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Simao

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Hello everyone. I don't know how to put this in my best words but I've been looking for ways to meet others online. All my life, I have struggled to connect with people and build meaningful relationships. I'm extremely apathetic and I also suffer from social anxiety. From my date of birth to the time we are in now, I feel like our world has been headed on this one way trajectory where days are only getting darker and more sinister. And as a Christian it seems like we've come up to a crossroad. That is that we must decide between following God or following the world and there's no room to be flexible. I never considered myself to be a fundamentalist or anything of the sort, but as morality in our society continued to deteriorate, I noticed that I was beginning to stand out more and I had to make a decision on which life I was going to live. I chose God. Since then, it's so difficult to associate with worldly people and to see how this toxic culture dictates their thoughts and actions. It's only getting worse. They don't respect you and they don't care about your feelings. Bad company corrupts good character but good company doesn't seem to dignify bad character. I can't be myself anymore knowing they won't accept me. It's made me feel very isolated and depressed. I refuse to fit in but i'm so alone. Where did the good people go? I see the remnants in people who are decades older than my self but my generation is hopeless. Writing this is hard enough when i'm overwhelmed by apathy. I just feel like i'm losing my life one day at a time. What is there left to do?
 

tourist

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I joined this site primarily out of loneliness and a sense that I had hit rock bottom in my life and was very depressed. This is a great site to meet good Christian people for prayer, fellowship and support. Hopefully, you will find comfort, support and understanding from the residents of the community. Glad to have you as part of our family. Welcome to CC.
 

joefizz

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Welcome here you can discuss with bible smart people and possibly make new friends,hope you like it here!
 
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Hi! Simao :) Welcome here :)



There's a lot of things in this life that we have zero control...loosen up a bit and face your fears...you don't have to associate yourself and partake what those people are doing...you don't need to fit in to be accepted by them.

But You have given the opportunity to be here on earth
because God knows that you've got something and that is called love...

Understand that if we are going to continue to isolate ourselves from the people how can we fulfill the purpose why God put us here...to love God and your neighbor...

Someone told me give your love more to those who need more loving...the grumpy people,the unkind people,selfish people,proud people,broken people and lost people...because they need it more ❤

There are young ladies and young gentlemen here :) keep posting and sharing your thoughts :) I am looking forward to read some more of your posts :)


God bless you ❤
 

Adstar

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Hello everyone. I don't know how to put this in my best words but I've been looking for ways to meet others online. All my life, I have struggled to connect with people and build meaningful relationships. I'm extremely apathetic and I also suffer from social anxiety. From my date of birth to the time we are in now, I feel like our world has been headed on this one way trajectory where days are only getting darker and more sinister. And as a Christian it seems like we've come up to a crossroad. That is that we must decide between following God or following the world and there's no room to be flexible. I never considered myself to be a fundamentalist or anything of the sort, but as morality in our society continued to deteriorate, I noticed that I was beginning to stand out more and I had to make a decision on which life I was going to live. I chose God. Since then, it's so difficult to associate with worldly people and to see how this toxic culture dictates their thoughts and actions. It's only getting worse. They don't respect you and they don't care about your feelings. Bad company corrupts good character but good company doesn't seem to dignify bad character. I can't be myself anymore knowing they won't accept me. It's made me feel very isolated and depressed. I refuse to fit in but i'm so alone. Where did the good people go? I see the remnants in people who are decades older than my self but my generation is hopeless. Writing this is hard enough when i'm overwhelmed by apathy. I just feel like i'm losing my life one day at a time. What is there left to do?
Welcome aboard Simao..

Think of Noah.. Be like Noah..

Matthew 24:
37 "But as the days of Noe were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be."

Noe = Noah
 
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John 17:14-16New International Version (NIV)

14 I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. 15 My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. 16 They are not of the world, even as I am not of it.
Ephesians 6:12New International Version (NIV)

12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Understand that we are called to be in the world, not separated from it. It is not the people of the world causing problems it is spiritual warfare.
 

tourist

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John 17:14-16New International Version (NIV)

14 I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. 15 My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. 16 They are not of the world, even as I am not of it.
Ephesians 6:12New International Version (NIV)

12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

Understand that we are called to be in the world, not separated from it. It is not the people of the world causing problems it is spiritual warfare.
The struggle is real.

Welcome to CC.
 
