Is remarriage always adultery?

LW97 · May 11, 2019

Divorce, if done legally for the right reason, is permitted by God in the Old and New Testaments.

Difference between “Putting Away” and “Legal Divorce” Putting away is just to kick someone out. That's why the Mark 10:4 account shows that even a woman can "PUT AWAY" (630. apoluó) her husband even though the Law of Moses only permits the HUSBAND to DIVORCE (647. apostasion) his wife (Deuteronomy 24:1). Now read these verses understanding the difference between these two words… - 630. apoluó: to set free, release Luke 16:17-18 (KJV) 17 And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. 18 Whosoever "putteth away" (630. apoluó) his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. - 647. apostasion: a forsaking, (bill of) divorce Matthew 19:7 (KJV) They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement (647. apostasion), AND to put her away (630. apoluó)? Pharisees were “putting away” (630. apoluó) their wives for any cause WITHOUT giving them bills of divorcement (647. apostasies). Essentially, kicking them out and causing them too have to find someone to support them and fulfill their sexual needs. Without a final conclusion to the original marriage which was improperly handled by the husband, HE then causes her to commit technical adultery. The second husband should require to ask if she has been previously married and if so, present the certificate of divorce to make sure he is not marrying another man’s wife. Without one, she can’t move forward. What they should have been doing is abiding by both the words of Moses and Jesus which say the same exact thing. That ONLY for the case of sexual immorality can a husband DIVORCE his wife and then she can go remarry. Moses said this in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 and Jesus said this in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. Unlceaness is sexual immorality and Fornication is the equivalent of the definition in the Greek. Matter of fact, God Himself gave a CERTIFICATE of DIVORCEMENT to Israel in Jeremiah 3:8. It is possible to put away WITHOUT giving the certificate of divorce thereby not completing the command. The Pharisees did this as well with there woman caught in adultery (Jn 8:1-11), they brought only the woman and not the man so they didn’t completely obey the command and were ashamed. Jeremiah 3:8 (KJV) And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, AND given her a BILL OF DIVORCE; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. Deuteronomy 24:1-2 (KJV) 1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a BILL OF DIVORCEMENT, and give it in her hand, AND send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. Isaiah 50:1 (KJV) Thus saith the LORD, Where is the BILL OF YOUR MOTHER’S DIVORCEMENT whom I have put away? or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities have ye sold yourselves, and for your transgressions is your mother put away. Mark 10:4 (KJV) And they said, Moses suffered to write a BILL OF DIVORCEMENT, AND to put her away. Even in the Old Testement, the difference between “PUT AWAY” (7971. šal-laḥ) and giving a certificate of “DIVORCE” (3748. kə-rî-ṯuṯ) is obvious. Guess what God hates? Unjust PUTTING AWAY. - 7971. šal-laḥ: Send away - 3748. kə-rî-ṯuṯ: Divorce with certificate Malachi 2:16 (KJV) For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth PUTTING AWAY (7971. šal-laḥ,): for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. Deuteronomy 24:1-2 (KJV) 1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a BILL OF DIVORCEMENT (3748. kə-rî-ṯuṯ), and give it in her hand, AND SEND HER OUT (7971. šal-laḥ) of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. Adultery or unfaithfulness can break the marriage covenant. As does death. Israel being the example. Hense the Old and New covenants. Faithfulness is a condition that the marriage is built on. Ezekiel 16:38 (KJV) And I will judge thee, as women that BREAK WEDLOCK and shed blood are judged; and I will give thee blood in fury and jealousy.

Melach · May 11, 2019

no its not. if you are cheated on, you can freely divorce for example. if you are a widow you can also remarry

LW97 · May 11, 2019

Melach said:

Yeah, but that's not all. (and BTW, I couldn't be a widower, only a widow, I am male)

Christians are commanded to NOT break the bond by putting away( Christian husbands) or leaving ( Christian wives). The bond can only be broken by an unbeliever who departs!

New Covenant Marriage Commandments TO ALL CHURCHES:

A BELIEVING WIFE is not to depart from her believing husband:

1 Cor. 7: 10 And unto the MARRIED I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife DEPART FROM her husband:
11 But and if she DEPART, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband;

The New Covenant Commandments do not allow BELIEVING husbands to PUT AWAY their BELIEVING wives:

vs 11 continued
“and let not the husband PUT AWAY his wife.”

A BELIEVING husband cannot PUT AWAY an UNBELIEVING wife:

12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him,
👉let him not put her away.👈

A BELIEVING wife cannot LEAVE her UNBELIEVING husband:

13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her,
👉let her not leave him.👈

Both are free from the bondage to the marriage
👉 if the unbeliever departs👈:

15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I 👉 IN ALL CHURCHES.👈

LW97 · May 11, 2019

And apologize for what I wrote:
"
(and BTW, I couldn't be a widower, only a widow, I am male)"

I meant it exactly the other way

MattforJesus · May 11, 2019

People who get married cannot divorce, unless it is for adultery, for they broke the covenant between them, or one of them dies.

