Dude does have a point. Why go to church with people you feel that way about? We would never do the "You gotta hug everyone" crap at the SPV (Vineyard), but we WANT hugs from our big family. But, of course, I personally, wouldn't call some of the big Mega places really a church family, anyway. I can hardly imagine belonging to a church where we didn't all know one another.
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i'm not a hugger, but there are ladies at church who hug everybody, so i know they are going to hug me lol. i'm ok with that. if a brother from church initiates a hug, i'm more comfortable with the side hug. now, my childhood friends know better than to hug me because they know my personal space bubble is very important to me, but i let them hug me on my birthday. lol! now if a friend moves away, and it's been a while since i last saw him/her, the next time i see said friend, we hug.
everybody is different, and we should respect it. it could be that some don't want a "forced" hug because some time in their past, their space was invaded. others, it could be their culture.
now, if i initiate a hug or welcome your hug 150%, it's because i'm really comfortable with you. i don't care about my personal space bubble lol. (this usually happens with family and really close friends).
everybody is different, and we should respect it. it could be that some don't want a "forced" hug because some time in their past, their space was invaded. others, it could be their culture.
now, if i initiate a hug or welcome your hug 150%, it's because i'm really comfortable with you. i don't care about my personal space bubble lol. (this usually happens with family and really close friends).
M
It depends what you mean by a simple hug.
One of the elders at my church (he is married) seems to go out of his way
to give hugs to all the single ladies as he seems to think they are
missing out on something because they are not married. His wife
just laughs it off.
I try to keep a weather eye on where he is and avoid him. One should be able
to go to church, enjoy the service and focus on God, instead of the
whereabouts of the chief among huggers who will pounce on
you with a big hug, just cos you are single.
It's the ones that catch you off guard that are the worst, they perform a
stealth attack from behind.
Urban Dictionary: stealth hug
stealth hug
A hug given via stealthy means, thus surprising the recipient. Stealth huggers
sometimes approach from behind and often comes accompanied by a
proceeding distraction and a following exclamation of "STEALTH HUG!"
Elite stealth huggers involve elaborate schemes to distract the recipient
sometimes by involving an accomplice.
O O O O O O O O O = Safe hugs from a distance.
Some of you I would actually run up to and hug. Your breath or whatever would not matter (after all, it is only a moment). You have already hugged me with words and made me feel appreciated and loved.
I think heaven will be lots and lots of hugs. But the past physical abuses some of us have had will then be completely forgotten, and there will be no need for caution.
Some of you I would actually run up to and hug. Your breath or whatever would not matter (after all, it is only a moment). You have already hugged me with words and made me feel appreciated and loved.
I think heaven will be lots and lots of hugs. But the past physical abuses some of us have had will then be completely forgotten, and there will be no need for caution.
A
Brutha Willaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!
Of course Dude has a point.
We all have a point and we’re all entitled to our own understanding. But what about spiritual understanding?
In the mind of Christ we are to be above reproach... self-controlled… respectable… gentle… temperate… tolerant... patient… using restraint… not laying hands on any man suddenly… considering others… I think we can conclude that we should refrain from enforcing our rights onto others. Our flesh needs to be set aside for the spiritual truth. Doesn't it?
I’m not so concerned with asserting my own right to my private space as I am in reiterating the truth that we should consider those folks who are cautious about random hug-a-thons (of whom I am chief). And let’s face it, not everybody who hugs you in a church building has pure thoughts. There’s plenty of hanky-panky in churches. It’s gotta start somewhere. I’m sure it starts with physical contact. We gotta be prudent and wise, ya know? Use our spiritual noodle. Hugging everyone without discretion invites trouble fo sho.
My 11 siblings and I are not only huggers, but kissers and arm-touchers. We are a physical contact bunch. LOL!
My sons, my daughter & all of their friends literally hung on each other like the disciple John hung on Jesus. My family is not shy about loving one another and loving others. And the words “I love you” are included in any form of communication between us, written or audible.
By the same token, all of us are very respectful of other people’s personal space. If you were friends with any of my family members on Facebook, you’d see that 90% of their posts are regarding considering the rights of others (the unborn and abused animals included).
I think the problem here is the assumption that all the people on this thread are members of a particular religious establishment and have regular physical fellowship with that congregation. My son is on the worship team of the church where he attends and I visit there sometimes. However, I am not a regular member of any specific denomination or organized religion. For the past 10 or so years, I have been discipled by a godly leader who has been like Apostle Paul to countless others and me. We don’t all meet in a building. We talk on the phone, we write letters to one another, we visit each other whenever we can, and he faithfully teaches us online.
I walk by faith, not by sight. I have spiritual intimacy with my brothers & sisters on this site in Jesus Christ. I was drawn to love the Spirit of Jesus Christ in Melita before we ever met in person. I knew in my heart my son would love her, too. She's genuinely beautiful inside and out!
