How do husbands feel about male gynecologists?

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souljahblyndslym

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We should care enough about our spouse's feelings that if they were not comfortable with it we would not want to do it period, no discussion necessary ..........................
NDwhitney,
I would agree to that to an extent, yet I think there a difference between emotional manipulation , or controlling behavior which in itself is something different. Too many times that gets pushed to an extreme of something else where one gets too selfish ( I unhappy with this and that so you can't do this or that cause I don't like that. ) I want everything my way, respect my feelings or you don't care enough which turns into a all bout me relationship. There is plenty of things one could be uncomfortable with and that's something that couples need to learn to work through together. But just cause example... Johnny don't feel comfortable with his wife going to play volleyball doesn't mean she has to stop doing it . Yes he can voice how he feel to her, yet at the same time consideration should be taken towards how she may feel. Each decision in a relationship has a consequence, and that consequence will affect not just one but, both especially in marriage. So if its a problem with control, or problem with distrust issues it will come to light in other areas.
 
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Stephen100

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souljahblyndslym said:
As I haven't fully read thru every page of post it kinda seems... um.... the OP has a personal issue against the fact of a man doing delicate medical work on his spouse if he was married. Seemingly so rooted thru a distrust or insecurity of the chance the man may be thinking this or that. This is all founded on what the Op feels within himself, I as in being a cna1 before gave men and women bed baths, changed diapers, and wiped butts and the majority of them was grateful someone was giving them the care they needed for that. But to be honest insecurity does not give you a right to dictate what your wife can or cant do. A husband is not a dictator so hopefully your decisions you decide our founded out of love for your future (wife)... If not I can only wish you good luck it seems YOU are the problem, not the doctors , not a women not respecting your feelings, but its a personal problem. And please don't confuse controlling one cause of distrust or some underlying problem, with being a man leading a marriage. ooooo I am out my element I usually don't defend the womenz.... lol
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Yer, that's it, twist it around to make me out to be the bad one. Maybe you should speak to all those women who have felt violated by male doctors being creeps. I've come across plenty of these women. How awful of me that I would have a problem with my future wife allowing another man to stick his face and fingers in her private area. You're the one with the problem, not me.
 
leelee

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it is pointless to flog a dead horse.
 
Stephen100

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Ndwhitney said:
First of all, its silly to say that it is a slippery slope for a man to ask or tell his wife not to see a man doctor b/c we live in a day and age when there are tons of doctors to choose from, male and female! She wouldn't be missing out on quality medical care, maybe if she was that would be a consideration but since she isn't that's a mute point. Secondly, Idk where ya'll get your information but I've never heard of anyone having an orgasm during a medical exam! They are uncomfortable, awkward, even humiliating, sometimes even painful! They don't feel good, physically or emotionally. Anyone who has a sexual reaction to such a thing has other issues leaving bigger concerns then just avoiding a male doctor. Also, I think its more a matter of personal preference, my mother-in-law (the most conservative and prude person on the planet) thinks nothing of using a male OB b/c in her time female doctors were few and far between. I, on the other hand, grew up using all female doctors, and on top of that am an extremely modest and private person, I hate even being examined by a female doctor and would never see a male doctor if he were the last doctor on earth, unless of course my husband decided to become a doctor! Some people are perfectly comfortable with doctors of the opposite sex, we shouldn't judge them. If they are doing it for the wrong reasons that is their business and they will suffer the consequences. Likewise, when someone is not comfortable, particularly if it is your spouse, we should respect them and their feelings. It's not about control or submitting, its about respecting each other, loving each other, and most of all honoring one another. We should care enough about our spouse's feelings that if they were not comfortable with it we would not want to do it period, no discussion necessary.
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Thank you Whitney, you're absolutely right. It has nothing to do with being possessive. It's about respect. As a man I know very well that doctors are men first and job second. It's natural for a man to get aroused when looking at an attractive woman exposing her private area. And look at how many male doctors lose their licence for improper behavior. I think any caring husband would not want his wife seeing a male doctor for intimate exams, unless it was a life or death situation.
 
leelee

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but some people seem to enjoy beatin dead horses.
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Yeh clearly. It would be really nice to see a new post, you know, something other than the OP using the same thing over and over and over again.
 
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wisebeardman

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leelee said:
Yeh clearly. It would be really nice to see a new post, you know, something other than the OP using the same thing over and over and over again.
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maybe someone should smack the cd player. its skipping
 
leelee

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If you had hit it you would have had the memory forever.
 
Sudden

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I'm kind of wondering why the mad ravings of a banned poster have not been deleted? Is it customary for them to retain their voice even although they have offended many?
 
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chuinchoy

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my wife gynie is a male. i heard that this gynie is very popular have lots of patients.
 
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SLG26

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My husband perfers a woman
 
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jinx

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My husband doesn't like it, but doesn't protest about it when I had one ( i have female one now cause we moved ) but he tells me that a lot of the men he knows always say that they wouldn't be one cause women's issues can get pretty nasty.;)
 
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