Lonely and sad.....Need good christian friends.

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Tdpraise

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Hi! I understand exactly what you are talking about. I feel the exact same way. Its hard to meet real friends even in church. I have been asking the Lord to meet a real Christian friend that I can hang out with. Contact me if you can, I'm new to this website. God bless. :)
 
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Johnsie

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Hey Trezhy, This is Johnsie. I think you're problem is something that many experience. I don't know how all this chatting stuff works, but I'm here to be a friend to anyone that needs one. So what would you like to talk about???
 
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MatthewMichael

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Hi, sorry for the "drama title". I am a 32 year old single lady. I don't have friends. I will love to meet good christian friends. I have tried to make friends in church and other christian gatherings, but each time it seems they already have their own little group of friends. I just can't seem to break in. There's no really one on one meetings, always group meetings and at the end of the meetings everyone goes about their personal group of friends etc. I get left all alone again.It is a big church and it's hard for me to get connected. All communication is mostly through e-mail, it is so unpersonal. I am very lonely, no friends, nobody to talk to and it leaves me very very depressed all the time. Please I need friends, good christian friends. If possible I can meet one on one. I am always sad and unhappy. I always feel weird and odd because I don't have any friend at all. I need to talk to people, I feel that If I remain like this I'm gonna get more deppressed and sometimes I start having feelings of self-destruction. I'm a committed Christian.

God bless you
I know EXACTLY what you're talkin' about. Meeting friends is hard enough because of the "we already have a group and you're not in it" vibe that people put off sometimes, and then Christian friends are even harder to find because being Christian is very "uncool" to the world, so there aren't a lot of them around.. And many that call themselves Christian aren't, and they categorize you as a "holy-roller" or "bible-beater" if you want to actually try to follow Christ instead of just listening to a preacher talk about him for one hour a week.

I recently moved to New Mexico for a job. I lived most of my life around Dallas, TX and am originally from South Arkansas. I have two co-workers here who were room-mates previously, so they stick together, and they tend to want to drink which I am trying not to do... and of course I'm a "loser" in their eyes for not wanting to get wasted and pick up drunk chicks to take home from the bar.. Honestly I don't get that. I mean, I tried that in my 20's, and I don't see how people still chase that dragon. There's nothing at the end of that chase but emptiness.

If you are sad, people will sense it and won't want to be near you because you will suck out their energy. Do you have any friends in that you talk to on the phone? I have a buddy that I talk to regularly that I would consider a best friend. I also have another life-long best friend that I talk to once in a blue moon.. I don't have a TV because I think TV's are adult pacifiers when abused, and I don't know many people who don't abuse them. I'm busier than most people I've ever met.. writing songs, working out/running, reading/studying. I don't even want friends per se; honestly, for me, I just miss having a woman around. The hair, the scent, the sharing, the touch. Just that closeness of a relationship. But I know that I'll just keep getting in dead-end relationships if I don't take a step of faith and remain abstinent.

I know one thing, if you feel sorry for yourself, you will be like a black hole to other people. You have to remain positive, thankful, forgiving, warm, friendly.. or just Christ-like if that's easier to remember. I hope you see that you're not the only one going through this. God has a plan.

Deuteronomy 31:6
Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”
 
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doodlepip

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Hi trezhy I'm new to the chat room I also have no friends or social life due to a long term illness and would love to talk to you! God bless you! My name is Abigail by the way
 
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AbwHJA

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Super super late but I relate word for word to your post. I just joined today and your post was the one that came
ot when I was searching a place to make Christian friends and this site came
out, I was like ok Lord there's someone else who feels just like I do and you let this pop right up. Just sorry I'm just seeing this years later. If you ever log back on I'm here and would
lvoe to talk. God bless you!
 

blue_ladybug

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Super super late but I relate word for word to your post. I just joined today and your post was the one that came
ot when I was searching a place to make Christian friends and this site came
out, I was like ok Lord there's someone else who feels just like I do and you let this pop right up. Just sorry I'm just seeing this years later. If you ever log back on I'm here and would
lvoe to talk. God bless you!

