Do you find yourself being that person? Cuz I do! I am horrible at keeping in touch with people unless they are always on my mind, like my parents or Blain. Then for those who I don't always think of, I end up only really talking when I feel like it or when I have a request or need.
AND I HATE IT! I HATE being so self centered about my communication.
Sadly I think it stems from a feeling of "If you don't have a reason to talk, then you're bother that person." If they have a need, of course I'll help! If they start the conversation, then I have confirmation that they actually want to speak to me a bit!
Honestly and truly my internal signals tend to try and tell me "no one is interested in hearing you unless they say they are." Or maybe more to the point, "no one cares what you're saying."
Is anyone else like this? Like dang.
AND I HATE IT! I HATE being so self centered about my communication.
Sadly I think it stems from a feeling of "If you don't have a reason to talk, then you're bother that person." If they have a need, of course I'll help! If they start the conversation, then I have confirmation that they actually want to speak to me a bit!
Honestly and truly my internal signals tend to try and tell me "no one is interested in hearing you unless they say they are." Or maybe more to the point, "no one cares what you're saying."
Is anyone else like this? Like dang.