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R
I agree that there is no 'one size fits all' answer. Every situation is different. I find it hard to explain how I feel about this subject without sounding like Im feeling sorry for myself or living in the past. If I were to go into all the details of what my life was like in this area it would sound like I was being consumed by self pity. I suppose that some days I am. The fact remains that when a man uses his wife in such a manner he should be ready for how this is going to affect her and ultimately the marriage itself. In my case, I was working so hard that other men, complete strangers in fact, had taken my husband aside to inform him that he was working me far too hard. There is a difference between hard work and working beyond what you are able to do physically. As I said, speaking of this will only make me sound like one who is complaining. It is hard to explain this sort of thing to anyone who has never had the same experience. It is a much more complicated situation than one would initially think it would be. When a woman is able to do the work it is one thing. When she has suffered injury from that work and is still expected to continue is quite another. When I was unable to even get up out of my chair due to this sort of physical strain, my husband would call me some of the filthiest names I have ever heard because he was going to have to do the same work that had put me in such a condition. I speak more of a man using a woman to do work he wont do himself than of women having to do hard physical labor. Again, every situation is different. Im not looking for sympathy or pity. It is just what my experience has been like...nothing more.
J
Even though we had great answers, some more could be added . Such as... women in military,
and being strong enough to carry a wounded solider on their back ~ Fits right into your situation.
I am not large person. I could lift and work with my husband at the time. Later it catches up.
And it isn't a topic to say women aren't able to work like men, but it is Ranins life that made me
think of this topic. She asks for no sympathy, she just knows she was not built for heavy
manual labor. I know a lady who went into the coal mines to work. When met her, she was
not a large lady. I can't say there are jobs women can't do, but do question the "are we, as
females, built to work like men? " I think also of the days of old ... I am talking when women
had to haul water from wells. Take care of farm duties. Raise families and work gardens
with plows. I know it had to be in order to survive. But it still comes down to the fact, there
are some issues a woman is forced to do a mans job and the main point is. pay for it physically
later in life. If women do not have to work at manual labor, it is great. Unfortunately today
Mothers are having to do so to raise their children. May we keep all in prayer. Each situation
is going to be different for male or female. And I am aware there are women who are stout
and strong and can do things I could not do today. So God bless all who follow the scripture,
"Whatsoever you do my brethren, do it as unto the Lord and not unto man. "
Bless all who participated in this topic. Love in Christ ~
J
Hi, my husband and I just do as we are capable. One evening I might be replacing a sink faucet while he cooks dinner. Guess you could say we mix it up. lol He does laundry too, and NO you can't have him! Juskidding
So I don't need your husband, LOL. Now he is watching food network... I think he is
picking up some pretty good hints on how to work in the kitchen. Oh and my husband...
oh my gosh, he does laundry too. We better be careful, or we might lose our 'good' men.
Nice to meet you ~ It isn't every day we get to brag about our husbands. Now, Ironing.
Oh gosh. He was wanting to do his own jeans or dress pants ..... the crease had to be
just right. Finally he decided it was okay to do my way. Just lay the pant leg on the
ironing board and press them flat. I told him, no one wears jeans with creases in them
anymore.... ( do they ? ) .... I do iron, honest. We are blessed aren't we ? Thank You Lord.
J
Hi, my husband and I just do as we are capable. One evening I might be replacing a sink faucet while he cooks dinner. Guess you could say we mix it up. lol He does laundry too, and NO you can't have him! Juskidding
So I don't need your husband, LOL. Now he is watching food network... I think he is
picking up some pretty good hints on how to work in the kitchen. Oh and my husband...
oh my gosh, he does laundry too. We better be careful, or we might lose our 'good' men.
Nice to meet you ~ It isn't every day we get to brag about our husbands. Now, Ironing.
Oh gosh. He was wanting to do his own jeans or dress pants ..... the crease had to be
just right. Finally he decided it was okay to do my way. Just lay the pant leg on the
ironing board and press them flat. I told him, no one wears jeans with creases in them
anymore.... ( do they ? ) .... I do iron, honest. We are blessed aren't we ? Thank You Lord.
C
I think it's okay for women to do any job they are capable of doing. There are some women who are better at doing heavy labor than some men. If a woman can handle the job, why not? I don't believe in "women's work" and "men's work." I'm not very efficient at cleaning the house, but husband loves doing it. He is not very handy at putting things together, like DIY furniture, but I'm good at it.
J
Hi, I was thinking more along the lines of being capable of doing heavy duty work.
But it appears from many of the posts, perhaps I should have worded it regarding
the toll it takes on the body later in life. I think we will all have difference of opinion
regarding what constitutes men and women work. My husband is retired and he
now has nothing to do in the cold weather, so it is no surprise when he takes out his
duster and begins to dust. ( We don't agree what is the right way and wrong way)
but I decided to keep peace... his way is okay... lol. We are blessed...
J
In the book of Nehimiah, think I spelled it correctly, men, women and children were building a wall, that's hard labor, not exactly sure if it was around Jerusalem, but it was construction work, they didn't complete it because of violence from the opposing sides, then they went back to working on it, and the Lord instructed, that every man, women, and child, be with a sword at their side, against those who would want to stop them again, not to retreat, but to fight.
J
Excellent point ~ I think I did make mention of the women in OT days. If I didn't I was
thinking of them. It was a different time and we are so spoiled today compared to what
you share here. I have also carried heavy stone to help my husband, and I suppose being
small built it just did more to me than one who can lift more ?? Nevertheless, thank you
for bringing out the point of the women of OT. I think of books I have read and not all
were Queens lying on their bed with handmaidens waiting on them. They went from sun up
to sun down, non stop. Oh, how cushy our lives have become. Again thank you for bringing
that to our attention. ~
thinking of them. It was a different time and we are so spoiled today compared to what
you share here. I have also carried heavy stone to help my husband, and I suppose being
small built it just did more to me than one who can lift more ?? Nevertheless, thank you
for bringing out the point of the women of OT. I think of books I have read and not all
were Queens lying on their bed with handmaidens waiting on them. They went from sun up
to sun down, non stop. Oh, how cushy our lives have become. Again thank you for bringing
that to our attention. ~