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And it's going to happen again and again...a lot. Especially if you want a friend that you can relate to and have a lot in common with...

Great friends are extremely hard to come by. I'm over twice your age...it's very difficult to find one.

A good friend being someone who you can call at 3am for bail money and they actually show up quickly...

A great friend is sitting on the bench beside you needing bail money just like you are. They don't happen often.

Just saying.
Yeah, partly cause of all this bogus tech, therefore no one has to try anymore, and partly because, again, we’ve made idols out of marriage and family.
 

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Yeah, partly cause of all this bogus tech, therefore no one has to try anymore, and partly because, again, we’ve made idols out of marriage and family.
I can honestly say that I've had to keep my wife out of jail and she's done the same for me upon a few occasions...

(Mostly because she or I was aware of the balance in the checkbook)

Not that we both weren't thinking the exact same thing. Because we were.

It's that knowing when the other is about to act on those thoughts.

But the road to finding her was extremely painful...
 
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I'm going to put this in a "tough love" type of way. Because, truthfully, that's the way I am.

The only human being on this planet that can help you right now.... is YOU. I will certainly say that my relationship with Christ has been nothing short of a miracle. I do believe He saved me, and that He loves me.

However, you are right, Christianity is tough because it's not exactly tangible. You can't exactly wrap yourself in it like a blanket and feel warm and fuzzy. That's not being angry, that's just being real. Faith should be your foundation, but I do understand where you are coming from

In order for your circumstances to change.... YOU have to make the decision to change them. What I'm reading (and forgive the bluntness) are excuses. You're obviously an articulate person capable of expressing her feelings. All kinds of people are hiring writers of all kinds.

Escaping into a fantasy world is not reality. You need to pull your head out of the sand, look at the world around you and determine what direction you want to go in. The very first step? Step!

I'll be thinking about and praying for ya.
 

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What really means something is what you sow into other peoples lives 🌸
 
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What really means something is what you sow into other peoples lives 🌸
I was watching something recently about the Carrington event – this epic solar storm that happened in 1859 and caused telegraph poles to go haywire. Experts say that, given how much more we rely on tech and the internet now, the fallout could be worse.

To that I say, good! We could use one of those right now! Maybe such a thing would finally make people grow up.
 

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Thank you.

As for what you said earlier, what I want is for people to quit assuming that I haven’t tried or put myself out there or gotten my heart broken.

I have a sister who lives a few miles away. I often want to hang out with her, but she has two young kids to raise. I can’t relate to either of those things. For one thing, I have absolutely no desire to be a mom and know that I’m not cut out for it. You sound like you’re middle-aged, but I’m 27. I have different relationship needs than you. I’ve already had “friends” of different ages and life experiences. I want someone I can have something in common with for once.
Nobody is saying you haven't tried or that you haven't had heartbreak.

We're saying to not give up and to keep trying.

As an aside, I'm about 10 years older than you. Not that big of an age gap, relatively speaking.
 

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I was watching something recently about the Carrington event – this epic solar storm that happened in 1859 and caused telegraph poles to go haywire. Experts say that, given how much more we rely on tech and the internet now, the fallout could be worse.

To that I say, good! We could use one of those right now! Maybe such a thing would finally make people grow up.
This last week we actually had a bunch of CMEs. Not much more came of them than aurora borealis, though.

I know how you feel. In 2000 I was really, REALLY hoping the grid would go down. Though if it had, I probably wouldn't have met my husband without some good maneuvering on God's part. :LOL:
 