This is a several-years-old zombie thread from 2013. The OP and many posters are no longer members here. Here is a helpful tip for when you respond to old threads: check the creation date, and whether the OP or whoever you're responding to is still here or not. That way you won't waste your time replying to someone who got banned or left the site. :)
 

tourist

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Super super late but I relate word for word to your post. I just joined today and your post was the one that came
ot when I was searching a place to make Christian friends and this site came
out, I was like ok Lord there's someone else who feels just like I do and you let this pop right up. Just sorry I'm just seeing this years later. If you ever log back on I'm here and would
lvoe to talk. God bless you!
Glad to have you join us. This is a great place to make Christian friends. Welcome to CC.
 
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AbwHJA

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Thank you!
 
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AbwHJA

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I saw the date. I wasn't sure how it worked. You never know if she logs back on. If that's not how the sight works it's okay I still wanted to express my sentiments and that her message is still receiving love and even prayers cuz I still prayed for her. :) even if she doesn't know I know God received the prayer for her and wouldn't have unless this was still up here so thankful admits ration didn't take it down. Maybe it was for a reason? Or maybe God just used this thread to assure me I should log on because I wasn't sure
 
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AbwHJA

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Plus it got two replies so I know it want in vain at all:)
 

tourist

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I saw the date. I wasn't sure how it worked. You never know if she logs back on. If that's not how the sight works it's okay I still wanted to express my sentiments and that her message is still receiving love and even prayers cuz I still prayed for her. :) even if she doesn't know I know God received the prayer for her and wouldn't have unless this was still up here so thankful admits ration didn't take it down. Maybe it was for a reason? Or maybe God just used this thread to assure me I should log on because I wasn't sure
God definitely received the prayer and He will certainly answer it. God bless you for doing this.
 
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Victoriamae

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Wow, reading through all your comments base on Gods word and experiences that you have gone through in life, l've learned a lot and really got ministered too. Thank you Lord.☺☺☺
 
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NoEvil1020

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You sound like me. I am an introvert which makes it hard to fit in. My husband just got a few position(God has trully blessed us) but we had to move out of state; it took me 18 months before I found a friend that last time we moved. :( I am glad to chat with you any time. Please feel free to message me.
 
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BoroDude

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Hello:) I am your friend! Reach out to me anytime!
 
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Miserable

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Welcome to cc. Your story sounds just like mine. I am single and alone and a big church. After church they have own groups and I feel I don't fit in so I am alone. I have contemplated suicide because I was so lonely and depressed. Holidays are the worst. It helps me to get on cc and just vent sometimes. Feel free to send me a message. Hang in there. Praying for you
 
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Imnotblah

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The only one I have is God. That should be enough, right?
 
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Imnotblah

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I go to a mega church and want so bad t hit not a smaller
Church to connect. I am yealdinh to my husbands desire.
 

tourist

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The only one I have is God. That should be enough, right?
Even Adam got lonely although God was with him. He was lonely for a companion that was like he was, a human being. Glad to have you join our family. Welcome to CC.
 
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PinkDiamond

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Welcome to cc. Your story sounds just like mine. I am single and alone and a big church. After church they have own groups and I feel I don't fit in so I am alone. I have contemplated suicide because I was so lonely and depressed. Holidays are the worst. It helps me to get on cc and just vent sometimes. Feel free to send me a message. Hang in there. Praying for you
I think Holidays are often very depressing for single people or those living far away from family. I just joined this forum recently, but I'd love to interact with anyone that is looking for friendship. I think online communities are a great medium for making new friends.
 
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Imnotblah

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I am happy with myself; however, feel like such a burden and an annoyance to my husband, daughters and son in law. The only constant I have is God. That Is enough for me.