They can separate from each other, but if adultery was not committed, they are still married.

I does not matter if they were abusive, an alcoholic, a drug addict, using up the finances in marriage for selfish reasons, if they separate they are still married.

For only adultery is the reason they can divorce, for when they broke the covenant then it cannot be reversed, unless they forgive and move on with their marriage, which if they forgive, and move on with their marriage it would seem like they could not change their mind later on if they are having problems, and bring up the adultery as a reason to get divorced, for they already forgave them of it so it is a clean slate, and they moved on with their marriage.

But if they do not want to forgive then there is no reversal, and can get a divorce if they want, for at the point of adultery the covenant between them was broken, and will stay broken unless they forgive.

But if they divorce for any other reason then it is not valid for any other problem can be solved, and can be worked out, and if not than that is because they do not want to work on it, or will change to act right, so they can separate but are still married.

Many people who claim Christ have divorced, and it was not because of adultery, and then a lot of adultery is going on as they marry another, all the while thinking that it is not a problem, but Paul wrote that one of the main things for Gentiles to avoid is fornication.

God said what He has put together let no man tear asunder, and to God the marriage is important, like the bonding with Jesus, and God is important.

Some people take marriage lightly when it comes to divorce, and do not understand the seriousness of that covenant.

LW97 · May 11, 2019

And just to the end confusion: I am MALE.

Dino246 · May 11, 2019

LW97 said:

And what are your preferred pronouns?

j/k... don't answer that.

Papou · May 11, 2019

MattforJesus said:

Hence according to your argument, if you want to divorce then cheat on your spouse and after that you are good to go ! This shows your incorrect way of thinking ...

It certainly matter if the spouse is a drug addict, an abuser, a manipulator, a violent person and so on. It definitively matter and nobody has to endure such ordeals. A loving god would never ask his children to be punching bags....

tourist · May 11, 2019

LW97 said:

Divorce, if done legally for the right reason, is permitted by God in the Old and New Testaments.

Difference between “Putting Away” and “Legal Divorce” Putting away is just to kick someone out. That's why the Mark 10:4 account shows that even a woman can "PUT AWAY" (630. apoluó) her husband even though the Law of Moses only permits the HUSBAND to DIVORCE (647. apostasion) his wife (Deuteronomy 24:1). Now read these verses understanding the difference between these two words… - 630. apoluó: to set free, release Luke 16:17-18 (KJV) 17 And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail. 18 Whosoever "putteth away" (630. apoluó) his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. - 647. apostasion: a forsaking, (bill of) divorce Matthew 19:7 (KJV) They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement (647. apostasion), AND to put her away (630. apoluó)? Pharisees were “putting away” (630. apoluó) their wives for any cause WITHOUT giving them bills of divorcement (647. apostasies). Essentially, kicking them out and causing them too have to find someone to support them and fulfill their sexual needs. Without a final conclusion to the original marriage which was improperly handled by the husband, HE then causes her to commit technical adultery. The second husband should require to ask if she has been previously married and if so, present the certificate of divorce to make sure he is not marrying another man’s wife. Without one, she can’t move forward. What they should have been doing is abiding by both the words of Moses and Jesus which say the same exact thing. That ONLY for the case of sexual immorality can a husband DIVORCE his wife and then she can go remarry. Moses said this in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 and Jesus said this in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. Unlceaness is sexual immorality and Fornication is the equivalent of the definition in the Greek. Matter of fact, God Himself gave a CERTIFICATE of DIVORCEMENT to Israel in Jeremiah 3:8. It is possible to put away WITHOUT giving the certificate of divorce thereby not completing the command. The Pharisees did this as well with there woman caught in adultery (Jn 8:1-11), they brought only the woman and not the man so they didn’t completely obey the command and were ashamed. Jeremiah 3:8 (KJV) And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, AND given her a BILL OF DIVORCE; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. Deuteronomy 24:1-2 (KJV) 1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a BILL OF DIVORCEMENT, and give it in her hand, AND send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. Isaiah 50:1 (KJV) Thus saith the LORD, Where is the BILL OF YOUR MOTHER’S DIVORCEMENT whom I have put away? or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities have ye sold yourselves, and for your transgressions is your mother put away. Mark 10:4 (KJV) And they said, Moses suffered to write a BILL OF DIVORCEMENT, AND to put her away. Even in the Old Testement, the difference between “PUT AWAY” (7971. šal-laḥ) and giving a certificate of “DIVORCE” (3748. kə-rî-ṯuṯ) is obvious. Guess what God hates? Unjust PUTTING AWAY. - 7971. šal-laḥ: Send away - 3748. kə-rî-ṯuṯ: Divorce with certificate Malachi 2:16 (KJV) For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth PUTTING AWAY (7971. šal-laḥ,): for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. Deuteronomy 24:1-2 (KJV) 1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a BILL OF DIVORCEMENT (3748. kə-rî-ṯuṯ), and give it in her hand, AND SEND HER OUT (7971. šal-laḥ) of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. Adultery or unfaithfulness can break the marriage covenant. As does death. Israel being the example. Hense the Old and New covenants. Faithfulness is a condition that the marriage is built on. Ezekiel 16:38 (KJV) And I will judge thee, as women that BREAK WEDLOCK and shed blood are judged; and I will give thee blood in fury and jealousy.

