How to avoid the church hug

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mailmandan

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Wow, that is a very unsettling picture. Hits #10 on the creepy o meter.
You can say that again! That clown is even more creepy than the guy wearing the "free creepy hugs" shirt! :eek:
 
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skylove7

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I gotta read your thread here Miri...while I eat my soup....
Did anyone find a solution how to avoid the church hug lol

You all tickle me
Lol
Lotsa love doh!
 
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skylove7

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Isn't there like a socially appropriate for strangers hug?
Like a 3 inches between the bodies touching like pat pat your back?

Kinda fake like the prom queen hand movement to crowds....
But yet kind.....


Sigh
I dunno....

Just holler
"I'm burnin' my biscuits!"
And make a b line to the door lol
I dunno
I just hug lol
 
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AuntieAnt

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Coming close to getting AuntieAunt annoyed..... i can see it coming ......

No, I'm not annoyed, LadyLynn. LOL!! And even if I was annoyed, that's my problem, nobody's else's. I would need to just get over my self. :eek:
 
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ladylynn

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No, I'm not annoyed, LadyLynn. LOL!! And even if I was annoyed, that's my problem, nobody's else's. I would need to just get over my self. :eek:

I'm sorry, I was posting as I read from the beginning. Probably that is not always wise because the next posts have resolved and dissolved the issue and they are not even relevant anymore. Apologies to you guys!!
 
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A side of this that seems overlooked.
There's a whole lot of lonely ppl,
and many of them are in churches.
Not everyone has a bubbly personality
or is 'in with the in-crowd'.

Many ppl have been alone their whole life,
and may be shy, or developed an awkwardness
around ppl due to rejection or past hurts,
any number of reasons. And they often feel invisible.....
this can go on for years, and being ignored
or forgotten can become expected,
and feeling almost like that's all that they deserve.

Sometimes they just don't have the courage,
or they spend alot of time wondering
what's wrong with themselves,
often praying in tears before God
for some kind of understanding.

And many times, even though they may appear very cool,
or stoic, or maybe they seem aloof and unfriendly,
or maybe they use humor to hide in, but are overly
ougoing, and ppl misjudge them as being
crude or offensive.......but you know what? ...
many times they're sitting there cool on the outside,
but inside they're thinking,
'Gosh, maybe I'm not the life of the party,
and maybe I'm not the popular, desirable type,
but I'm a person, and I just wish
someone would notice that.....I wish someone
would give me a hug once in a while.

I, myself, don't really know what a true relationship is,
I don't really know what it's like to be genuinely loved,
Loved by another by choice, someone who forgives,
cares, and loves because they really want to, so I don't get
much human compassion, let alone touch, very often.

I try to be friendly in church, and I offer hugs when it seems right,
most of the guys shake hands and might throw in a guys hug,
and some of the women are huggable, usually ones over a certain age,
BUT! it's pretty difficult when you feel like anytime you want to hug a female,
you think they're all thinking you're the worst dirty pervert that ever lived.....
(unless you're a handsome stud in the in-crowd, then it's ok.)

All I'm saying is, don't underestimate the value
of a good, heartgiving loving hug.
It can be an encouragement, therapeudic,
healing, and you just make a lonely persons day...
or more.
Sometimes what breaks my heart more than
needing a hug and none comes, is wanting
to give someone a hug, but for whatever reason,
you can't, and that hurts. Believe me, I know.
There's ppl in this life I wish I could hug right now.

But, as bad as it would be to get to a point
where you're thinking, 'Gosh, I wish I would've
given that person a hug while I had a chance',
it would be worse to get to a point where you
just don't care.

For what it's worth, Jesus loves you,
me too, ... here's a group hug {{{CC}}} :)
 
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popeye

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When hugging, pull your legs back as far as you can with your bum above them. There's no way to have him press against your "top" that way. Necks and shoulders get in the way. (Something had to be learned somewhere in my life. lol)
I automatically do the same thing with women. It is more appropriate.Or hug from the side.

But in black churches they bear hug. There are no parameters. LOL
 
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Depleted

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You can say that again! That clown is even more creepy than the guy wearing the "free creepy hugs" shirt! :eek:
Mensa mens. I think I'd walk across the street if I saw either. (But creepy guy reminds me of an old friend. lol)
 

Yeraza_Bats

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If you don't get at least six hugs before church even starts, at our place, you start checking to see if you forgot to brush your teeth this morning.
Note: Do not brush your teeth before church.........
 
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Miri

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Maybe we should have a poll to see who
doesnt like church hugs and who are the buggers.
 
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Miri

Guest
Maybe we should have a poll to see who
doesnt like church hugs and who are the buggers.

Sorry, very sorry I meant to type who are the huggers but my
5 mins edit time has expired. Oops very sorry - no offence meant to
any huggers out there

(oops nearly did it again the b is just too close to the h).

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Miri

Guest
Isn't there like a socially appropriate for strangers hug?
Like a 3 inches between the bodies touching like pat pat your back?

Kinda fake like the prom queen hand movement to crowds....
But yet kind.....


Sigh
I dunno....

Just holler
"I'm burnin' my biscuits!"
And make a b line to the door lol
I dunno
I just hug lol


You mean like this.


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Miri

Guest
I gotta read your thread here Miri...while I eat my soup....
Did anyone find a solution how to avoid the church hug lol

You all tickle me
Lol
Lotsa love doh!
Actually that's not a bad idea, walk around church with a bowl of hot soup,
that will make people think twice and if it does not put them off, you can
always throw the soup over them. Lol :)
 
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I say dont sweat the small stuff. The person hugging you may really need one. Imagine a world where no hugs were given. Think about that! Id rather a person hug me than give me a holy kiss... just sayin.
I cant believe this thread is 9 pages long. Geez............
 
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Depleted

Guest
Maybe we should have a poll to see who
doesnt like church hugs and who are the buggers.
I'm both -- I don't like hugs in church and I AM a bugger.
 
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Depleted

Guest
Sorry, very sorry I meant to type who are the huggers but my
5 mins edit time has expired. Oops very sorry - no offence meant to
any huggers out there

(oops nearly did it again the b is just too close to the h).

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The bugger in the group wasn't bugged. lol