screaming neighbor kids final solution...

Step 2: It is disrespectful to go to a mother's house and tell her how to raise her kids.

Step 3: Remember being a kid? What was the best thing to do all day? Yell and scream. I am just removed enough from being a kid not to remember why. I only remember it really was. And what did parents do to keep their sanity? Throw the kids out the door "for some fresh air that'll do you good" knowing full well kids yell and scream all day.

Yes, kids yelling and screaming all day is annoying and digs into your last nerve, but the solution is to find a place with no kids in the neighborhood. As someone who took that position at one time, bad news. People buy and sell their homes while other people rent. That means a kid will show up at any given time. And then another and another. And when they don't? A pregnant woman will move in. (Crying baby is worse that screaming kid.) And if that doesn't happen, the neighbors try to out do each other by adopting more and more dogs and leaving them out back to bark each other into submission, (except since they're tied up or fenced in, there is no need to submit.) And then there is the neighbor with the cats. Sure, quiet creatures ten months out of the year, and even quiet when in heat, but all the alley cats are NOT quiet.

AND, if you're dumb like me, you move behind a music store only to find out someone gives both guitar AND drumming lessons after hours. (Yes, you can get tired of hearing Stairway to Heaven eventually, even if it's a good song.) And The Goodyear blimp is quite lovely to see, but that annoying humming last the entire football game and an hour or two before hand. And, when it's not football season that prop plane spins round and round again to make sure we really all know "Geico. 15 Minutes." And, if Geico doesn't feel like paying for that then we get to read "1 voN srethgiF ooF" even if it is only in June. (Geico's last night. Foo Fighters a year or two ago. Some plane out there rotating around and round again right now. lol) And then there is driveby rap -- people you can hear driving their cars two blocks away at 2 AM with the windows shaking, door closed and the a/c on.

The only plus out of all this is Bruce Springsteen serenaded me when I was taking a shower. (He's very loud. Our football field is a mile away, our skylight is always closed, and yet I heard him clear as a bell even when my head was getting wet under the showerhead.)

Dad did find a house out in the woods. He was stuck at home during blizzards. We can walk to the store if we have to. (No bread or milk left, of course, but who really needs bread or milk?)

Moral of the story: Learn to live with it. The best you can do is take two aspirins and wait ten years. Then the kid becomes the teen next door.

Our last neighbors had kids too but they werent THAT loud. you hear them on the other end of the street (my grandma lives there)

And it is really stressing when from morning till past 8pm you hear cusswords getting screamed by kids nonstop. They would scream and scream them over and over again. 8 pm is the tie by law things gotta be quiet.( I think i kinda said that wrong the first time)
I dont mind playing around and laughing but that is too much to handle.

Oh my. I thought you lived in an apartment.

And it is really stressing when from morning till past 8pm you hear cusswords getting screamed by kids nonstop. They would scream and scream them over and over again. 8 pm is the tie by law things gotta be quiet.( I think i kinda said that wrong the first time)
I dont mind playing around and laughing but that is too much to handle.

I don't know how it is in Germany, but in Holland you have the youth care they call it. My son when he was 3 cried for an hour at dad's place, because I would pick him up and take him down the stairs but dad let him cry and said if you don't stop I hit you. So his neighbour got sick of it and complained at his door, but he's like: it's none of your business, bye! She wanted to tell him how to raise his kids. They were for the rest always quiet there, absolutely nothing the matter, well raised. She called the police, they went to the youth care and I had to lie to them that he was frustrated and never hit them and for goodness sakes because he blew it up since he wanted me to get help raising the kids more like he does, they took them from me. If I hadn't lied they would have gone to other parents and if we did not cooperate which means not staying with me without supervision they'd go to the judge and could give them to other parents. I got them from him but we had to watch out and I had to lie about it to them. For one freakin' hour crying. Had to wait a year til I got a woman to help me who said it was okay and nothing was the matter. I didn't have to raise them like him. She did give some helpful tips.
Yet I bet if you call the police they do nothing and not even force them to get help. I saw kids here, the dad just kicked her on the street, she cursed and yelled at him and absolutely nobody cares.

Well we have youth services but they cannot do anything as there is no abuse unless they would have a record but I doubt that. The kids have all they need. The only thing by law that I could do is call the police when theyre screaming outside of the hours by law.
Which I dont want to push it that far.

I don't think it's disrespectful or telling someone how to raise their kids to say 'hey, your kids are being really loud all the time, can you get them to stop?'. It's likely unrealistic in this setting, but not any of the things you said. OP did say 'i ASKED the mom'. Asking isn't telling.
She also said the mom got 'really disrespectful'.

As a mom, i would think that if a teenager (as in non-adult, a person with no children of their own) comes over and asks nicely if she could get her kids to be more quiet, then that Mother (who has a child coming to her door) would be more respectful of a child who approached nicely. It should be obvious to the mother that this teen child may not have the knowledge of the difficulty of such a request, and as such a noble parent, should have been kinder.


To everyone.

This situation has been presented by others as this... this teen stormed over to the house, pounding on the door, demanding that this mother shut her kids up and keep it that way. then, this poor victim of a mother, out of built up frustration from the burden of motherhood, finally lashes out against the bully.

The reality of the situation is a teen girl knocks and nicely asks if the mother could quiet her kids down. the mother got nasty with her and slammed the door in her face. Is the mother just over burdened with her role? Maybe. Or maybe she's always like that. None of us know. But to defend this womans actions by automatically assuming shes a good person and mother stems from no real facts given. Neither is demonizing the OP.
I don't think the OP understands the difficulty in her request, though i Can understand Why she feels that way. And we don't know what the mother is like, but i do know that her reaction was out of line, no matter what her reason for it. So perhaps less attacking the OP and defending the rude mother and a little more balance.

I didnt tell her to raise the kids. Plus I didnt scream like a bat out of hell cussing like a sailor. I still got the belt.
Like said our last neighbor had kids and they would play and have fun but it wasnt THAT loud.

I dont know where you live,but I have a house with a deck out back. My hubby bought me a large fountain for my last birthday. Water flows out of several places and its quite loud and blocks out the sound of any neighbors. All I hear is running water,quite effective. I run a fan for "white noise" in the bedroom. I bought my parents an alarm clock that has different sounds on it,the ocean,rain etc. They use it every night now to go to sleep. Just a few ideas that might help

Well we have youth services but they cannot do anything as there is no abuse unless they would have a record but I doubt that. The kids have all they need. The only thing by law that I could do is call the police when theyre screaming outside of the hours by law.
Which I dont want to push it that far.

I would have to go to the bathroom every time I heard the fountain.