Do you believe in a soulmate? POLL

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Do you believe in a soulmate?

  • Yes

    Votes: 20 50.0%
  • No

    Votes: 11 27.5%
  • not sure

    Votes: 6 15.0%
  • other

    Votes: 3 7.5%

  • Total voters
    40

Solemateleft

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Five Best Soulmate Movies of all time Plus 1 for good measure:

The Notebook (2004) - romantic film based on a Nicholas Sparks novel
Titanic (1997) - an epic romance film
A Walk to Remember (2001) - an American romance film based on a romance novel by Nicholas Sparks
Somewhere in Time (1980) - a romantic sci-fi starring the late Christopher Reeve and Jane Seymour. It is a perfect classic period film for those who love the vibe of the earlier 19th century
Ghost (1990) - romantic fantasy drama
Braveheart ... Come-on their souls fell in love as kids - how romantic was that when he returned home... His love for his wife served as his passion for heroic action and decisions...

What to I believe: I believe that we have to open our hearts and our minds to HIS absolute magnificence... read: we have to be willing to accept his will, while being open to HIS life lessons and willing to genuinely learn to improve ourselves every step of the way. IE we have to be open to change ourselves for the better...
- I do believe that HE has a masterful plan and that everything happens by design for a reason...
- I do believe in fate and destiny...
- I do believe that certain souls are meant to enter our lives for a purpose...
- I do believe that as humans we will err...
- I DO NOT believe in a perfect marriage - I believe that two imperfect people who refuse to give-up on each other ARE or DO ultimately BECOME soulmates...
- I DO BELIEVE that HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE...

The 'Notebook' is the perfect example... They fought, they broke up, they went their separate ways, they grew, they learned, they followed their hearts... They reconciled... and HE NEVER QUIT!

I also believe that when our souls return HOME to our eternal salvation that our perspectives of earthly 'life-partners' is spectacularly different...
I believe our souls in heaven are completely forgiving of the loved ones we have left to this earth - meaning - our souls in heaven are not jealous of those who are eventually able to move-on and are fortunate enough to be blessed to love and be loved again...
 
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Hamarr

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#23
I don’t believe in soul mates in the modern sense. A lot of this idea of souls mates seems to be fantasy with love addiction and enmeshment held up rhe ideal. There is also a fair bit of entitlement as to what the soul mate should be.

I was reading a book recently that discussed how the idea of rhe soul mate changed over the course of the 20th century. The older version was more about a bond that develops over time when you pick someone that shares your most important values. They also meet your most important needs, but not all of your needs.

When focusing on the core needs, there are a lot more potential “soul mates”.
 
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I don’t believe in soul mates in the modern sense. A lot of this idea of souls mates seems to be fantasy with love addiction and enmeshment held up rhe ideal. There is also a fair bit of entitlement as to what the soul mate should be.

I was reading a book recently that discussed how the idea of rhe soul mate changed over the course of the 20th century. The older version was more about a bond that develops over time when you pick someone that shares your most important values. They also meet your most important needs, but not all of your needs.

When focusing on the core needs, there are a lot more potential “soul mates”.
President Bush Just past.. They were showing clips of his life. Now that was a love story between he and his wife huh!!!!
 

Adstar

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Jul 24, 2016
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I believe there are a certain number or percentage of people that you are more comparable with and thus it is easier to form and maintain a relationship with them.. But no one is perfect for you.. In any woman/man relationship both have to work on it compromising when needed. Talking,, keeping the communication lines open.. And constantly forgiving the other person for their human failings.. Being able to forgive your partner is a Key to maintaining a long term relationship..

I believe the idea of a perfect soul mate is dangerous.. Because it gives people the impression that they will find someone who will automatically understand them perfectly. Who they will never have problems with / disagreements / arguments with.. It kind of sets people up for failure in relationships because once they hit an uncomfortable patch in the relationship they are more likely to abandon that person because they believe that they have picked the wrong person because that person has turned out to not be their idealized perfect soul mate..
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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#27
Hmmm... as far as i know not everyone find the love of his/her life...but everyone gets a chance to meet a potential love once,twice,thrice or more in their lifetime.

But' why some people end up single for the rest of their life? Here's my opinion only based on my personal experience 😉 some can't find anyone to marry (despite being sorrounded by many potential love) because some of them guard themselves and put a barrier to protect them from getting hurt past hurt experiences or sometimes fear to get hurt in the future...one example is the friend zone barrier 😂

Some choose to stay single because they feel like they are complete already no need for love they are happy and single and proud about it.


Some are struggling to find their value and they dont believe that anyone could love them(low self-esteem) even if that potential love is in front of his/her eyes already he/she is still full of doubts.

Potential love expectations are set too high(looking for perfect man/woman mentality and will only date those with looks ,money,education,intelligence etc because they think they deserve better someone with those qualities and they won't compromise.


One last reason some people are waiting for someone to fall from the sky 😂



I don't believe the idea of finding your soulmate but i believe that when we trust the Lord and not our own desire if we submit to God our lovelife, He will direct us to that person. He will guide us along the way while you and that person are getting to know each other or you will allow enough time to know the person and if you will let your guard down.


We will never find that person if we will not exert an effort to find that person..if we will not try if we will not loosen up a bit if we will not let our guard down... 😶
 

Lynx

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Aug 13, 2014
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#28
You left out one... Some people are just too lazy to go looking.

If soulmates really is a thing, I feel sorry for my soulmate. She must be really lonely and maybe frustrated that I haven't found her yet. It's not that I am avoiding her, I just haven't gotten around to looking for her yet. Maybe in a couple years...
 