Who doesn’t appreciate hugs, kisses, touches, “I love you’s”? After all, God created us to give and receive love. But my right to be hugged or not isn’t as important as “not looking to our own interests but each of us to the interests of the others,” like it reads in Philippians, ya know?
Of course Dude has a point.
We all have a point and we’re all entitled to our own understanding. But what about spiritual understanding? In the mind of Christ we are to be above reproach... self-controlled… respectable… gentle… temperate… tolerant... patient… using restraint… not laying hands on any man suddenly… considering others… I think we can conclude that we should refrain from enforcing our rights onto others. Our flesh needs to be set aside for the spiritual truth. Doesn't it?
I’m not so concerned with asserting my own right to my private space as I am in reiterating the truth that we should consider those folks who are cautious about random hug-a-thons (of whom I am chief)
. And let’s face it, not everybody who hugs you in a church building has pure thoughts. There’s plenty of hanky-panky in churches. It’s gotta start somewhere. I’m sure it starts with physical contact. We gotta be prudent and wise, ya know? Use our spiritual noodle. Hugging everyone without discretion invites trouble fo sho. My 11 siblings and I are not only huggers, but kissers and arm-touchers. We are a physical contact bunch. LOL!
My sons, my daughter & all of their friends literally hung on each other like the disciple John hung on Jesus. My family is not shy about loving one another and loving others. And the words “I love you” are included in any form of communication between us, written or audible.
By the same token, all of us are very respectful of other people’s personal space. If you were friends with any of my family members on Facebook, you’d see that 90% of their posts are regarding considering the rights of others (the unborn and abused animals included).
I think the problem here is the assumption that all the people on this thread are members of a particular religious establishment and have regular physical fellowship with that congregation. My son is on the worship team of the church where he attends and I visit there sometimes. However, I am not a regular member of any specific denomination or organized religion. For the past 10 or so years, I have been discipled by a godly leader who has been like Apostle Paul to countless others and me. We don’t all meet in a building. We talk on the phone, we write letters to one another, we visit each other whenever we can, and he faithfully teaches us online.
I walk by faith, not by sight. I have spiritual intimacy with my brothers & sisters on this site in Jesus Christ. I was drawn to love the Spirit of Jesus Christ in Melita before we ever met in person. I knew in my heart my son would love her, too. She's genuinely beautiful inside and out!
Who doesn’t appreciate hugs, kisses, touches, “I love you’s”? After all, God created us to give and receive love. But my right to be hugged or not isn’t as important as “not looking to our own interests but each of us to the interests of the others,” like it reads in Philippians, ya know?
C
Hey if that man tries to hug all those poor missing out on hugs single ladies in church do this:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nawoMxQBQ68
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nawoMxQBQ68
C
or this one, altar call self defense traing.
Now I stop with this nonsense, I hope:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FA8iFkdIuOA
Now I stop with this nonsense, I hope:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FA8iFkdIuOA
W
D
Oh now we're talking! Kids flock to me like I'm Mother (or Grandmother) Goose. Tiny babies will smile and coo at me in the grocery store and toddlers grab my hands and chatter away to me. It's fantastic! I love it!! And people with Down's Syndrome are easily drawn to me as well. I am a smiley person... I am approachable... I talk to just about everyone I meet. And just by nature of Christ Jesus I exude the joy of the Lord and am truly happy meeting & talking with people. Ask Melita. She knows I'm silly-happy most of the time. LOL!
I'm just not up for grabs anytime there's a free-for-all hug-a-thon.
LOL!I'm just not up for grabs anytime there's a free-for-all hug-a-thon.
My favorite moment was when I was in the cookie aisle playing pro/con over which pack of cookies to buy. (One pack, but I like four kinds, so I'm holding a pack in each hand while looking at the other choices.) A woman was looking at the cookies pushing her cart with a toddler in the cart, and she yells to a friend at the other end of the aisle, "Why are we even in the cookie aisle?"
She catches me looking at her, so I raise one pack, then the other, widen my eyes, slowly scan down the choices of cookies, smile and shrug.
She burst out laughing.
COOKIES! Why not the cookie aisle? What? You'd rather hang around the chopped liver?
D
Alas, my luck. The first thing I had to give up when becoming disabled is crossing my arms. And I used to walk miles with my arms crossed. It was my preferred stance. (Pain right where my arms land when crossing them. Thought I'd explain since it's a weird disability.)
The two things I miss the most with this disability -- arm crossing and hopping along hopscotch boards when I see one on the sidewalk. (Have you ever seen a 40-something year old woman hopscotching? If you have, that was probably me. lol)
The two things I miss the most with this disability -- arm crossing and hopping along hopscotch boards when I see one on the sidewalk. (Have you ever seen a 40-something year old woman hopscotching? If you have, that was probably me. lol)