screaming neighbor kids final solution...

The neighbour from upstairs used to complain. Mrs was used that one quiet person lived here. They were only here 3 days a week, we ho outside the whole day, on saturday we went to my parents and on sunday we were also gone half of the day at least, but she'd complain if she heard any noise. It's an old people apartment and I have one with 2 rooms and 3 kids. They're not loud. The other neighbours who are christian said: oh yeah we hear 'em, but they're kids. It doesn't matter.
But she kept on complaining and she's controlling. She just waited for us in the elevator and barked to the kids to be quiet. She was I don't know how uou call it. They were in a bath and you heard tick tick from the duck and in front of my door she was again. Wewewewewewewe.They didn't even talk.
I just forgave her and talked to her. Look sweetheart, I always take them outside to do the people here a favor too, but I pay rent here and I can't dump 'em in front of the tv because you want it to be quiet. Buy headphones for goodness sakes. You think I live here for my fun? I had a great house. Dad moves. I have one month to find something and you can't get a house here. You may choose: either they make noise or I scream like an idiot.
Since then she never complains anymore and I'm not stressed up because of it anymore.
Bunnies. Buy them bunnies. My kids are really quiet since I have bunnies.

Step 2: It is disrespectful to go to a mother's house and tell her how to raise her kids.

Step 3: Remember being a kid? What was the best thing to do all day? Yell and scream. I am just removed enough from being a kid not to remember why. I only remember it really was. And what did parents do to keep their sanity? Throw the kids out the door "for some fresh air that'll do you good" knowing full well kids yell and scream all day.

Yes, kids yelling and screaming all day is annoying and digs into your last nerve, but the solution is to find a place with no kids in the neighborhood. As someone who took that position at one time, bad news. People buy and sell their homes while other people rent. That means a kid will show up at any given time. And then another and another. And when they don't? A pregnant woman will move in. (Crying baby is worse that screaming kid.) And if that doesn't happen, the neighbors try to out do each other by adopting more and more dogs and leaving them out back to bark each other into submission, (except since they're tied up or fenced in, there is no need to submit.) And then there is the neighbor with the cats. Sure, quiet creatures ten months out of the year, and even quiet when in heat, but all the alley cats are NOT quiet.

AND, if you're dumb like me, you move behind a music store only to find out someone gives both guitar AND drumming lessons after hours. (Yes, you can get tired of hearing Stairway to Heaven eventually, even if it's a good song.) And The Goodyear blimp is quite lovely to see, but that annoying humming last the entire football game and an hour or two before hand. And, when it's not football season that prop plane spins round and round again to make sure we really all know "Geico. 15 Minutes." And, if Geico doesn't feel like paying for that then we get to read "1 voN srethgiF ooF" even if it is only in June. (Geico's last night. Foo Fighters a year or two ago. Some plane out there rotating around and round again right now. lol) And then there is driveby rap -- people you can hear driving their cars two blocks away at 2 AM with the windows shaking, door closed and the a/c on.

The only plus out of all this is Bruce Springsteen serenaded me when I was taking a shower. (He's very loud. Our football field is a mile away, our skylight is always closed, and yet I heard him clear as a bell even when my head was getting wet under the showerhead.)

Dad did find a house out in the woods. He was stuck at home during blizzards. We can walk to the store if we have to. (No bread or milk left, of course, but who really needs bread or milk?)

Moral of the story: Learn to live with it. The best you can do is take two aspirins and wait ten years. Then the kid becomes the teen next door.

I don't think it's disrespectful or telling someone how to raise their kids to say 'hey, your kids are being really loud all the time, can you get them to stop?'. It's likely unrealistic in this setting, but not any of the things you said. OP did say 'i ASKED the mom'. Asking isn't telling.
She also said the mom got 'really disrespectful'.

As a mom, i would think that if a teenager (as in non-adult, a person with no children of their own) comes over and asks nicely if she could get her kids to be more quiet, then that Mother (who has a child coming to her door) would be more respectful of a child who approached nicely. It should be obvious to the mother that this teen child may not have the knowledge of the difficulty of such a request, and as such a noble parent, should have been kinder.


To everyone.