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I struggle with this issue myself. My entire life I have never been a people person, and I was actually okay with it. I don't date and I don't have alot of friends and I was fine with it. I don't have alot in common with other people and I don't like having the pressure of constantly having to adjust to suit other people's expectations. But, as I understand it, the Christian life is not meant to be lived in isolation. We are supposed to enjoy fellowship with other Christians. Not only that, but we are supposed to share the gospel. Both of those are very difficult to do when you aren't big on talking to people you don't know very well. At the church I attend, the pastor puts heavy emphasis on the importance of fellowship among believers. That's hard for me because I am not from here and don't know anyone. I don't have alot in common with people here. I started attending back during the height of the covid crisis last year when people felt they were taking a real risk talking to strangers because they could get the virus so I didn't get a warm introduction
. Also I don't have a job right now and dread people asking me what I do. I don't necessarily feel a personal need to socialize with other people, but I do feel as if I am disobeying God by not fellowshipping and witnessing. I love the Lord with all my heart and want to please Him, but socializing just isn't in my wheelhouse. I will keep trying and maybe one day that will change, but I don't see how.
 
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I struggle with this issue myself. My entire life I have never been a people person, and I was actually okay with it. I don't date and I don't have alot of friends and I was fine with it. I don't have alot in common with other people and I don't like having the pressure of constantly having to adjust to suit other people's expectations. But, as I understand it, the Christian life is not meant to be lived in isolation. We are supposed to enjoy fellowship with other Christians. Not only that, but we are supposed to share the gospel. Both of those are very difficult to do when you aren't big on talking to people you don't know very well. At the church I attend, the pastor puts heavy emphasis on the importance of fellowship among believers. That's hard for me because I am not from here and don't know anyone. I don't have alot in common with people here. I started attending back during the height of the covid crisis last year when people felt they were taking a real risk talking to strangers because they could get the virus so I didn't get a warm introduction
. Also I don't have a job right now and dread people asking me what I do. I don't necessarily feel a personal need to socialize with other people, but I do feel as if I am disobeying God by not fellowshipping and witnessing. I love the Lord with all my heart and want to please Him, but socializing just isn't in my wheelhouse. I will keep trying and maybe one day that will change, but I don't see how.
Maybe I'm tired of having to change constantly so other people will accept me. Maybe I'm tired of giving "other people" one chance after another. If I'm gonna be a waste of your time, then you're gonna be a waste of mine. If you can't make time for me, why should I do the same for you? Every relationship (excluding parent-child and elder-caregiver) is a two-way street, which people unfortunately seem to have forgotten. We want all the benefits without having to pay for them. But not even relationships are free.
 

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I don't know you, but from what you have written here, you're someone who wants to be in a relationship, but are hurting because you haven't found one yet. Hurt often expresses itself as anger. We want to change people but we can't and no matter what we do we can't seem to become what they want. So it seems the only way we can assert any kind of control over the situation is to be angry. I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'd like to point out that as a Christian you do have a relationship with Jesus. Jesus knows what rejection is all about. John 1:11 (NKJV) says "He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him.". Isaiah 53:2-3 (NIV) tells us: "He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him. He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.". Jesus is God, but He was also human and He experienced emotions like we do. He loved people and when they didn't love Him, it hurt. Shortly before His crucifixion, Jesus looked over the city of Jerusalem knowing that He would very soon be betrayed, mocked and put to death by these same people. He said "Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing." (Luke 13:34 NIV). He wanted to have a relationship with them, but they were not willing. As we all know, it takes two willing parties to have a relationship. I would encourage you to bring the hurt that is behind the anger to Jesus. He understands rejection and He loves you unconditionally. God bless you!
 
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I don't know you, but from what you have written here, you're someone who wants to be in a relationship, but are hurting because you haven't found one yet. Hurt often expresses itself as anger. We want to change people but we can't and no matter what we do we can't seem to become what they want. So it seems the only way we can assert any kind of control over the situation is to be angry. I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'd like to point out that as a Christian you do have a relationship with Jesus. Jesus knows what rejection is all about. John 1:11 (NKJV) says "He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him.". Isaiah 53:2-3 (NIV) tells us: "He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him. He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.". Jesus is God, but He was also human and He experienced emotions like we do. He loved people and when they didn't love Him, it hurt. Shortly before His crucifixion, Jesus looked over the city of Jerusalem knowing that He would very soon be betrayed, mocked and put to death by these same people. He said "Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing." (Luke 13:34 NIV). He wanted to have a relationship with them, but they were not willing. As we all know, it takes two willing parties to have a relationship. I would encourage you to bring the hurt that is behind the anger to Jesus. He understands rejection and He loves you unconditionally. God bless you!
Oh my word. Not THIS again!!! Jesus/God is NOT my friend! That's not his role. He's my God and savior, nothing more, nothing less. We have nothing in common. Friends hang out with each other, friends are physically there and audibly talk to you. Can God do that? No. How about quit saying "Oh God should be your friend," and actually BE a friend to someone for once?
 
