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We should care enough about our spouse's feelings that if they were not comfortable with it we would not want to do it period, no discussion necessary ..........................
NDwhitney,
I would agree to that to an extent, yet I think there a difference between emotional manipulation , or controlling behavior which in itself is something different. Too many times that gets pushed to an extreme of something else where one gets too selfish ( I unhappy with this and that so you can't do this or that cause I don't like that. ) I want everything my way, respect my feelings or you don't care enough which turns into a all bout me relationship. There is plenty of things one could be uncomfortable with and that's something that couples need to learn to work through together. But just cause example... Johnny don't feel comfortable with his wife going to play volleyball doesn't mean she has to stop doing it . Yes he can voice how he feel to her, yet at the same time consideration should be taken towards how she may feel. Each decision in a relationship has a consequence, and that consequence will affect not just one but, both especially in marriage. So if its a problem with control, or problem with distrust issues it will come to light in other areas.
NDwhitney,
I would agree to that to an extent, yet I think there a difference between emotional manipulation , or controlling behavior which in itself is something different. Too many times that gets pushed to an extreme of something else where one gets too selfish ( I unhappy with this and that so you can't do this or that cause I don't like that. ) I want everything my way, respect my feelings or you don't care enough which turns into a all bout me relationship. There is plenty of things one could be uncomfortable with and that's something that couples need to learn to work through together. But just cause example... Johnny don't feel comfortable with his wife going to play volleyball doesn't mean she has to stop doing it . Yes he can voice how he feel to her, yet at the same time consideration should be taken towards how she may feel. Each decision in a relationship has a consequence, and that consequence will affect not just one but, both especially in marriage. So if its a problem with control, or problem with distrust issues it will come to light in other areas.
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