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M
I would not follow a man who didn't exhibit the humility and grace of Jesus Christ. Even Jesus doesn't tell us to change in order to be accepted. He says come as you are.
That's just me.
That's just me.
V
Yes, she stated he's "honestly the perfect man" and yet here she is on this board seeking guidance in the midst of this struggle with this "perfect man."
Here's the rub: Sister Lion states, "He's not telling me to leave my church or anything but I would have to join his church in order to get married. The thing is, he won't change churches for me, I am the one who has to make the change and it is very hard for me. I am scared this fact will break us up but I do truly love him very much but I don't know how this can work out."
This fellow has the opportunity to take this from her by lifting the responsibility from her and bearing it himself. But she says he won't do it.
Mitspa, do you think he's going to change after they marry? If he can't carry this light load for her now, do you think he will when heavier trials come in their lives together? I don't think he's keen to the idea of compromise. I think she's in for a life of dying to herself while her husband willingly lets her.
But again, just my insight. I pray in Jesus' name Sister Lion hear the Lord's voice in this matter above all else.
Here's the rub: Sister Lion states, "He's not telling me to leave my church or anything but I would have to join his church in order to get married. The thing is, he won't change churches for me, I am the one who has to make the change and it is very hard for me. I am scared this fact will break us up but I do truly love him very much but I don't know how this can work out."
This fellow has the opportunity to take this from her by lifting the responsibility from her and bearing it himself. But she says he won't do it.
Mitspa, do you think he's going to change after they marry? If he can't carry this light load for her now, do you think he will when heavier trials come in their lives together? I don't think he's keen to the idea of compromise. I think she's in for a life of dying to herself while her husband willingly lets her.
But again, just my insight. I pray in Jesus' name Sister Lion hear the Lord's voice in this matter above all else.
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M
It sounds to me she is looking for biblical advice? I think after she established that she trusted him as the spiritual head ..she should trust him to be the spiritual head. That don't mean she don't have the right or should not influence him, but in the end she should trust him to be who God wants him to be.
biblical advice - Awesome! So now tell Sister Lion where in the Bible it says a woman must leave her church to merit favor from another church before she can become the wife of this man & I will agree with you.
These young folks aren't married yet. They are not even engaged. This is not going to be an arranged marriage. There are some serious, life-altering decisions to be made.
One of the biggest factors in whether or not a relationship is going to work, is simple compatibility. It sounds to me as if Lion and this young man may not be compatible, on some rather major issues. That's just my opinion.
Lion, do you have the personal strength it takes to get out of this relationship, if that's what you decide?
If you have absolutely decided not to get out of this relationship, then what exactly can we help you with, cause you've got a lot of people here willing to share their opinions lol.
M
biblical advice - Awesome! So now tell Sister Lion where in the Bible it says a woman must leave her church to merit favor from another church before she can become the wife of this man & I will agree with you.
M
Love you guys, but looking to the Bible for dating advice in a modern world isn't the best practice, since you're not taking cultural and historical norms into consideration.
These young folks aren't married yet. They are not even engaged. This is not going to be an arranged marriage. There are some serious, life-altering decisions to be made.
One of the biggest factors in whether or not a relationship is going to work, is simple compatibility. It sounds to me as if Lion and this young man may not be compatible, on some rather major issues. That's just my opinion.
Lion, do you have the personal strength it takes to get out of this relationship, if that's what you decide?
If you have absolutely decided not to get out of this relationship, then what exactly can we help you with, cause you've got a lot of people here willing to share their opinions lol.
These young folks aren't married yet. They are not even engaged. This is not going to be an arranged marriage. There are some serious, life-altering decisions to be made.
One of the biggest factors in whether or not a relationship is going to work, is simple compatibility. It sounds to me as if Lion and this young man may not be compatible, on some rather major issues. That's just my opinion.
Lion, do you have the personal strength it takes to get out of this relationship, if that's what you decide?
If you have absolutely decided not to get out of this relationship, then what exactly can we help you with, cause you've got a lot of people here willing to share their opinions lol.
V
Love you guys, but looking to the Bible for dating advice in a modern world isn't the best practice, since you're not taking cultural and historical norms into consideration.
These young folks aren't married yet. They are not even engaged. This is not going to be an arranged marriage. There are some serious, life-altering decisions to be made.
One of the biggest factors in whether or not a relationship is going to work, is simple compatibility. It sounds to me as if Lion and this young man may not be compatible, on some rather major issues. That's just my opinion.
Lion, do you have the personal strength it takes to get out of this relationship, if that's what you decide?
If you have absolutely decided not to get out of this relationship, then what exactly can we help you with, cause you've got a lot of people here willing to share their opinions lol.
These young folks aren't married yet. They are not even engaged. This is not going to be an arranged marriage. There are some serious, life-altering decisions to be made.
One of the biggest factors in whether or not a relationship is going to work, is simple compatibility. It sounds to me as if Lion and this young man may not be compatible, on some rather major issues. That's just my opinion.
Lion, do you have the personal strength it takes to get out of this relationship, if that's what you decide?
If you have absolutely decided not to get out of this relationship, then what exactly can we help you with, cause you've got a lot of people here willing to share their opinions lol.
Amen!
V
When I hear people say stuff like, "That woman ought to know the biblical position on spiritual authority of her husband," my stomach wants to wretch. Legalists make it sound like a prison sentence. It's no wonder Christian marriages end in divorce almost as much as non-Christians. *yuck*
There is nothing godly, nothing Christ-like, nothing manly about a brute who demands the woman follow him. I can hardly type those words without getting indigestion.
Clue: Jesus doesn't even demand that we follow him. He loved us first, even gave His life so that we would draw near to Him.
Why in the heck would a mere man think he has the authority to tell a woman it's her rightful duty to follow him? Where in the scripture does Jesus demand anyone to follow Him?
Ok, NOW I'm done.
There is nothing godly, nothing Christ-like, nothing manly about a brute who demands the woman follow him. I can hardly type those words without getting indigestion.
Clue: Jesus doesn't even demand that we follow him. He loved us first, even gave His life so that we would draw near to Him.
Why in the heck would a mere man think he has the authority to tell a woman it's her rightful duty to follow him? Where in the scripture does Jesus demand anyone to follow Him?
Ok, NOW I'm done.
