Hi ,
lets look at this from another point of view , if your church does not accept others who are different from you , and they know you quite well and make a point of ...wont ,... accept you , you can rest assured you will never ever get a or any hugs from those people .
Okay I,ll take it that most here and those with in the church,s your all taking about are in the main normal as in , if your a male your a male or a female your a female , okay, does that come as about right , if so , then this lets myself off the hook ,
Why because I'm not normal okay , and because of that I wont be given a hug wether I like it or not ,
I know for a fact and have experanced it from a church group and was told I would never be accepted because if you,v read my profile of being intersexed even though I'm an intersexed female this is what happens ,I know of other church groups that are the same ,
So even though we are ...born... different we are treated different from others my REAL friends are out side the church,s and they understand, why should we be treated different because I don't have my womb or don't have any organs male or female , they don't care they accept and they give myself a hug that really means so much more ,its real and its something many in the churchs here in New Zealand don't have a clue about they talk a lot yet are not real in their lives ,
so you know I have 58 years of being involved with ...churchs ...and I have very few who I call as friends , in fact some I know attend a meeting house church building and I,v known them for 20 years and one friend we hug out on the street , its real and means as I said so so much , they don't Judge , they accept ,
I think you need to look at the intenstions of people and are they real or just acting on a Sunday at a meeting to look good ,
Any way to not get a hug be different , now that works ........life experance ,
...noeleena...