Hi, I wanted to ask for some Christian advice and prayers.
I find myself in a position where I am lonely. I am married and have one child; but I don’t have any fulfilling friendships. My current position is that I am a deacon at a very small church of 20 people and everyone is much older than me. So there is no people our age to fellowship with. While I could possibly go to the other churches in the area for friendships, those churches were started based on severe disagreement with our church. So my going into these churches is just bringing up more hurt of the past.
I don’t drive, so I can’t drive anywhere. It is a fear of mine.
Next, I was adopted from a different country when I was 2 years old. I think, though I can’t prove it, that I was separated from a sibling, possibly sister. The reason is because all my life I have preferred friendship with women, but of course those friendships did not last. Sometimes things can twisted in my mind and I look at bad stuff on the internet, and I know that is wrong. But try as I might in overcoming the bad sites, an emptiness is left in my heart where I still wish I had a friendship, a best friendship, etc.
Add into the mix that I recently read an article that if two people are facing each other and concentrating on being a friend to each other, that might be a form of idolatry. That really, two people should be side by side looking up and concentrating on Christ, otherwise the first friendship can become too dependent.
Basically, my question is – how can I get to a place where Christ is enough and how can I have rewarding friendships? Thanks.
I find myself in a position where I am lonely. I am married and have one child; but I don’t have any fulfilling friendships. My current position is that I am a deacon at a very small church of 20 people and everyone is much older than me. So there is no people our age to fellowship with. While I could possibly go to the other churches in the area for friendships, those churches were started based on severe disagreement with our church. So my going into these churches is just bringing up more hurt of the past.
I don’t drive, so I can’t drive anywhere. It is a fear of mine.
Next, I was adopted from a different country when I was 2 years old. I think, though I can’t prove it, that I was separated from a sibling, possibly sister. The reason is because all my life I have preferred friendship with women, but of course those friendships did not last. Sometimes things can twisted in my mind and I look at bad stuff on the internet, and I know that is wrong. But try as I might in overcoming the bad sites, an emptiness is left in my heart where I still wish I had a friendship, a best friendship, etc.
Add into the mix that I recently read an article that if two people are facing each other and concentrating on being a friend to each other, that might be a form of idolatry. That really, two people should be side by side looking up and concentrating on Christ, otherwise the first friendship can become too dependent.
Basically, my question is – how can I get to a place where Christ is enough and how can I have rewarding friendships? Thanks.
