How long does the grief of losing a spouse last.

I lost my husband of 22 years on March 17,2017 I feel lost and lonely and scared.We talked about everything.Will I ever heal and be happy again.

My wife passed away after 36 years of marriage, due to kidney failure and a heart attack. I absolutely know she is with the Lord in heaven, but still the grief comes and goes, however the duration of the tears is less now after two weeks. She passed away unexpectedly on 11-2-15. Those who have been down this path before, please encourage me that there will be a time coming when the grief will be replaced with cherished memories.

My wife passed away after 36 years of marriage, due to kidney failure and a heart attack. I absolutely know she is with the Lord in heaven, but still the grief comes and goes, however the duration of the tears is less now after two weeks. She passed away unexpectedly on 11-2-15. Those who have been down this path before, please encourage me that there will be a time coming when the grief will be replaced with cherished memories.

My wife passed away after 36 years of marriage, due to kidney failure and a heart attack. I absolutely know she is with the Lord in heaven, but still the grief comes and goes, however the duration of the tears is less now after two weeks. She passed away unexpectedly on 11-2-15. Those who have been down this path before, please encourage me that there will be a time coming when the grief will be replaced with cherished memories.

I lost my husband of 22 years on March 17,2017 I feel lost and lonely and scared.We talked about everything.Will I ever heal and be happy again.

How long does the grief of losing a spouse last.

I lost my husband of 22 years on March 17,2017 I feel lost and lonely and scared. We talked about everything.Will I ever heal and be happy again.

Everyone is offering very good advice, and it is all comforting. As bad as it hurt when my Dad died and then a few years later Mom died, this is far worse. YES I know what you mean about sensing her spirit. I actually felt it the very first night a mutual friend introduced us on Oct. 16th, 1978. YES, I can still feel it, but the separation seems almost unbearable at times. Part of me will always long to be standing by her right side, and thankfully I told that very thing a couple days before our Lord called her home. Someone said it is like part of yourself died, and that is very true.

She sensed that her death was coming a few months ago, but I remained in denial. Our 10.5 year old miniature dachshund died of congestive heart failure on June 9th, this year, and she insisted we buy another as soon as possible. I had a hard time finding one that looked like Katrina, but I finally located one nearly 400 miles away. To our surprise, we found out that Sarah-Lee was born on June 9th, this year. On the trip home after picking Sarah-Lee up, my wife confided with me that she wanted the puppy, so that I would not be alone, when she passed away. I dismissed it by saying, oh we are going together in the Rapture.

I am not overly depressed, because I realized a long time ago, that if GOD was finished with me, I would not be able to take another breath. Still the mixed emotions of wanting to be standing beside her, and wanting to finish the race, that God has laid out before me, was something that I honestly thought was years away.

Thank you and everyone else who has shared their thoughts and suggestions.

Titus 2:13,
VCO

I'm not sure anyone has the answer to that question. But it doesn't have to be forever. My first wife died of lung cancer at a rather young age. She was a non-smoker, so her illness came as a shock to us. We knew from the beginning that she would eventually die of this. (Her condition was inoperable.) So during the two years I took care of her at the end of her life, I had time to begin adjusting to life without her.

How long did it take me to get over her death? Well, really I don't think that is something that you ever completely get over. And even though during her illness I knew what was coming, I still was depressed for many months following her death. But I eventually got over it and remarried, and now I've moved on with my life. And that's exactly what my first wife wanted me to do. She told me--and wrote to me in a letter to be opened after her death--that she wanted me to remarry and move on with my life rather than spending the rest of my life mourning her death.

That said, I don't think it's necessary to remarry in order to move on. Had I been 20 years older, I probably would not have gotten married again. To be honest, I wasn't really looking for marriage or even for dating when I met the woman who would eventually become my second wife. We met through happenstance at an open house, and just seemed to hit it off real well.

VCO, even if you never completely get over losing your wife, I believe the pain will diminish over time. You are in my prayers.

It's been 26 months since my wife died. Some times I miss her terribly, other times not so much. I sometimes think how nice it would be if she just popped up one day like nothing happened.
I saw a science fiction TV show a few weeks ago; a guy's GF dies and he traveled back in time a few weeks to before she died and hugged her intensely for more then a few moments. I had a dream about doing the same thing not more then a few nights before I saw that TV program.
I had to shut it off.
Still, I am in a much better frame of mind now then the first 6 months or so afterwards.
Thank God for Him helping me out.

My wife passed away after 36 years of marriage, due to kidney failure and a heart attack. I absolutely know she is with the Lord in heaven, but still the grief comes and goes, however the duration of the tears is less now after two weeks. She passed away unexpectedly on 11-2-15. Those who have been down this path before, please encourage me that there will be a time coming when the grief will be replaced with cherished memories.

Dear Lord, my heart is heavy for VCO, who is learning to find his footing in his earth walk after having lost his wife. I too know what it is like to lose someone so close to me, my best friend and lover, and my grief reaches across the space that separates VCO and me to let him know that he is not alone in the feelings of pain and grief and loss that he experiences moving forward in life without his better half. I pray that God's loving kindness would comfort you, and that you would find peace in the living days of your life. I pray that God's love would fill your heart, and reveal to you the purpose of your spouse’s life and death, that you would hold fast to what is good, preserving her memory with the same sense of care and respect you shared in days gone by. I pray that you regain strength and confidence, and that you find joy in your cherished memories. I pray God would soften your heart and mind, drawing near to you in personal ways that help you know His presence.

The pearl of great wisdom hidden in grief is the crystallization of knowing
and embracing beyond a doubt that which we value above all else. May the
light of this love continue to light your path. In Jesus' sweet name we pray, amen.

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So sorry for your loss. I can not imagine losing a spouse especially a spouse who is very loving and shows you all the love you need and treats you like a princess.. I don't know how your spouse was but i feel like you were very close. I will pray for both of you to have a healthy recovery from your loss and pain. Maybe you all can mourn together and help each other through your difficult time. It does not look to me like it is an accident that you met here with the same topic just saying.. God is at work here. You guys can help each other...

I lost my husband of 22 years on March 17,2017 I feel lost and lonely and scared.We talked about everything.Will I ever heal and be happy again.

My wife passed away after 36 years of marriage, due to kidney failure and a heart attack. I absolutely know she is with the Lord in heaven, but still the grief comes and goes, however the duration of the tears is less now after two weeks. She passed away unexpectedly on 11-2-15. Those who have been down this path before, please encourage me that there will be a time coming when the grief will be replaced with cherished memories.