officals got wind of it somehow and sent some of the police to the house they were holdin the bible study at, they came in the door and saw all of them praying and holding some bibles. They told everyone to put their bibles on the ground and spit on it, and they would live if they did this, all of them did it, except for this 11 year old girl, as she was walking by one of the bibles she stopped and picked it up, and wiped the spit off of it, one of the police men shot her in the head, but what a little girl!!! i would hope i would have half the courage of her!
 
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missy2shoes

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#59
Wow!!!.....................same!!
 
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chelsers

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#60
ohhhhh something similar happened in a church once Seoul.......the visiting speaker disguised himself as a hobo like character......and quietly sat at the back of the church......everyone was worried at how the guest speaker hadn't arrived yet and what were they gonna do.....NO ONE spoke to the 'bum' in the back corner of the building...people stared but didn't make him feel welcomed.....when finally the pastor stood up to say that the speaker was obviously delayed, the hobo got up and headed for the pulpit......made for an unforgettable lesson ;)
That is amazing and a great lesson.