...or they can just elope. My honey and I did our vows in Las Vegas. I wouldn't pay any attention at all on Moses take on marriage and divorce. Who needs all of that drama of the legal mumbo-jumbo. If a spouse cheats on the other the hurt spouse is free to divorce and remarry per the NT. There are other acceptable grounds for divorce and remarriage as well. Moses also said an eye for an eye but that's not the perception of Jesus. Of course, widows and widowers are free to remarry any time that they chose to do so. This really isn't that complicated.

1ofthem · May 11, 2019

Papou said:

I don't think he was saying that exactly. It's only if they cheat on you....You can't cheat on your husband or wife and then put them away for adultery, but if they cheat on you then you can divorce them.
Matthew 19:9

“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”

DeighAnn · Jun 19, 2019

If you believe the Word of God and that Word tells us that sin can be forgiven, THEN if have a change of heart, repent and askfor forgiveness through the blood of Jesus we are washed clean, and free to marry again from that state. Either you believe or you don't. Jesus sets us free, He doesn't bind us.

Waggles · Jun 19, 2019

tourist said:

Not according to Jesus

31 “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’
32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality [harlotry], makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 5:
8 He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for fornication, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Matthew 19:

p_rehbein · Jun 19, 2019

Regarding the question posed in the Title of the OP:

No............

tourist · Jun 19, 2019

Waggles said:

The thing is,, marriage is a contract between God, the man, and the woman that is valid and enforceable until death do they part. I believe that there are marriages that God did not join the two together, and as such, are not really valid marriages in the eyes of God in the first place.

Do you believe that those that have suffered horrible abuse in the first marriage and get a divorce have committed a sin? It states in the NT that in unequally yoked marriages, the unbeliever is free to leave the marriage. So there is at least one exception to what Jesus stated. Do you believe that in a loving and faithful remarriage after a divorce of a horrible first marriage that God would want that couple to now divorce, even though He hates divorce?

Yes, I do believe that under certain conditions besides adultery it is permissible to remarry without a sin committed.

dcontroversal · Jun 19, 2019

LW97 said:

If one cannot look at your pic and figure that out......well.....we do live in a seriously hosed up world hey mate......

Waggles · Jun 20, 2019

tourist said:

1: I concede that you may have a point in respect to civil weddings and the like - but if people make lifelong vows to each other
then the moral expectation is that vows ought to be honoured.
2: 1Corinthians 7 is the chapter on marriage, and it does not state that if an unbelieving spouse leaves a believer then one is
free to remarry.
One would be expected to live as a person separated from their married spouse - the scriptures still command that a
Christian disciple must remain faithful and righteous unto God.
Only if the unbelieving spouse commits adultery and/or remarries is a Christian free to remarry.

15 Yet if the unbelieving departeth, let him depart: the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath
called us in peace.
16 For how knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O husband, whether thou shalt
save thy wife?
1Corinthians 7:
my understanding of these verses is that the remaining faithful disciple is not under the marital bondage and need not leave the
church on account of an unbelieving spouse that wants to depart.
verse 16 I believe upholds the value of remaining as a separated spouse because one's faithfulness (and prayers) may well bring
back the unbelieving spouse to salvation.
This also fits in with what Jesus said about hating your mother and father, etc … for the gospel's sake.

Mii · Jun 20, 2019

It's a tricky issue. I have some personal issue with it being that my mother and father divorced (now deceased) and my mother remarried.

It always felt wrong to me even as a child but when I really think about it...it's between them and God. I can't really say.

I've brought it up...it feels "oldschool" and I'm a fan of the "oldschool" (biblically) but I can't expect people to share my views. They are covered or they are not. I'm not going to air dirty laundry on the net but her husband has forgiven her things that are biblically worthy or divorce and so it futher muddles the issue for me.

It's just weird. All I can hope and pray is that it isn't an issue for me and my future spouse.

Jackson123 · Jun 20, 2019

Seem to me divorce is permitted if your partner commit adultery or die. Or if your partner divorce you.

Rasputin_OZ · Jun 20, 2019

I am an adulterer as I have been married 3 times. I guess I going to hell.

Or do I simply ask for forgiveness and live in peace.

I am never sure perhaps this is why I have so many issues, divorce is the unforgivable sin

dcontroversal · Jun 20, 2019

Rasputin_OZ said:

If the sins of the flesh send people to hell.....everyone will bust it wide open upon death

Is remarriage always adultery?

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