Does Anyone Else Feel Intimidated by the "I Only Date to Marry" Philosophy?
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I honestly have given up on dating at least for now. I tried about a month ago again but still the same bad habits followed as they always do so I gave up again. I need to straighten out with my walk with the Lord before I can start again I think. Double mindedness is difficult to work with when your distracted from God.
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when I met my husband, part of me did wonder if it would be more, but honestly, my 1st thought was, "eh.. it doesn't hurt to make a new friend." but we didn't create a friendship with an agenda other than friendship. it slowly progressed to more. 7 months later, we were officially a couple.
within a month of us being an official couple, he said he was going to marry me. some may say that was too soon to say, but it didn't scare me at all. maybe because we are in our 30s, and we are too old for emotional games lol. it let me know that he was not going to waste our time. but I believe it didn't scare us because we saw how God calculated everything.
if he had said the same thing one month into our friendship, then I would have freaked out lol.
I remember some time ago, a friend asked me for christian dating advice. I honestly told him I'm not an expert on the topic. I do remember telling him, "get to know her not only because you're interested but because she is a person. she is worth getting to know because God made her."
within a month of us being an official couple, he said he was going to marry me. some may say that was too soon to say, but it didn't scare me at all. maybe because we are in our 30s, and we are too old for emotional games lol. it let me know that he was not going to waste our time. but I believe it didn't scare us because we saw how God calculated everything.
if he had said the same thing one month into our friendship, then I would have freaked out lol.
I remember some time ago, a friend asked me for christian dating advice. I honestly told him I'm not an expert on the topic. I do remember telling him, "get to know her not only because you're interested but because she is a person. she is worth getting to know because God made her."
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Well we try not to date for fun because, in this case, it could lead people on and in many cases defy biblical principles. We date for a purpose, not just any purpose, but usually to get married and that brings up the thread topic. I don't go on dates with tons of girls for fun, I'd be called a "player" or, my personal favorite, a THOTTTTTT. If a girl were to do this she would probably be called a gold digger or something similar to that. Ultimately it comes down to what Jesus tells us His will is, and in a single persons case, we should date with some kind of purpose leading to marriage somehow. Some people take that really far, others take it very loosely and rapid date or something and I'm not going to judge either side, as long as you have a goal that eventually leads to marriage I think you're moving in the right direction.
Reminds me of this guy he told his wife, a love interest at the time, that guys had her on the exchange program cuz she dated a lot of different people. I don't really like the idea tbh but it's just a different way to do things ig. I'd say something definite like " ill never date a girl that is flipping guys" or something smart like that but I've said stuff like that in the past and i ended up caving because I really liked the girl lol. So unless it's a deal breaker I'll just say what i prefer because I think God likes bringing people in my life i can't stand normally, but I end up caring about them anyway i guess love covers a multitude of other stuff too.I need to start a weeb thread now hmmm