Narcissistic Personality Disorder

I didn’t have time to go through the whole thread but thought this might help if it wasn’t already posted. Most narcissists are a product of two parent types. Usually one is overly critical while the other can only see everything you do as perfect. This causes an overconfident exterior shell protecting the horribly fragile interior. Essentially they are like an egg. They work diligently to make others think they are this perfect, flawless, beautiful creature. Usually in public they are confident and charming, very likeable. The problem is that they can’t stand being challenged, and allow anyone to crack the shell revealing the soft messy center. Their children will be forced to be exemplary. Often they will be perfect parents to everyone but their children. In private they scream at and belittle them for being an embarrassment. Often they will pick a favourite child that shows promise, and use them as a sort of trophy. They find insecure partners who enable them. They are, by definition, emotionally abusive, being hot and cold to get their way.

I’ve been around them all of my life. They are easy to spot when you know what to look for.

Would they make a life or death decision that affects others that they didn’t have to make just so people would like them more?

Just to add about my musing for myer briggs personalities..Apparently some might say the naricissist corresponds mostly with ESTJ personality type. Although others believe that any personality can have narcissistic tendencies.

You can look up what its stands for but in a nutshell its someone who is most like a supervisor. They are happiest directing or controlling everything. So they may make good movie directors perhaps? Or as actors and actresses. Or be in positions where they can dominate everyone else.

The only thing is its is very hard to love someone who is always acting or pretending. You just dont always know if they are being real or not. And nobody should have to be a yes-man or adoring fan to someone else ALL the time. I think narcissist expect that, they call it 'narcissitic supply' if they dont get it from you they will go pick on someone else.

I am a psychologist so uf you have questions you can message me

Highly recommend his advice, there is plenty of information on the internet. It's a dreadful disorder sometimes hand in hand with Borderline Personality Disorder. From personal experience unless you plan on being a saint to someone with these disorders, run. Or you will get stuck and have your life likely ruined.

Again with the caution of gods will in your life, if he's leading you life long suffering for whatever reason, so be it, but if he isn't leave and keep a massive distance.

Unless biological like a chemical issue, which meds should fix, the only fix is truly being born again, these people make themselves life God.

I am extremely familiar, both parents, the woman I fell in love with, and many others who have attached themselves to me over the years. It took me a long time to see who and what they were. They are mentally ill people , with no understanding of self, empathy or boundaries in life. Its all about them, to keep the illusion going. Deep down inside they hate themselves and only rely on there ego/feelings to keep going.

Yep it's truly a god problem, truly loving believing god or not, because if you read in a part or two of the new testament, they would see that their behavior is the complete opposite of godly, or even trying to be godly, especially the professing christian ones. Non-Believers of course won't know.

narcissism is plainly a captivation of one's self image - from Greek mythology...

what do you all think about how the world has given everyone the ability to 'capture' themselves
in multiple ways/images???

hub and I are coming-down now from our 'amazement' of how even our old 'churchy friends' are
constantly capturing themselves in the idols of the heart', and even go so far as to dis-respect
us when we are together by putting their phones first instead of focusing/communicating
with us one-on-one, as we had for so many years - the minute their phones give a signal,
even if we are in a deep discussion, they 'leave us' and answer their phones -
at first they only put their phones in their sight, but after a few visiting times they began to
answer them right in front of us and often would walked away, leaving us alone and
waiting for them until they were through 'talking to whom ever'...
at first this was very hurtful as it was disrupting our personal fellowship, and after a while
we began to see that their 'phones' were more important that our yeats of long friendship'...

we hadn't changed a bit in our love and affection and communication with them, but,
we don't own a 'cell' phone...

HEB. 13:16.
But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.

another useful book I found was called Emotional Vampires dealing with people who drain you dry

selfies are a strange phenomenon these days. I find it quite rude when somebody starts txting away while Im trying to have a conversation with them without even saying excuse me I just need to answer or attend to this.
Ive also had the rather uncomfortable thing of somone calling me while they were out walking in the park in front of other people so that our conversation could be heard by anyone who passed by. ?! It wasnt even about anything important.

another thing that children but even adult children are prone to is mindless video games. I have seen children go switch on any computer in the house they are invited to and then start playing around on it even without asking permission. Its as bad as someone coming to your place and sitting down on your couch, ignoring you and then proceeding to watch the tv.

VERY hard, indeed. It's also extremely hard to fully explain the whole lot of it to someone. Unless they have experienced it themselves, it's really hard and so frustrating.

Craig , Narcissism sounds like what some call the jezebel spirit, it seems that to get away from them is your only hope of peace .. Your thoughts .. I've seen a lot of videos and it ruins many, describes many to a ''T'' ..

Yes, I'm beginning to understand it. Been experiencing what I now believe is NPD from my wife for the past 15 years.
Most people don't understand the struggle -- you say narcissism and the first thing they think of is politicians.
They have no idea of how this can suck all the life out of you when you are constantly subjected to the abuse, manipulation, and chaos that comes with narcissistic personality disorder.

We should make a reality TV Show "Narcissist Island" and build it up as the most awesome experience where only the coolest people get to go...then they would all voluntarily deport themselves and leave the rest of us alone. Then we could just watch them on TV and laugh as they destroy their own lives.

Symptoms

• Being overly boastful, exaggerating one’s own achievements
• Pretending to be superior to others
• Lack of empathy for others
• Looking down on others as inferior
• Monopolizing conversations
• Impatient, angry, unhappy, depressed or has mood swings when criticized
• Easily disappointed when expected importance is not given
• Always craves for “the best” in everything
• Has a very fragile self-esteem
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• Prevention
  
  • Child abuse, both physical and mental and intimate partner abuse may be predisposing factors
  • Avoid domestic violence
  • Quit alcohol and smoking
  • Avoid drug abuse

What are the traits of a narcissistic person?

The symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder include: grandiose sense of importance, preoccupation with unlimited success, belief that one is special and unique, exploitative of others, lack of empathy, arrogance, and jealousy of others. These symptoms cause significant distress in a person's life.

https://narcissisticabuse.com/characteristics-of-the-narcissist/

https://narcissisticabuse.com/7-surefire-clues-to-tell-if-your-partner-is-a-narcissist/

believe me, I know so much about these people. Both my parents were narcissistic , so was my first girlfriend in primary school, I have met several the past 8 years, some are absolutely appalling. Its all about them, not anyone else. They have no self Love or self respect, and certainly cannot love anyone else. Nothing but attention seekers and energy vampires. I seem to attract them like moths to a light.

Just been reading A mother's reckoning...the mother of one of the columbine shootings the mother shows signs of NPD as its all about how wonderful a mother she was and how her son couldnt have done anything bad like kill lots of people. Cos it would reflect badly on her. He wouldnt have confessed to such a narcissistic mother anyway. She makes all sorts of excuses for him and pins most of the blame on the other boy.

Someone mentioned Jezebel spirit..yes I would recommend people look into that Jezebel/Ahab dynamic and get that sorted out, Jezebel spirits only operate on passive Ahabs who buy into their nonsense.