Oct 30, 2017
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Niagara falls here Canada. Praying 4u. Where are you from
 

Simao

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Oct 30, 2017
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Jake, I'm about an hour away from Niagara falls. Thank you all for your welcoming messages and prayers. Hope that each of you are having a good day.
 

danja

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You can make great friends here .Welcome :)
 

tourist

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Niagara falls here Canada. Praying 4u. Where are you from
I have been to Niagara Falls twice. Rode the Maid of the Mist and did the Cave of the Winds. Went on the cable car over the whirlpool. Visited a few museums as well. Fun place. The falls are awesome especially the Horseshoe Falls.
 

louis

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Nov 1, 2017
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Hello everyone. I don't know how to put this in my best words but I've been looking for ways to meet others online. All my life, I have struggled to connect with people and build meaningful relationships. I'm extremely apathetic and I also suffer from social anxiety. From my date of birth to the time we are in now, I feel like our world has been headed on this one way trajectory where days are only getting darker and more sinister. And as a Christian it seems like we've come up to a crossroad. That is that we must decide between following God or following the world and there's no room to be flexible. I never considered myself to be a fundamentalist or anything of the sort, but as morality in our society continued to deteriorate, I noticed that I was beginning to stand out more and I had to make a decision on which life I was going to live. I chose God. Since then, it's so difficult to associate with worldly people and to see how this toxic culture dictates their thoughts and actions. It's only getting worse. They don't respect you and they don't care about your feelings. Bad company corrupts good character but good company doesn't seem to dignify bad character. I can't be myself anymore knowing they won't accept me. It's made me feel very isolated and depressed. I refuse to fit in but i'm so alone. Where did the good people go? I see the remnants in people who are decades older than my self but my generation is hopeless. Writing this is hard enough when i'm overwhelmed by apathy. I just feel like i'm losing my life one day at a time. What is there left to do?
I'm also new here, just joined today. I understand how you feel not fitting in. You are correct in that it is a matter of choosing the way of the world, or the way of God. Unfortunately, most people seem to prefer love for the world, over a well kept life. I also am not perfect living a totally spiritual life. I, however, am aware of my carnal inclinations being contrary to the spirit, and so I try to do better.
Hope you will find some friends here.
 

Rainrider

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Jun 17, 2017
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Hello everyone. I don't know how to put this in my best words but I've been looking for ways to meet others online. All my life, I have struggled to connect with people and build meaningful relationships. I'm extremely apathetic and I also suffer from social anxiety. From my date of birth to the time we are in now, I feel like our world has been headed on this one way trajectory where days are only getting darker and more sinister. And as a Christian it seems like we've come up to a crossroad. That is that we must decide between following God or following the world and there's no room to be flexible. I never considered myself to be a fundamentalist or anything of the sort, but as morality in our society continued to deteriorate, I noticed that I was beginning to stand out more and I had to make a decision on which life I was going to live. I chose God. Since then, it's so difficult to associate with worldly people and to see how this toxic culture dictates their thoughts and actions. It's only getting worse. They don't respect you and they don't care about your feelings. Bad company corrupts good character but good company doesn't seem to dignify bad character. I can't be myself anymore knowing they won't accept me. It's made me feel very isolated and depressed. I refuse to fit in but i'm so alone. Where did the good people go? I see the remnants in people who are decades older than my self but my generation is hopeless. Writing this is hard enough when i'm overwhelmed by apathy. I just feel like i'm losing my life one day at a time. What is there left to do?
There are times when I feel the same way. In fact among friends, we talk of this a lot. Often we find that even in some churches, there is little difference in how the people act, when set next to worldly people. The world as a whole has rejected HaShem, (God), and push Yeshua, (Jesus) away at every turn. It is sad yes, and my heart goes to them all. The only things that keeps me going are my time in the Word, and my love for Yeshua. His word tells us this will come, and that we should be of good cheer, as it is nothing more than a sign of His return. Then being a grumpy old man helps as well. LOL In truth though, I find that the answer to what I see as an age old question is where I find a lot of peace. You see I live in a little town, (the people here say it is a city) out in the middle of nowhere. Well ok maybe not in the middle, you can see it from my back door though. As with most small towns, believers, non-believers, or what ever one follows in times of need we all pull together to help one another.
I will happy to talk with you about anything you wish to talk of, and help in any I can. You see, I also got on here to have contact with other people. I don't get around as good as I once did, and so am left with just my own thoughts for company a lot of times. Now if you want scary, just wonder around in my head for a bit, you will be thankful for the world you have. :p
May HaShem bless you, and keep you always.
John K
 
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Hello,

I can relate to how you feel and know that you are not alone. Here is a Scripture that helps me when I am filled with anxiety whatever the cause: 1Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. Make the Lord your best friend and He will add to you everything that you need (including relationships)! Have you ever considered taking a class at a seminary college? You might make some very Godly friends there!
 

NoNameMcgee

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welcome to cc

:)

i hope this place is a blessing to you

i have met people younger than myself who seem to have a genuine desire for Gods will in their life ...

our generation isnt hopeless bro

but i agree with your opinion on the direction the majority seem to be taking


(see you around the forum, i believe there are many brothers and sisters in Christ here good for fellowship)
 

aharp

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Oct 29, 2017
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Psalm 119 gives us great hope! His word is powerful! THE WORD Jesus is our light and our salvation. I was where you are last year. He pulled me out of the pit and planted my feet on His foundation of love and mercy. I pray the same for you!