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I don't know you, but from what you have written here, you're someone who wants to be in a relationship, but are hurting because you haven't found one yet. Hurt often expresses itself as anger. We want to change people but we can't and no matter what we do we can't seem to become what they want. So it seems the only way we can assert any kind of control over the situation is to be angry. I'm sorry you are going through this, but I'd like to point out that as a Christian you do have a relationship with Jesus. Jesus knows what rejection is all about. John 1:11 (NKJV) says "He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him.". Isaiah 53:2-3 (NIV) tells us: "He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him. He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.". Jesus is God, but He was also human and He experienced emotions like we do. He loved people and when they didn't love Him, it hurt. Shortly before His crucifixion, Jesus looked over the city of Jerusalem knowing that He would very soon be betrayed, mocked and put to death by these same people. He said "Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing." (Luke 13:34 NIV). He wanted to have a relationship with them, but they were not willing. As we all know, it takes two willing parties to have a relationship. I would encourage you to bring the hurt that is behind the anger to Jesus. He understands rejection and He loves you unconditionally. God bless you!
I have also prayed about this stuff more times than I can count. Every time I get next to NOTHING. I might as well be talking to an imaginary friend. Sorry but, not everyone gets to enjoy what you apparently do. It's one thing to SAY to me that you care. You also need to SHOW me you care. Otherwise, in the end, there's only one person I can count on to always be there for me. And that's ME!
 

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Oh my word. Not THIS again!!! Jesus/God is NOT my friend! That's not his role. He's my God and savior, nothing more, nothing less. We have nothing in common. Friends hang out with each other, friends are physically there and audibly talk to you. Can God do that? No. How about quit saying "Oh God should be your friend," and actually BE a friend to someone for once?
John 15:4 "You are My friends if you do what I command.".
John 15:15 "I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. "
 
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John 15:4 "You are My friends if you do what I command.".
John 15:15 "I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. "
*eyeroll* Friend back then meant something different from what it does now.
 

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I have also prayed about this stuff more times than I can count. Every time I get next to NOTHING. I might as well be talking to an imaginary friend. Sorry but, not everyone gets to enjoy what you apparently do. It's one thing to SAY to me that you care. You also need to SHOW me you care. Otherwise, in the end, there's only one person I can count on to always be there for me. And that's ME!
If I knew you personally, I would try and be your friend. Since I don't know you, the best I can do is pray for you.
 

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If I knew you personally, I would try and be your friend. Since I don't know you, the best I can do is pray for you.
I have prayed for you. You do seem to need a human friend and I hope God sends that person into your life.
 
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Well I got a "maybe", so I'll take what I can get.
It's not that easy, especially since I haven’t attended church in…I don’t know how long. As a single person in my late twenties with no friends and tired of my attempts to make friends, I just don’t think there’s a place for me. My mom and dad still invite me occasionally, but I’ve lost the motivation to even please them. I guess you could say I just feel disappointed in God and am pulling a Moses by just going on my own for who-knows-how-long. But that’s how it is. I don’t expect anything to be handed to me on a silver platter, but I’m tired of searching that same platter and getting only crumbs, if that. I hardly even read my bible or even pray anymore, because I’ve read from the bible pretty much all my life, and I’m tired of trying to have a conversation with a deity with whom I have nothing in common and is just gonna do what he wants anyway.