Men and women are afraid of getting married .Why?

..men and women afraid of getting married? Why? Why does has to be ,"what is it disnt't work out "? Can't we just believe?

Just believe in what exactly? Marriages don't just work out, they take a lot of work. Even if you meet the best person on the planet and get them to marry you, marriages take a lot of work. And it seems like fewer and fewer people are keeping their vows of till death do us part. So, especially when it's a theoretical question of just getting married rather than having someone specific in mind to marry, such cautions and concerns are pretty valid. Because being married to someone who is a bad choice is much worse than being single.

But why does it matter in the least to you what other people are doing in terms of marriage? Who died and left you in charge of other people's personal lives?

Okay maxima has started enough threads that we're starting to get a profile here, enough that we can start making some educated guesses.

maxima did a girl recently turn you down?

Maxima has made MULTIPLE threads on marriage, solely and specifically about the woman's so-called responsibility to her husband. I have not seen any threads where he addresses the husbands responsibility to love and die for his wife. He has been silent about any male responsibility in marriage.

Then, after all his talk about the woman's so-called responsibility in marriage, he turns around and asks why are people afraid to marry. There are a lot or red flags going off here. I would say at least a hundred red flags.

So many red flags it looks like a chinese parade.

Maxima has created MULTIPLE threads specifically about the woman's so-called responsibility to her husband. I have yet to see any threads from him about the husband's duty to love and die for his wife. He's been silent about the husband's duty to love and sacrifice in marriage.

Then, he turns around and asks why are people afraid to marry? There are so many red flags going off here. At least a hundred of 'em.

SORRY ABOUT THE DUPLICATE POST. I COULDN'T DELETE IT.

Why not start a thread discussing mens responsibilities in Marriage if you want it discussed ?

As far as i know as long as a poster's topic stays within the rules of the forum then it is allowed..

If you do not wish to follow Maxima then the Ignore option is always available to you..

I have no desire to start a thread about the man's responsibility in marriage. That doesn't not mean that I'm blind when it comes to a male creating multiple threads on marriage, soley and specifically about the woman's so-called duty to her husband & the red flags that behavior sends off.

Last time I checked, as a poster here on CC, I too am allowed to comment on that if I choose to.

Please do not tell me what to post and what to ignore. There are moderators here for that, and I will work really hard to show you the same courtesy.

In my estimation, the two main reasons to being afraid of getting married are the fear of rejection or commitment.

No need to delete it as it was worth repeating.

Some men and women may be afraid to get married but I would not say that this is a general conclusion. What makes you think that this is true? For the most part I believe that those that do chose to get married believe that it is going to work out. I am not sure why you feel that this is a concern about the reasons why men and women chose not to marry as it really doesn't pertain to your own choice on the matter of marriage. "Can't we just believe?" is only a question that you should ask of yourself.

Yes, but lacking the pop and sizzle of fireworks. Probably a dud.

I never ordered you to do anything..
Don't project that upon me.

Actually you didn't order her to do anything but you do tell her what to post and what to ignore.

Who says this? Another thread making generalized claims. I see people all the time wanting to get married. Over here we have TV shows of ridiculous concepts of people desperate to get married. Marriage is still alive and well.

Men and Women?

Or should you say guys and girls?

Mature, adult men and women that I know are not afraid of getting married. They are cautious to chose who they have a relationship with, and that is as it should be.

My thoughts

"married at first sight"

I say this with as much respect as I can muster at this moment: your question is profoundly naïve.

Do a little research. Listen to a few relevant YouTube videos. Talk to real people who have been through divorce. "Just believing" is appropriate when God makes a promise, not when you're dealing with fallen and incompletely-redeemed humans. Even when you are, people don't necessarily agree on everything.