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Thank you all for the advice. I think after just talking to him for the first time today, it is evident to me that he has so much anger built up inside of him. I think maybe the best thing i can do for him right now is pray for him, but also pray for him to soften his heart. I am going to see my best friend on sunday at church, as i always do - and I am going to talk to him about things.
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Be aware, controlling behavior is often (not always) a predecessor to abusive behavior. That is a huge risk to take.
And if he is wanting you to move in, that is a bad sign, from a Christian stand point, and if he is more interested in 'physical'. Does a controlling, potentially abusive, sexually oriented man willing to compromise his faith, and you, sound like someone you can see as the spiritual head of your house, one day? And to top it off he seems to be pulling away from you emotionally. So that means all that's left is the hope of getting in your pants.
I'd get rid of this guy. But that's not to say you should run into the arms of your best friend. If you leave your boyfriend, it is always a horrible decision to jump right into another relationship. There is even the possibility that your desire to be with your best friend stems from the fact that, whether you admit it or not, you are no longer happy in your current relationship. So you desire to be with someone, romantically, to replace the lack of fulfillment in your current relationship. All the more reason to no become romantically involved with your best friend, or anyone, for that matter, for a while.
Probably part of your boyfriends change in behavior is that his true colors are showing. There is a chemical released in the brain at the start of a new romance. You know that lovey dovey dreamy feeling when you first start dating? That's it. It lasts, an average of six months. It cause people to be somewhat blind to anothers faults, and also causes people to be more inclined to act how they perceive the other person wants, in order to impress them. This feeling isn't really love, more of infatuation. But it seems to help relationships form, but once it wears off is when you really get tested as to your feelings towards that person, and finding out more of who they really are. Sounds like you've entered this phase and are realizing who this guy really is.
And if he is wanting you to move in, that is a bad sign, from a Christian stand point, and if he is more interested in 'physical'. Does a controlling, potentially abusive, sexually oriented man willing to compromise his faith, and you, sound like someone you can see as the spiritual head of your house, one day? And to top it off he seems to be pulling away from you emotionally. So that means all that's left is the hope of getting in your pants.
I'd get rid of this guy. But that's not to say you should run into the arms of your best friend. If you leave your boyfriend, it is always a horrible decision to jump right into another relationship. There is even the possibility that your desire to be with your best friend stems from the fact that, whether you admit it or not, you are no longer happy in your current relationship. So you desire to be with someone, romantically, to replace the lack of fulfillment in your current relationship. All the more reason to no become romantically involved with your best friend, or anyone, for that matter, for a while.
Probably part of your boyfriends change in behavior is that his true colors are showing. There is a chemical released in the brain at the start of a new romance. You know that lovey dovey dreamy feeling when you first start dating? That's it. It lasts, an average of six months. It cause people to be somewhat blind to anothers faults, and also causes people to be more inclined to act how they perceive the other person wants, in order to impress them. This feeling isn't really love, more of infatuation. But it seems to help relationships form, but once it wears off is when you really get tested as to your feelings towards that person, and finding out more of who they really are. Sounds like you've entered this phase and are realizing who this guy really is.
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I have to agree with the posts behind mine and Ugly's comment. I would not even say anything and just pull away, this would allow you to see a reaction from him and your self.
Since you are having issues and doubts, i would throw a red flag on that and check my self before falling into something you might regret down the road. The most important thing here in my opinion is, what does God want, ask him that, dont ask to be given, just what does he want you to do according to his will. My 2cts.
i will keep you in my prayers. God Bless!!
Since you are having issues and doubts, i would throw a red flag on that and check my self before falling into something you might regret down the road. The most important thing here in my opinion is, what does God want, ask him that, dont ask to be given, just what does he want you to do according to his will. My 2cts.
i will keep you in my prayers. God Bless!!