When I was younger, I believed a man basically did OWN his wife and his kids. I was told by other women, not to get married, because men think they own you. I told my older step-sister, "I thought after you were married, he basically did own you."
She told me that a man doesnt necessarily OWN you as much as he is responsible for you, and he is the head of the family, and the provider, but he doesn't really own you. My mom wasn't very happy with life, when she believed that my dad owned her, and she would follow his every demand because she believed he owned her (that and my mom is just a natural follower).
I'm not saying my husband thinks he owns me, Im asking, because now my little sister thinks that a man will OWN her, when she gets married, and she says that she'll have no say in the matter of where she wants to live, or what she wants in life, if her husband doesn't agree with it.
I thought it was give and take from both sides, and where you don't agree, there's room for negotiating and discussing things like adults should.
Id hate to see my little sister grow up, get married and live under her husbands foot. She'd be miserable. A woman has every right to be a person of her own, am I right? She deserves respect too right?
Im not necessarily a feminist, I know women have rights, but I also believe what the Bible has to say about it. Yes, a woman is to be a help-meet to her husband, and she is under him in authority, but I don't think that means that she should be under him in everything else as well. I thought a man and a woman were supposed to be equal to each other.
Yes, I believe a woman should be submissive to her husband, but I don't believe that means she shouldn't have a say. They don't need to argue about it, she doesn't need to fight her way through it, people can talk things out like adults and she'll still be submissive to him, because she's not fighting him.
I think that my marriage, and my growing relationship with my husband, is still young, and we're still learning, but to work together on things (so the wife can be a help-meet and a companion, like she's supposed to), is so much better when neither of them are OWNED by the other.
Am I right?
She told me that a man doesnt necessarily OWN you as much as he is responsible for you, and he is the head of the family, and the provider, but he doesn't really own you. My mom wasn't very happy with life, when she believed that my dad owned her, and she would follow his every demand because she believed he owned her (that and my mom is just a natural follower).
I'm not saying my husband thinks he owns me, Im asking, because now my little sister thinks that a man will OWN her, when she gets married, and she says that she'll have no say in the matter of where she wants to live, or what she wants in life, if her husband doesn't agree with it.
I thought it was give and take from both sides, and where you don't agree, there's room for negotiating and discussing things like adults should.
Id hate to see my little sister grow up, get married and live under her husbands foot. She'd be miserable. A woman has every right to be a person of her own, am I right? She deserves respect too right?
Im not necessarily a feminist, I know women have rights, but I also believe what the Bible has to say about it. Yes, a woman is to be a help-meet to her husband, and she is under him in authority, but I don't think that means that she should be under him in everything else as well. I thought a man and a woman were supposed to be equal to each other.
Yes, I believe a woman should be submissive to her husband, but I don't believe that means she shouldn't have a say. They don't need to argue about it, she doesn't need to fight her way through it, people can talk things out like adults and she'll still be submissive to him, because she's not fighting him.
I think that my marriage, and my growing relationship with my husband, is still young, and we're still learning, but to work together on things (so the wife can be a help-meet and a companion, like she's supposed to), is so much better when neither of them are OWNED by the other.
Am I right?
Anyway, there isn't much I ask of her, except to give me some space now and then. 