Lighthearted

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Oct 17, 2016
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#29
I'm sure there will be some people who don't believe what I do. I'm not asking anyone to. The Holy Spirit is our teacher and the Bible the lesson plan. We all learn and grow at different levels.

I believe everyone comes in and out of our lives for reasons only God understands. We all have the freedom to make choices in our lives about everything, including who we choose as a mate. Where you are in your walk has a lot to do with the type of person you marry.

If you don't believe in Christ and aren't walking in His will, chances are the person you marry isn't either. People change as they get older and gain maturity and wisdom and hopefully find Grace in our Lord Jesus. Maybe then you find yourself in an unequally yoked marriage and no matter how much you pray for your spouse...the marriage doesn't survive because that person doesn't like who you've become and they leave because they want to continue in their sinful ways. Perhaps you have Biblical reasons to leave.

Then later a very special person crosses your path that you can't help but be drawn to...and you know in your heart and soul this is the person God has for you.

So, if God has chosen a "soulmate" for you, does that mean He knew the mistakes you would make? Did He only choose a specific person for you when He knew you would turn your life over to Him and that you never should have married before? What about the children from the marriage that fell apart? They certainly aren't mistakes but gifts. Does He not base His plans knowing you and your choices ahead of time and use the consequences of our mistakes to teach us valuable lessons ultimately for His glory?

I don't have the answers but I think of Romans 8:28 and trust in His promises no matter what mistakes I make along the way. That's what is so amazing about grace. We will still make mistakes and find ourselves stepping the wrong way in God's will because we are not yet perfect...but we are still learning in our sanctification.
 
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Do you believe God created one special person for everyone?? :unsure: What are your thoughts?

I believe God would have plans for those who should marry to set them up with a specific soul mate. BUT I feel most the time or at least it's something often that we don't wait on the one God has for us, and instead by free will, we rush things and pick someone ourselves without being sure it was the will of God.

I almost married the wrong person. I proposed, we planned, but then things didn't go through. Countless women asked me to marry them. But I waited until God would basically shove me into a marriage where I couldn't avoid the reality that is his plan for my life. I tried to avoid the woman I did marry, but when it was clear I met her because the Lord set us up, then I married her. But God will still let us choose who we want and things could still work out decently, but it's better just to be patient even if it takes a few more years.
 

Lighthearted

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I'm sure there will be some people who don't believe what I do. I'm not asking anyone to. The Holy Spirit is our teacher and the Bible the lesson plan. We all learn and grow at different levels.

I believe everyone comes in and out of our lives for reasons only God understands. We all have the freedom to make choices in our lives about everything, including who we choose as a mate. Where you are in your walk has a lot to do with the type of person you marry.

If you don't believe in Christ and aren't walking in His will, chances are the person you marry isn't either. People change as they get older and gain maturity and wisdom and hopefully find Grace in our Lord Jesus. Maybe then you find yourself in an unequally yoked marriage and no matter how much you pray for your spouse...the marriage doesn't survive because that person doesn't like who you've become and they leave because they want to continue in their sinful ways. Perhaps you have Biblical reasons to leave.

Then later a very special person crosses your path that you can't help but be drawn to...and you know in your heart and soul this is the person God has for you.

So, if God has chosen a "soulmate" for you, does that mean He knew the mistakes you would make? Did He only choose a specific person for you when He knew you would turn your life over to Him and that you never should have married before? What about the children from the marriage that fell apart? They certainly aren't mistakes but gifts. Does He not base His plans knowing you and your choices ahead of time and use the consequences of our mistakes to teach us valuable lessons ultimately for His glory?

I don't have the answers but I think of Romans 8:28 and trust in His promises no matter what mistakes I make along the way. That's what is so amazing about grace. We will still make mistakes and find ourselves stepping the wrong way in God's will because we are not yet perfect...but we are still learning in our sanctification.

I guess I didn't really answer the question. I believe there is a person out there that you can sing in harmony with. Marriage takes work. It takes understanding, love, forgiveness, patience, kindness, and most of all a foundation built on Jesus Christ. So when you find that person...I guess that's what I would consider a soulmate.
 
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I guess I didn't really answer the question. I believe there is a person out there that you can sing in harmony with. Marriage takes work. It takes understanding, love, forgiveness, patience, kindness, and most of all a foundation built on Jesus Christ. So when you find that person...I guess that's what I would consider a soulmate.
What is very odd, is that your profile picture looks just like the 1st woman I proposed to, heh
 

Lighthearted

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What is very odd, is that your profile picture looks just like the 1st woman I proposed to, heh
That's funny...was she an old woman too? So, I have a doppelganger?
 

Kaps89

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I believe that God has given us all a soulmate. We've just got to find them.

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Poinsetta

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I think God is too jealouse of me to give me a partner sometimes i can clearly hear a voice inside of me saying no way jose will i ever let her go. Like if i’m gonna give her up that easy. Lol
 
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I think God is too jealouse of me to give me a partner sometimes i can clearly hear a voice inside of me saying no way jose will i ever let her go. Like if i’m gonna give her up that easy. Lol
The Lord is married to our spirit, not our bodies. Therefor he doesn't have our bodies but rather our soul and spirit. he leaves our bodies to marry someone else's body. That is why 2 fleshes become 1. Which is funny why we call this soul mates, is because we aren't married to another man or woman's soul, but rather their flesh. Flesh doesn't exist forever but the soul and spirit does, that is why we are no longer married when we die or our spouse dies but being the Bride of Christ we are married forever.

Perhaps you knew this though.