Raising up a brat

Do you have kids?

Just thought Id add in some of what God says about raising kids.
When I ws raising mine,I wasnt a dedicated christian in fact I was probably the laodecian kindof christian that confuses kids. I wish that I had been obedient when I was raising my kids. It probably would have made a difference.To say it wouldnt have ,is to say God doesnt make a difference. I encourage parents to raise the kids in church and with the Bible.

Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.


Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Deuteronomy 4:9
Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.

Deuteronomy 11:19
Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

Not of my own. But i was in a long term relationship with a woman who had 3. During those years i read and learned about how to raise kids. I saw her mistakes. I learned a lot. My last relationship the woman had a son and she frequently came to me, and even now, though we aren't dating, still comes to me at times, asking for help. Because she recognizes i know what i'm doing and i am good at dealing with her son. During that relationship i looked back on my previous relationship to see what mistakes i had made then, so that i could learn even more.
I took from my own experiences growing up, from relationships i've been in with people who had kids, from friends who had kids, from reading and learning from professionals and have a pretty solid foundation. Many women, even some who were parents themselves, have told me i would be a good father. While i no doubt would still make mistakes, i have a good handle on what it is to be a parent. In fact much of what i've seen has come from single parents, who have it harder than a couple. So that gives me a perspective of that side of things too, and just how difficult raising a child can be.

10 years. Her youngest was 1 years old when we started dating.

Most people seem clueless? Where do you get your facts from?
......When I need my car repaired I hire a mechanic..........................

Amazing, isn't it? Mechanics -- people simply hired to fix cars -- need training. Parents -- people who are raising the generation that will run the world someday -- don't.

(And frankly, I never had kids but I admire the people crazy enough to have them. )

I sort of like Depleted comments that she likes rebellious kids. I raised 5 teenagers at the same time 13 to 19, and it was the one daughter (the rebellious one ) who, when she turned her life around, threw herself at Jesus the with the same depth she threw herself into sin and drugs.

My other more cautious children are all Christians also, but it is this daughter who is the Christian counselor, and leader of women's bible studies. She throws herself into worship and scripture. Journals about God.

Of course, when that daughter was at her worst, it was not exactly fun for me. In fact, it was downright scary.

A lot of comments have been made here about DNA, but I rate peer pressure very high no matter what the parents do.

How rebellious?
I have a son who was in juvie and he went to prison because he was rebellious and still doesnt respect authority. Do you have kids?

I prefer rebellious kids, if they think it out for themselves instead of going along to get along. In this day and age, it would be nice if someone rebelled because too many think, "That's just how it is."

Ill add: I dont feel responsible for the choices my son made. I didnt teach him to steal. I taught my kids to be honest and tell the truth. I just didnt always live on the ROCK. I know now where I went wrong and I do think it would have made some difference..

I prefer rebellious kids, if they think it out for themselves instead of going along to get along. In this day and age, it would be nice if someone rebelled because too many think, "That's just how it is."

We have Supernanny.
I had a woman who helped me a few months. She had kids and worked with teenagers that were having problems. That was a real professional. You get that help for free here.

Those teachers in school with 30 small kids. I was talking to some moms how amazing that was. She just clicks with her fingers and they're all quiet. They never do that at home, one said.