This situation has been presented by others as this... this teen stormed over to the house, pounding on the door, demanding that this mother shut her kids up and keep it that way. then, this poor victim of a mother, out of built up frustration from the burden of motherhood, finally lashes out against the bully.

The reality of the situation is a teen girl knocks and nicely asks if the mother could quiet her kids down. the mother got nasty with her and slammed the door in her face. Is the mother just over burdened with her role? Maybe. Or maybe she's always like that. None of us know. But to defend this womans actions by automatically assuming shes a good person and mother stems from no real facts given. Neither is demonizing the OP.
I don't think the OP understands the difficulty in her request, though i Can understand Why she feels that way. And we don't know what the mother is like, but i do know that her reaction was out of line, no matter what her reason for it. So perhaps less attacking the OP and defending the rude mother and a little more balance.

Yes they do exist. My dad had them. I talked to an old friend who now lives in Israel a while back and she said does your dad still have these headphones
He had to read his paper with total silence if a friend came over to play.
When I was a baby he put his headphones on and studied in another room. LOL when I go there with my kids hahahahahahaha he has had this delirium, so I said to my mom± well now we know what he really thinks. We Always left at 8 o ´clock and we were outside a lot, but at 6 o ´clock he said± well can´t you go now= those stupid things dont work on my keyboard.

Perhaps there are noise bylaws. My parents taught us indoor voices or we would get in trouble lol. If the kids are being loud outside, I think that is to be expected though.

I only have one family with kids in my neighborhood, but I also live across from a park so kids are around all the time. They are never super loud or causing issues, so I think it depends on what the parents are going to allow. I don't think it was unfair for her to ask the mom about it if it's disturbing the peace. She could at least understand and make an effort to quiet her kids a bit. And no one should have to resort to wearing headphones in their own home if it's that bad lol.

I'm so glad I don't have that stress from that neighbour anymore. I really wanted to move to someone's garden home, but you couldn't even put a couch in it, it was so small. I don't even notice it anymore if they laugh or talk loud. The whole day shhh shhh shhh shhh or that woman comes drove me utterly nuts. I am used from my dad and ex that it's always got to be quiet. If they got loud I took them to the playground of the MacDonalds in the winter. I said: if we are there you may scream, here be quiet. Well scream they did, my goodness gracious me. One woman looked at us. I said: they have to be quiet at home. I live in an old people apartment. Nuts. There's more kids now here luckily. Think they got used to it.

Lol a girl from the old church was the oldest of 12 kids. I once saw her in the train when I just had kids. Oh we found this great holiday in Greece with everything especially for kids. It was wonderful. I checked it on it, it was just for kids and the restaurants had a playground.
She said: yeah I also Always check my holidays on that. If it's kid's friendly I don't go there LOL.
You just need to understand each other a bit and both do effort. She could at least take them out for some hours if it's really bad. Just be friendly and understanding, it might help, unless she really doesn't care about the neighbours.

That's pretty much life with neighbors. If you can't take the noise of living in society, you should move to the country. Kids will be (and should be) kids. Otherwise, learn to play guitar and buy a half stack. Drown out their noise with more enjoyable noise.

Back To The Future, good movie. XD

Some places have a set time where you cant play loud music, or be loud. Its basically a noise curfew. You can get fined if caught though

But ear plugs or teach the kids a quiet game.


Is it happy noise or help me someone is beating the snot out of me sounds?

That is child abuse, not a story you should,be spreading around

You did talk to your brother Messy about that ducting a babies mouth is about as bad as shaking him to get him to stop crying...it can kill them.

Demi777 i have an 8 and 10 year old and my kids don't scream all day.

Maybe when they play a game or something (which might last an hour) but then we don't stay home all day either.

If they have that much energy they ride bikes, go swimming, etc.

Not sure the mom's situation but stuck in the house all day....all of them are probably going crazy....

Maybe find fliers for free family events and deliver it to the neighbors as a suggestion for fun free things they can do out of the house?

Not my brother, a nephew, years ago. I think he did it once, I hope for her. She's grown up now.

No screaming cusswords and things like that.

Our last neighbors had kids too but they werent THAT loud. you hear them on the other end of the street (my grandma lives there)