learning to be patient and wait on the Lord

I understand the desire to be married. I also understand, from experience, what it is like to be married and to wonder what it would be like to be single again.

Marriage is neither paradise nor panacea, and is neither promised nor prescribed. It has many of the same blessings and challenges that singleness does, and some that singleness does not. It's not some sort of "ideal state". It is the will of God for sex and procreation, and is a fantastic idea for companionship, mutual support, and edification.

It sounds like you're well on your way to trusting and waiting. Continue to focus on being a godly man in every way, and put the desire for marriage fully in the Lord's hands. Ask His guidance as to whether to search for a prospective bride... or not. He is good, and He has good plans for you.

i want to be married so bad. i know the Lord will do his will in my life, it's just hard to be lonely and wanting a wife and be surrounded by females who do not love the Lord. i could never marry a non-believer. please pray for me to have patience and trust in the Lord!
he is teaching me to be content with where i am and to be thankful for what i already have, which i am very thankful for. Thanks for praying for me!

i want to be married so bad. i know the Lord will do his will in my life, it's just hard to be lonely and wanting a wife and be surrounded by females who do not love the Lord. i could never marry a non-believer. please pray for me to have patience and trust in the Lord!
he is teaching me to be content with where i am and to be thankful for what i already have, which i am very thankful for. Thanks for praying for me!

i want to be married so bad. i know the Lord will do his will in my life, it's just hard to be lonely and wanting a wife and be surrounded by females who do not love the Lord. i could never marry a non-believer. please pray for me to have patience and trust in the Lord!
he is teaching me to be content with where i am and to be thankful for what i already have, which i am very thankful for. Thanks for praying for me!

I'm not sure God brings us a spouse. I mean maybe he does but it wouldn't make sense. We each have free will right? So God cannot force anyone to fall in love with anyone else. He could let them meet and try to push them with each other...but sometimes we don't like what God sends us...so we keep looking for someone better. It's sad but that's how this ugly broken world works. Life just sucks most of the time.
So if you meet a girl you like...don't wait for God to bring you two together. Go up to her and ask her out. Take initiative.

OP, are you involved in any local ministries? or ministries at your local assembly? i'm not saying each person who participates in a ministry is going to be someone who wholeheartedly loves the Lord, but the chances of meeting someone who does increases compares to someone who "just goes to church on Sundays." but of course, a friendly reminder, we are to be ministers for the honor and glory of God, not to meet someone/spouse. lol.

just a thought.

Marriage is not a promise. It's a tough pill to swallow and most Christians refuse to accept it. It may happen, it may not.
I have a cousin that is 60, Christian. He was never married, despite having always wanted marriage. He did finally marry, but it seems more out of desperation than love. Now, less than a year in, hes facing the possibility of divorce.
I myself am 42, never married, no prospects. I will never be in a situation that will allow me to be a provider. I'm emotionally damaged at this point. I've wanted marriage all my life but I've every reason to believe it will never happen.
If it were a promise then people wouldn't go their whole lives and die never marrying. But it happens. If it were a promise then that would make God a liar. And He's not.

i am not currently involved in any formal, structured ministries in my local area and am still looking for a Christ-centric, Gospel-centric church home to become part of. i totally understand and agree with everything you said, now i just wait on the Lord and keep searching.

i agree, and i understand that waiting on the Lord means waiting on him to do his will, not my will.
i also don't think that waiting on the Lord implies one single event, but rather a condition of heart in which we are surrendered to his providence in every area of our lives, every day waiting patiently for his purpose to unfold. make sense?

my problem isn't so much not taking initiative and not being able to ask a girl out, it's finding a Christian woman who confesses Christ and desires to live a Christ centered life in marriage. I'm not smoking hot by any means, but i do get attention from the ladies, the problem is they want nothing to do with Jesus. I can't tell you how many times I've engaged a female in conversation and had strong chemistry with her, only to have her do a total 180 when she finds out i'm Christian. It goes from sparks flying through the air to hidden faces, averted eyes and avoided contact. It's even happened with females who go to Church every Sunday.

Trusting the Lord and waiting patiently is the only choice we really have, and when we truly consider it, it's the only choice we've ever really had with regards to every area of life, whether we realize it or not. The way i see it, i can either wait on the Lord with impatience, anxiety and fear, or i can wait on the Lord with patience, peace, and trust in the One who works all things according to the counsel of his own Sovereign will and the working of his omnipotent power.

Thoughts?